advise me or find me a partner

I am a man aged 50 got married 22 yeas ago to a girl 4 years elder to me. it isa love marraige.had 2 children and on is married and another one studying.
basically my wife little traditional but higly educated and attached to family.
My problem of late is my wife not at all getting intereted in sex life. she gets irritated if I open the topicc.But unfortunately I am in need of this atleast weekly once and still acitve.I have no bad habits and no vices.
Inspite of my high position and wll settled life as a senior professional.I am really furustrated,
Though I have discussed this many times with her she is unable to undertstand and calls me a sex pervert.
What is the real solution for this.
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advice from Guest1012674 | 09-24-2007 10:16 | E : 0 | S : 0
Well...you could masturbate in the shower to take care of your 'frustration' but of course, that really doesn't replace the closeness of intercourse.

I don't think that intercourse once a week equals perversion, honestly, but that's just my opinion.

As women age, their sex drive can diminish, and for most women, sex starts IN THEIR MINDS FIRST. How much time do you spend together doing things that SHE enjoys? Do you show her affection in other, non-sexual ways? How often?

Is your wife menopausal? Menopause can wreak some serious havoc on women, to the point where sex is the least of their concerns. Has she shared anything with you about how she's been feeling lately? If not, then you need to ASK.

Sometimes men, bless them, can be pretty self-focused...it sounds like this could be more than just you not getting enough sex for your taste...find out what's really going on with your wife of 22 years...TALK to her...and NOT about SEX...you'd be surprised how responsive women can be when they are really LISTENED to, and feel cared about, not just for their role in the relationship, but for themselves, as individuals...
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advice from Guest898623 | 09-24-2007 12:19 | E : 0 | S : 0
Go back to basics- let sex go for the moment and romance her MIND- date her, woo her. And NOT just so you can have sex- be SINCERE. You have to make her feel and believe SHE is the only woman in the world for you. Surprise her with little things. And don't expect this to open her up overnight. It probably took a while to get here- it will take a while to get back out. Have patience and remember why you married her in the first place. A woman's biggest sex organ is her BRAIN- you have to get IT stimulated before you ever get physical. That can take moments or it can take months- it depends on how big a rut you've dug into. The point is to not ensure just YOUR needs are met. She has to know that you would still be fascinated with her even if you never had sex again. When a woman KNOWS this without a doubt, when there is emotional trust, she'll be all for sex. She may even show you a thing or two.
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