Secret Alcoholic

I just realized that im secretly an alcoholic.

My exwife and kids dont even know about it.

Every night I go to bed around 8pm and drink rum or scotch until around late at night. I often drink until early in the morning and wake up drunk. At a family function this weekend everyone was joking about how groggy and grumpy I am in the mornings.

When I look in the mirror I see an alcoholics face.

Im barely holding on. Im pretty sure that I will lose control when my kids move out in the next couple of years.
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advice from Guest1045627 | 11-03-2006 13:08 | E : 4 | S : 0
I feel for you. If you want, I would suggest give your local Alcoholics Anonymous office a call. They can be found in the phone book, online, of through 411. You can speak with them anonymously and ask questions or advice. I drank the same way you did and you do not have to feel the way you are feeling right now.
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advice from Guest1346161 | 12-01-2006 12:11 | E : 2 | S : 0
I quit drinking almost a year ago, it's hard..but it gets easier with time, and my life is better now than I was even capable of imagining before with the limited perspective I had.The hardest part is the anxiety and depression you feel when first quitting, which is actually a physical/psychological withdrawal symptom. If you have anyone you can talk to, you should, especially family or close friends...or even a doctor you trust..withdrawing from alcohol can be a huge stressor on your body and you should seek help if possible.
A.A. is there too, and you should at least try it for a while and see if it's right for you. The important thing is to do it as soon as possible,don't let another year go by...life is too short and the longer you drink the worse things are going to get.Good luck, and don't forget to enjoy your sobriety...there's a whole lot that life has to offer you if you're sober enough to take advantage of it.
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advice from Guest3253589 | 06-18-2007 10:00 | E : 2 | S : 0
My brother will die within the next day or two. Ten days ago I discovered that he is an alocholic. His close friends did not know. None of us knew , until he was admitted to the hospital for liver failure. My brother will die within the next day or two. It's killing the people that love him: his daughter, wife, parents, and many friends..and his fellow teachers at the middle school where he taught for over 20 years, including the day before he was admitted to the hospital. IF YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM GET HELP. YOU ARE LOVED, AND NEEDED IN THIS WORLD. DON'T PUT YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS THROUGH THIS PAIN. CALL AA NOW AND GET STARTED. You can do it, but you need help.
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advice from Guest824085 | 10-26-2006 11:02 | E : 1 | S : 0
I think you should seek help from your friends and family. I appreciate that you want to be strong for your family but it would be a huge gift to your kids to teach them to ask for help when it is needed.

I have known a few people that have recovered from alcoholism.
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advice from Guest1048034 | 11-03-2006 20:07 | E : 1 | S : 0
Get help NOW. Join AA to help you control your habit, and see a therapist to deal with the issues that are driving you to it. But don't let it wait--you need to deal with this before it gets out of hand and wreaks havoc in your and your family's lives. Good luck--I'm rooting for you.
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advice from Guest3106916 | 05-11-2007 07:50 | E : 1 | S : 0
LET YOUR FAMILY KNOW. YOU CAN'T GO THROUGH THIS ALONE, YOU NEED SUPPORT.

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advice from Guest886884 | 09-09-2007 23:23 | E : 1 | S : 0
GET OFF THIS TRAIN......don't wait for a tragedy. Too much is at stake here. I stayed on way too long. What you don't realize is how distorted your way of thinking has become. Get help from someone who knows what to do. AA is free. Don't wait for the "right" time. Lots of us had to "quit" more than once before we became successful. If you think you are going to wake up one day and be thrilled to quit.....don't count on it. Follow the path of others who have been successful and your chances will improve. Why would you journey into the great unknown without a map? Besides, if you don't like getting better, you can always go back to what you've got now or even worse. GET MOVING, Time's awasting!
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advice from Guest1209356 | 11-19-2006 22:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
Alcoholism can not be hidden. They know and won't tell you for fear of confrontation or just because they truely love you and thinf they are helping you by keeping your secret. Your whole family has a drinking problem not just you. All of you need to come clean and face the issue and help each other through. That is what a true loving family does. Every alchoholic thinks that nobody knows. Trust me, someone does.
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advice from Guest1871910 | 01-10-2007 19:49 | E : 1 | S : 1
I lost controll, and i cant get it back. Im drunk 30 minutes after i get off work, and all day when i am off. It sucks my money, time, and life away from me. I know how you feel, and i dont have any answers for you. Im just another person out there that feels like you do- you really hit me with your"i go to bed around 8" statement, because i get off work around 6 and i usually pass out near 8. not that im tired, i just get drunk. sorry if im no help, but my life is a mess too, im here with you if that comforts you.
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advice from Guest3001504 | 04-26-2007 19:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
i am in the same boat. except i'm 16
i steal my dads alchohol and drink almost every night
NO ONE KNOWS
all kids drink from time to time ( once a month maybe )
but i do when ever i can with friends usually without
no one knows, its a secret. i do it while my dad is upstairs.
i'm a failure
my moms a drunk, i'm getting there

but i can't stop
for those few hours time stops
to be honest i am drunk right know
4 beers in 10 minutes. the usual its 10:12pm on thursday
i have school tomorrow.
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advice from Guest3097736 | 05-08-2007 00:16 | E : 0 | S : 0
I know how ya feel. Make a nice irish coffee on the way to work, have a beer or two (or more) on lunch break, and it only gets worse when you get home. I can't tell you how to stop drinking, but I can tell you that if you don't you'll end the up the same way as me, and most of my family. Dead, dying, or disgusting.

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advice from Guest3182647 | 05-30-2007 08:42 | E : 0 | S : 0
have you tried going to an AA meeting? And just an FYI...everyone who knows you knows you have a problem...they just don't know yet how to approach the problem...
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advice from Guest1365684 | 11-08-2007 04:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
My dad always denied that he was an alcoholic but I always knew the truth, you kids most likely know, get better for them before they look down upon you like I did my dad

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advice from Guest1210470 | 11-22-2006 09:52 | E : 0 | S : 1
I know most people would say go to rehab...but I would try to seek help first from your family. Think about it...when did this so-called alcoholism start? Did you drink this much when you and your wife were together and had no problems? Or did it begin when your marriage fell apart and you turned to alcohol to drown your sorrows...if it's the former, then I say check yourself into rehab NOW. But if it's the latter, then get the number of your local AA and keep in the drawer but before calling them, talk to someone whom you care about and whom you know cares about you too...a best friend, your dad, a brother, a cousin, someone you know you can count on. From your post it seems that your using alcohol to fill the void left by your wife instead of moving on and perhaps loving again because you're scared to get hurt yet again. You need to get over that fear. If and when you do, and I'm not gonna kid you that it'll be hard, I'm pretty sure your so-called "alcoholism" will disappear.
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advice from Guest1141289 | 10-13-2007 02:56 | E : 0 | S : 1
You'll hit bottem and everyone will find out or you'll check youself into a rehab and everyone will find out. You're down the rabbit hole now and there's nothing to do but hold on.

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advice from Guest1751086 | 01-02-2007 00:35 | E : 0 | S : 2
You think they don't know about it. If your kids live with you they know.

Try being a man, get your nose out of the bottle and spend some quality time with your kids.
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advice from Guest966432 | 10-26-2006 09:42 | E : 0 | S : 4
You are your own worst enemy.
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