always

i've loved him for 8+ years, waited 5 years for our lives to be in a stage where we could be together. it was bliss, perfect love, we felt like we would burst from the feelings of deep love we shared. he promised always and so did i, he promised he would never leave me knowing i'd been abandoned before.

i'm alone now, he broke every promise he ever made, and now i clearly see the destructive patterns of his life repeating over and over.
why do i still love him? he hurt me and now won't even speak to me, he betrayed me and acts like it was my fault. he's turned his back on friends and family as well as me.
why do i still love him? if he came back with sincere remorse and apology, why would take him into my arms again and kiss him and love him?
questions and more questions I ask myself every day...knowing there will probably never be an answer or any closure.
I promised always...and i can't break my promise.
PFG please come home, please come back to me.....
Category Betrayal

advice from Guest2796709 | 04-08-2007 01:23 | E : 2 | S : 0
believe me when I say this: I know what your going through. My boyfriend also dumbed me and stopped talking to me for no reason. He make me fall in love with him and promised we would be together for a long time and then...after a year and a half nothing. It will take forever to get over. If anything think about everything you want in a relationship and think about what you want in a man...now think to your ex...is that REALLY your dream man?

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advice from Guest3152089 | 05-21-2007 20:38 | E : 2 | S : 0
The thing is, You have to accept the fact that you will never truly be able to let go of him, or stop caring about him..
But there is a differnce between letting go, and drowning yourself in him....over and over again.

It's alright to feel the way you do.
Just dont let it run your life.
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advice from Guest2963112 | 05-05-2007 23:05 | E : 1 | S : 0
You would take him back because his love is still fresh in your head. With time, these feelings will pass. I too went through this. Give it time, and he will fade, as well as the love you once felt for him.

Then you will re-evaluate the situation and decide he was not worthy of you and you are glad it is over.

Trust me, it will happen. Just give it time.

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advice from Guest3174157 | 05-27-2007 23:47 | E : 1 | S : 0
You don;t love him, you love the dream hat you made up in your mind about a life with him. But that was a dream created by you. His promises? Who does not make promises when in love? But love could end. Self esteem you build day by day. You don't need him you just need to undress yourself from that dream.
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advice from Guest3199315 | 06-03-2007 17:43 | E : 1 | S : 0
After while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
and you learn that love requires learning and company doesnt mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses arent contracts and presents arent promises. You begin to accept your defeats with you head up and your eyes open with the grace of an adult not grief of a child.
You learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid height.
After a while you learn that even the sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your own garden, decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers,
And you learn that you really can endure, that you are really strong and you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn, after a while
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advice from Guest2570713 | 03-30-2007 15:28 | E : 0 | S : 0
WHY DO YOU WANT HIM BACK WHAT ABOUT YOU AND UR HAPPINESS DID HE THINK ABOUT YOU NO DID HE LEAVE YOU ALL ALONE WHEN YOU NEEDED HIM YES...MOVE ON MOVE ON DONT BE LIKE ALL THE OTHER BE STRONG
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advice from Guest2973592 | 05-04-2007 22:17 | E : 1 | S : 1
forget about him as quickly as you can !

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advice from Guest3203241 | 06-05-2007 05:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
love is constant, love is pure, love is true. your closure is with you. accepting that people are who they are. we are all living, learning, growing and changing. if he elected to not be with you, can you love him anyhow? accepting that things change, loving someone also means respecting thier choice. if you love him then that would mean you want him to be happy and ejoy life (with you or without you). love is about accepting the fact other people have their own roads to travel (weather rocky / smooth) and we must enjoy and appreciate what we have while we have it. being mature enough to accept and embrace change is difficult for most anyone, yet change is the only thing that is constant. and change is the only thing we can count on. the day / night/ the moon / the ocean tide / the weather the seasons..... these things are lessons to us. and we all have things to learn from our experiences in life, look to yourself, how to learn and grow from this experience.....ask yourself, "what have i learned about myself through this process"?, "what choices will i make that are different"? from this point in my life and on into the future. so love him, let him be, don't hold expectations that put you in some anxiously waiting until........let it be. and focus on loving you and those around you.

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advice from Guest1407200 | 11-12-2007 00:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
I know exactly what your goin through. Its hard and it hurts.

Im still waiting for my ex-boyfriend to come back. Its been more than 6months since he left me for another girl.We were together for 6years.

We're no longer on speaking terms and when he sees me im not even worth a friendly hello. I feel like i dont exist to him.

Despite what he put me through im still in love with him. I still consider him my bestfriend even if the feelings not mutual.

i think about all the pain he put me through yet i dont hate him.

I hope that one day, he'll realise what we had and come back. I pray every single day that he will.

YOu're not in this alone. You'll get through it and i hope he'll come back to you too.
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