Abandaned Loveless

Every Time(as in twice) I find a girl, well the first one was exactly what I am looking for in every way, and I am really picky. But like once she asked me to meet her parents for New Years, It was the most amazing news of my life. She then told me she was raped. After I left, we haven't had a conversation sense. I waited 10 days, wrote her a real letter and sent it. And that freaked her out more, then I kept trying to think of what I could say to make her not upset at me, but the harder I tried, the more she hates me. I want to move on, but after every new date, or fling that doesn't work out just reminds me how they weren't even close to as special as the first girl that abandoned me. How do you move on?
Category Betrayal

advice from Guest1722563 | 01-02-2007 16:42 | E : 1 | S : 0
It must have been difficult for her telling you such a personal and horrific thing such as rape. I think she will be troubled mentally from this and will find it very difficult to trust men, you did the right thing by writing her a letter, i dont know why she freaked out over it. If this girl really was special to you, i suggest you try again to contact her, maybe arrange to meet up for a civil coffee and a chat. Tell her you completely understand how difficult it was for her to tell you that she'd been raped. But if you think it was in anyway a thing she said to put you off her (she made it up) i wouldnt bother worrying yourself, i know some people seem perfect, like they were made just for you. You just have to use your head along with your heart, to decide whether it was love or that she met so many of your criteria in women.
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advice from Guest1751086 | 01-01-2007 23:14 | E : 0 | S : 0
There is nothing you can do to make her accept you if she has chosen to reject you. Nothing. That's her choice, let her be and let her find her own way.

That being said, moving on isn't easy, time is the only real answer if you really loved her. Look for other people and enjoy life in general and you'll find that one day you just don't feel like you used to.
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advice from Guest2377356 | 02-20-2007 16:28 | E : 0 | S : 0
Try collecting some information about free counseling and anonymous help lines, etc ... deliver the envelope with a nice card saying that you're ready to talk and help any way she wants and give it to her with some yellow flowers (friendship).
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