ashamed to kiss-n-tell

im 14 years old and only in 9th grade. ive only kissed one boy. first we just kissed, then (using sexual baseball) we went to "2nd" then "3rd"...i only gave him head because he kept telling me he loved me...but now i think he was lying because i ased him if we wud still be together next school year, and he said "its too far away, i dont know..."...and now he wants to tell his friends that he got head, and from me....he wants me to tell my friends, too....but they don't really like him, and they all have only kissed a boy or only gone...they all think our health class is nasty when my teacher talks about sexual stuff, like blow jobs and fingering...but i dont want them to find out from someone else...but i still want to be friends with them...how on earth do i tell them without them thinking im a slut...?
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advice from Guest3239160 | 06-14-2007 12:11 | E : 1 | S : 0
Same thing happened to me this year [i'm a 9th grader too]
My advice to you is to tell your friends what happened. Tell them the WHOLE truth. Because I didn't tell anyone and the guy i did stuff with said he wouldn't tell anyone & then the next day at school everyone was calling me a slut. Apparently he told people that we had sex even though the most I did with him was give him head.
So you should deffinatly set the record straight first.
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advice from Guest3212246 | 06-08-2007 04:03 | E : 1 | S : 1
Be completely honest with them. It's better coming from you. Tell them you f_____ up and you thought he loved you. By the way, take it from an older person that boys will say ANYTHING to get you to give them what they want. Don't f___ them (Or anything else) just because they keep saying, "I love you." 80% of the time they're just saying that to get something from you.

Do yourself a favor and stay away from boys until you're a couple years older, okay?
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advice from Guest2711901 | 06-09-2007 19:03 | E : 2 | S : 2
Sweet heart, thats your personal business, and you shouldnt feel obligated to tell anyone, keep it to your self and i would advise him to do the same.

But just to tell you one thing, at fourteen you dont know what love is, and im sure he doesnt eaither.
A guy will say anything to get in your pants.
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advice from Guest3223294 | 06-10-2007 22:44 | E : 1 | S : 1
the same thing happened to me when i was 13. I'm 17 now. and believe me, 3 years from now, it will be a lesson learned. If you have to worry about your friends shunning you for it instead of supporting you, it's time to find new friends.
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advice from Guest3272484 | 06-22-2007 15:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
if they're honestly your "friends" theyre not gonna judge you or say anything ignorant. they should be there to help you; not talk shit. i dont care WHAT the excuse is, if a boy truly "loves" you like he says he would NEVER force you or talk you into doing something you dont want to do. if your not comfortable , dont do it. what pleasure do YOU get from giving HIM head? never let a boy take advantage of you, your too good for that. maybe you and him shouldnt be together, you need someone who is going to respect you. he shouldnt be telling anyone what goes on between you guys physically. good luck hunny.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 06-23-2007 04:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
You don't have to tell them. YOur friends do not need to know everything about you. Next time he brings up that he wants to tell his mates, just tell him that you will deny it. Pretend it never happened. High school is hard. Your friends sound difficult... you do not need to be made to feel like you've done something wrong, because you haven't. Forgive yourself and stop worrying about what other people will think of you.
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advice from Guest3280749 | 06-24-2007 14:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
The same think happened to me at your age. I told my friends and at first they didnt understand at all. But after a few months they began to understand and being supportive. So i suggest you tell your friends.
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advice from Guest3284431 | 06-25-2007 10:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
At 14 sexual things should be the last thing on your mind. Take your time growing up. Life will come at you soon enough and you will miss your childhood. If you are ashamed to tell friends then maybe you shouldnt be doing what you are doing. Tell the guy to keep his mouth shut. May I suggest you do the same on both accounts. YOu will soon learn people(not just guys) will tell you anything to get what they want then move on to the next one. Stay a kid for as long as you can hon!
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advice from Guest3288379 | 06-26-2007 12:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
the same thing happened to me
i hate the guy now
and my friends were always there for me
if they are really your friends
you shouldn't have a problem
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advice from Guest3290646 | 06-26-2007 23:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
if he really loved you he wouldnt have to think if you would be together a year from then. Love isnt a maybe thing.
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advice from Guest3290646 | 06-26-2007 23:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
if he really loved you he wouldnt have to think if you would be together a year from then. Love isnt a maybe thing.
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advice from Guest3293773 | 06-27-2007 14:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
you need to tell your friends, and if they really are not wanting you to do that, then you probably shouldn't. they are just looking out for you and may know what's best for you. you will regret doing things like that with boys when you are older, and hun, he doesnt love you. he is in love with the idea of being in love. he's 14 or 15, he doesn't know what love is!
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advice from Guest3213239 | 06-08-2007 10:56 | E : 0 | S : 1
You are way to young you have your hole life for sex and sexual behaviors you need to worry about school and being 14 right now and when you are older and can handle and understand fully than you will find the right partner for yourself
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advice from Guest3223294 | 06-10-2007 22:45 | E : 0 | S : 1
the same thing happened to me when i was 13. I'm 17 now. and believe me, 3 years from now, it will be a lesson learned.If you have to worry about your friends shunning you for it instead of supporting you, it's time to find new friends.
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advice from Guest3250617 | 06-17-2007 14:29 | E : 0 | S : 1
Im 15 right now. and the same EXACT thing is happening to me. it's really hard to tell my friends the things ive done without being shunned. Just, know that your not alone on this one. =/
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advice from Guest3264369 | 06-20-2007 20:23 | E : 0 | S : 1
Health class should not talk about blow jobs and fingering
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