Bestfriends?

She's my bestfriend, but I feel like she uses me. She only calls when she wants something. She treats me like in an idiot. She gives me no repect. I love her, but somethings gotta change. And the worst part is, I can't even talk to her about it. She'll just get pissed and ignore it. It's like she doesn't even care.
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advice from Guest851888 | 09-02-2007 11:00 | E : 2 | S : 0
she sounds horrid! Ive had a friend like that an you know what!
orget her
you sound like a great person so theyll be more people out there who want to be your bessie!

if she ignores you then she doesnt care and she doesnt deserve you
people like that feed on weaknesses she feels that you nee her
show her you dont and shell realise.
when she calls tell her your busy wiht real frineds and shell get the message
if she doesnt change then shell leave you
either way things woill be better
good luckxx
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advice from Guest855226 | 09-02-2007 22:36 | E : 2 | S : 0
Talk to her and make her listen, if she isn't willing to hear you out then it isn't worth the trouble.
Don't ever let anyone take advantage of you or make you feel insignificant and anyone who tries isn't worth your time.
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advice from Guest884723 | 09-06-2007 20:11 | E : 2 | S : 0
I had a friend like this from first grade through high school. It wasn't until I went to a large public school that I found real friends, friends who would never treat me like that. She controlled almost every aspect of me, including who I was friends with. We shared a lot, school, dance classes, summer camp, etc. and it wasn't until we were away from one another that I saw what a terrible person she was. Get out of the relationship as quickly as you can. Everyone deserves friends that care about them and she isn't one of those friends, trust me. You are in an emotionally abusive relationship and need to get out.

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advice from Guest3249413 | 09-08-2007 14:19 | E : 1 | S : 0
My best friend is just like that. Maybe it's time we bioth forget about them. Its like your always there for them but they are no where to be seen when you need them. What kind of friend is that. Just tell if they dont listen forget it sounds easier then it actually is but now that ive wrote this out, im going to go tell my friend im done with her unless she stops being like that. GOOD LUCK!!
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advice from Guest825062 | 08-29-2007 01:01 | E : 1 | S : 1
you dont need her. be the stronger one and you make the change, dont leave it up to her to change. if she cant change then she isnt your best friend.
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advice from Guest1971033 | 09-01-2007 22:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
dude people like that suck
just think in 10 yrs you probally
wont know
tell her she isnt being sweet
and your not putting up with that shit
cause you have so many better things to do
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advice from Guest853503 | 09-02-2007 16:42 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had a friend like that, and I stoped answering her phone calls.... Life is so much better with out her. But I miss her.
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advice from Guest859590 | 09-03-2007 13:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
I have a "bestfriend" like that.

Worst part is I tell her and she denys it and gets mad that I feel that way.
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advice from Guest3568229 | 09-03-2007 15:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
I feel kinda the same way with my bestfriend. Somehow it's like we both feel that way about eachother, if that makes sense. Try talking to her about it or she's not really your best friend.
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advice from Guest863848 | 09-04-2007 01:33 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had a "friend" like that in high school and now, at 33, I regret letting her treat me like she did. I wish I had stopped trying to make her like me enough to treat me well, when she actually didn't treat anyone well. She acted the way she did, rude and aggressive, because she had low self-esteem and hated herself. I know that now, and I feel sorry for her.
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advice from Guest869498 | 09-04-2007 21:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
if she wont even listen to how you feel then shes not that great of a friend
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advice from Guest907430 | 09-09-2007 22:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
im in the same situation...its a lonely place.
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advice from Guest1056941 | 10-01-2007 02:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
i have a friened like that but she only ast liek that sometimes. we have great times together and i love her!!! but i just feel liek she is using me sometimes...i done know what to do either i ant to talk to her bout it...but she will get mad. but if she dosnt accept your feelings for what they are then she dosnt deserve you for a friend.
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advice from Guest1084655 | 10-11-2007 03:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
see her less and less. wrap yourself up in other activities. this will help with the lonleyness that might happen when she is not around. good luck!!! I agree this is an emotionaly abusive relationship.
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advice from Guest3607349 | 01-22-2008 07:04 | E : 0 | S : 0
Every time say, she asks to borrow your mascara or something, just say you dont have any. If she asks to borrow money, just say you dont have any. She'll get the message soon enough x
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advice from Guest2180105 | 01-26-2008 15:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
I also had a friend like that. I say "had" because she eventually showed her true colors and got with my boyfriend right in front of me.

The only good thing that came out of it was that I will NEVER see that messed up cow again.

Dont wait until things get worse to drop that "friend".
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advice from Guest2379248 | 03-05-2008 17:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had one of those type of friends myself. She was only interested in herself, her children, her life, she'd tuned out when I'd start to talk or contradict everything I said. If I didn't keep in touch with her there wouldn't have been a friendship. I'm in the process of getting a divorce and guess what I found out?? She and my husband (we were dating at the time) however, she was married to one of my husband's best-friends... they got together one night while her husband and I were both out of town... I always had suspicions, now I will always listen to my intuition. Who needs enemies with "friends" like this??
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advice from Guest850384 | 09-02-2007 04:17 | E : 0 | S : 1
i know how you feel and have been wondering the same thing forever...
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