Wrong Parent Died 1st

I wish that my mother had died in 2005 and not my father. I am 45 and loathe my mother. I have disliked her since I was child. Now I am supposed to be looking out for her, but I find her personality as odious as ever! I can only thank her for showing me how NOT to behave as a parent. I am not blaming her for something going wrong in my life because my life is good with my 2 girls and husband of 17 years. I just can't stand her and her self-centered world she has lived in all my life! I have to drink a glass of wine before calling her once a week. Visting her is hell. I don't want to understand her or confront her. I simply would like her to get remarried and go away. Wishful thinking. I'd like to know that I am not alone.
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advice from Guest898623 | 10-29-2007 23:36 | E : 5 | S : 0
Honey, you are NOT alone. I am with you! We all need to come to the reality that giving birth doesn't make one a mother. Your loyalty and love should go to the ones who have earned it! We need to stop assuming parents are automatically entitled to treat their kids like crap just because of donated sex cells- and we, as children, also need to get out from under the assumption we're obligated to put up with it. God hands us children for us to nurture- not to wipe our feet on. I know you're hurting because I do too. I don't know why we got what we got- I just know it makes us better moms.

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advice from Guest2468392 | 02-26-2008 22:02 | E : 5 | S : 0
It scared me to read this, i feel the same way my dad has passed and i think frequently how i wish it was my mother she is so self-centered and has done nothing but show me how i don't want to be, i wish she would stop contacting me because all she does is put me down because i am happy.
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