big brother?

i didn't respond to your text message, and then you died of a heroin overdose. it's now one year later and i know that if i had gotten back to you you would still be alive.
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advice from Guest2123891 | 01-20-2008 09:16 | E : 2 | S : 0
You can never know that for sure and blaming yourself isn't going to bring your brother any joy. I know it's hard, but try forgiving yourself before the guilt kills you too.
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advice from Guest2160970 | 01-24-2008 12:10 | E : 1 | S : 0
Addiction is addiction, unless a person is really ready to abandon the drug once and for all - sometimes, that can only happen when the person falls in love, has a child, gets locked up, etc ... maybe he would have lived another day, week, month - but if he was determined to OD then trust me - it would have happened anyway. You have nothing to apologize for, live your life as best you can. Study, work, live and one day when you're celebrating a special moment give a brief toast - to my big bro, we love you, we miss you, we never forget you.

Good Luck!
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advice from Guest2100268 | 01-17-2008 18:02 | E : 0 | S : 0
dont blame yourself
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advice from Guest2187007 | 01-27-2008 10:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
heartbreaking - i am so sorry for ur loss!
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advice from Guest2212109 | 01-30-2008 07:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
you can't say that..heroin is a drug/demon of its own..you can't save junkies..its a deeply depressing drug..all consuming..i know you love your bro and guilt is normal, but its not fair of you to think you have control over someones life or death..this is just how it happened and it has nothing to do with you..some of my friends are in recovery some are dead.
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advice from Guest2218051 | 01-30-2008 20:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
God has a plan for you. God knew you before you were conceived. Your life and death was decided before you born. The same was true for your brother. Pray for God to help you through this. You will be amazed by what happens.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 02-01-2008 08:42 | E : 0 | S : 0
I think that when your time in this world is up, it is up and there is nothing you can do about it. Stop being in anguished blaming yourself for something over which you had no control.
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advice from Guest3420550 | 02-02-2008 01:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
you don't know that! if not that night, then it could have happened another night. don't blame yourself for something out of your control.
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advice from Guest2231577 | 02-03-2008 19:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
dont blame yourself, your brother would want you to be happy wouldnt he? its not your fault...
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advice from Guest2223435 | 02-05-2008 13:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
My dear friend had schizzophrenia. She had been on meds, and had gotten better, but over time, something happened, and she started downhill again. No one wanted to admit it, we all kept hoping that she was okay. I had gotten where I couldn't answer her calls so often because she was going over the same things again and again. Then her mom called to tell me she had come home to find my friend in the tub, dying from an overdose of tylenol, and slit wrists and neck. She died two days later. I was overcome w/ guilt because of ignoring her phone calls, but really, over time, I let myself off the hook about it. I try to remember all the wonderful things about my friend, and realize that it isn't on my timeframe that people die. It wouldn't have helped her stay alive one more minute if I had taken that last call. And truly, she is probably much happier now, certainly free of the voices, and the horrors of her illness. I miss her still.
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advice from Guest2268274 | 02-06-2008 04:32 | E : 0 | S : 0
It was his time to go. Don't let the guilt get to you. I know that is easier said than done. I was on bad terms with my father when he died in a car accident not too long ago and I still feel guilty everyday. I know it's hard but try to look past it. Your brother isn't suffering from the addiction now. You didn't know that this was going to happen and I don't think a text message could have saved his life anyway. I'm praying for you.
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advice from Guest2140198 | 01-21-2008 14:43 | E : 0 | S : 1
same
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