Orgasm-less

I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend and we have had sex nearly 50 times. I am completely comfortable with him and we try many positions, and foreplay. I have NEVER had an orgasm with him. He gets so frustrated whenever he tries to get me off, and I want to come for him so bad but I just can't. I've tried to fake it but I can never get away with it. I don't let him go down on me anymore because it gives me minimal pleasure and I feel like he suffers with his face in my crotch. I don't think my body is sensitive enough. I've gotten off before, and I give him plenty of instruction we've tried almost everything. I guess the only way I get off around him if I jack-off myself.
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advice from Guest2456326 | 03-21-2008 17:57 | E : 1 | S : 0
why dont you just play with yourself (aka rub clit) while hes f_____ you? as a fellow non orgasam-er for a long time i can tell you it works for me... and it also helps if he bites on your ear while ur touching yourself
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advice from Guest2693478 | 03-18-2008 20:22 | E : 0 | S : 0
This is the story of so many women's lives, don't feel like there's something wrong with you for being the same. Unfortunately, because the women in porn do such an over the top job at faking it, men tend to feel as if there's something wrong with you or them if you're not reacting the same way. When he goes down on you remember he's not suffering, his sole purpose there is to satisfy you and in doing so, he's satisfied. One suggestion though on what's worked for me, tell him to forget the fingering and inserting his tongue inside you ..that does nothing but take away from the sensation that will get you there. Instead have him lick up and along your clit and once he's got you squirming wrap his mouth around it, suck and flick his tongue on it never losing suction. This is a guarantee even for those like me who are hard to orgasm.
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advice from Guest2699643 | 03-19-2008 13:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm a female who hates receiving oral sex, so you're not alone there. Fifty times is nothing, it took a very long time for me to be able to get there too with the guy who took my virginity four years ago and I'm still with. We stuck with it and it did happen. Now I'm having multiple orgasms every time.
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advice from Guest2726016 | 03-22-2008 11:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
You might be just focusing on the out come too much.
In Cosmo they always say don't think "I have to get off!" focus on the way your body feels.
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advice from Guest1194250 | 03-22-2008 19:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
I think one of your problems is one I had, you just think about it too much. It's become such a focal point that it becomes impossible.
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advice from Guest1555830 | 03-23-2008 12:12 | E : 0 | S : 0
its the very same with me :(
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advice from Guest2692726 | 03-23-2008 22:37 | E : 0 | S : 0
All i can say is maybe its not u....... maybe hes just really bad in bed. I mean u said u lost ur virginity to him so u wouldnt even know if he sucks or not lol no pun intended.
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advice from Guest2639907 | 03-24-2008 00:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
Oh, honey. It takes time and trust and sometimes you just can't come with a partner until you're a little bit older. At least you know you can get yourself off so you know there's nothing physically wrong. But if you feel guilty when he goes down on you ("I feel like he suffers with his face in my crotch") and he acts frustrated and put out by your inability to come, then I guarantee you aren't going to have an orgasm. That's too much pressure.
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advice from Guest2745595 | 03-24-2008 15:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
He shouldn't be getting frustrated with you. Some women simply can't reach orgasm from intercourse no matter how comfortable they may be. DO some research on the subject, most sex books will give you the exact %'s but it's more common that you think. He should be able to hold you while you do what you need to do. Don't ever fake it, with anyone, lying to people when they are emotionally exposed is hurtful and ultimately does no one any good. "Sex for Dummies" should help you.
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advice from Guest2747539 | 03-24-2008 19:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
Hey i thought this too... But i worked something out! When hes on top close ur legs.. not fully so ur trapping him but so tht there together.. It takes a while and u move too with him... I find it doesnt really happen when im really wet. But it takes around 10 minutes... And dont expect it to occur everytime. And hey only 17% of women can so... x
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advice from Guest2796683 | 03-28-2008 10:42 | E : 0 | S : 0
damn
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advice from Guest2811225 | 03-30-2008 02:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
besides the whole masterbation thing
i am in the same boat
and its so frustrating
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advice from Guest2829884 | 04-01-2008 01:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
try getting a vibrating penis ring. they are pretty awesome for both parties.

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