BREAK my heart

I want to experience life to the fullest. I have for the most part. I'm 24 and in graduate school, I've lived in 5 different countries, traveled, have good friends, tried some drugs, partied, etc.

But, I've never been heartbroken. I know most people would say it's a wonderful thing and that I'm crazy for wanting it, but to me it just means that I'm missing out on something. I know it sound strange, but I truly do want to know how it feels like. It seems to me that I've been living in a bubble. I do it to myself too though; it's kinda related to my lack of commitment. Any time things start to get semi-serious with a guy I'll make excuses and run the other way. It's like I'm protecting myself from precisely the very thing I want to experience.

(it was hard to categorize this one)
Category Romance

advice from Guest3342602 | 09-19-2007 15:32 | E : 2 | S : 0
I used to be like-minded, but here's what I have found to be true: a person cannot truly have their heart broken unless they don't want it to be. The heart-brokeness comes from all the hope and happiness of a happy relationship being snatched away. Having said that, I think that nobody has lived until they've had their heart broken. The only problem is most people don't want to live after it's done.
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advice from Guest1135546 | 11-01-2007 14:49 | E : 1 | S : 0
I AM THE ONE WHO WROTE THIS SECRET.

I don't know why I run away. Maybe because I question everything and wonder what else is out there. Maybe because I think life is too short and I don't want to miss out on anything. I did have a somewhat "sheltered" upbringing, but somehow I managed to get past through it have all this "life experience". I am that person people go to for advice.

I am currently attracted to a guy who has made it clear he doesn't want a relationship. The ironic part is that I believe that with him, I think I wouldn't run. But I guess I won't know for sure.

To the person who suggested I see a psychiatrist:
I have thought about it. But I've never really gotten around to it. Maybe I'm afraid of what I might learn about myself, as I am quite happy with who and how I am at the moment. (And no, no history of sexual or any other type of abuse. I've been very lucky and have had a great life thus far).

To the person who said that I may have witnessed heartbreak:
You may be on to something. I am quite emotional sometimes, like crying when athletes win at the Olympics, or crying for victims of natural disasters or violent conflict. Maybe I am protecting myself...

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advice from Guest974301 | 09-19-2007 02:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
I envy your position. I have broken the hearts of two wonderful men. I am known as this super nice woman, but when it comes to relationships I fumble.
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advice from Guest1014186 | 09-24-2007 18:12 | E : 0 | S : 0
I do this. Except I've mangled some hearts on the way. I'm trying to settle down now, and find that I just don't know how.
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advice from Guest1237714 | 10-24-2007 17:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
o girl. trust me. i know you've heard it before. but THIS SHIT SUX. my bf of bout 5 yrs (on and off) broke up with me for good bout a month ago. i sometimes go all day without eating. i drink all the time. i smoke pot again, when i said i'd quit. it kills you. it makes you feel so small and miserable and like you don't even matter. how can someone who says they love you do that?? that's how you'll feel, that's what you'll wonder. your not missing out. ur LUCKY
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advice from Guest1267049 | 10-28-2007 07:14 | E : 0 | S : 0
It sounds like you're afraid of a real relationship. You're afraid it will get too serious so you want it to end or you stop it before it starts. You might have trust issues. A history of sexual abuse? Maybe you should see a psychiatrist.

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advice from Guest1271146 | 10-28-2007 19:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
It is not a good feeling and when you stop running away it willl happen, almost all people that have been in a relationship have experienced it. I think you need to search yourself, ask why you run away from, want let yourself involved, you may find that you witness heartbreak and really don't want what you have seen in other, but keep living and lovin it will happen.

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advice from Guest1433759 | 11-13-2007 23:09 | E : 1 | S : 1
You can break your own heart. I do it all the time to stay grounded. Think about the 1 thing/person you love most in this world, now think about losing that person/thing in all the most brutal, random, harsh bizzare ways that you can possibly concoct in you mind. Let that feeling consume you. Make yourself believe that you've lost it....you'll feel it now...the ache in your chest...the tears whelling up, the emptiness. and personally I get a bad tingly sensation in my left hand it starts at my fingers and trembles through my arm and then explodes like tiny needles in my heart. Almost like a heart attack.

Anywho, heartache sucks but i know what its like to yearn for it and despise it too.

Wish you all the best.
Take Care.
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advice from Guest1449343 | 11-15-2007 04:04 | E : 0 | S : 0
The irony of it is beautiful. All I can say is that you have never been in love, and that is okay. Along the way I can almost promise that you will fall in love and have your heart broken several times, so be careful what you wish for! Just remember that you have to let fate take its path.
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advice from Guest1449343 | 11-15-2007 04:04 | E : 1 | S : 1
The irony of it is beautiful. All I can say is that you have never been in love, and that is okay. Along the way I can almost promise that you will fall in love and have your heart broken several times, so be careful what you wish for! Just remember that you have to let fate take its path.
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advice from Guest1454842 | 11-15-2007 16:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
I used to want to know what this felt like too, for some strange reason. I was in a 5 year relationship, that I thought would never end and was kinda disappointed by that b/c I wouldnt know what it would feel like to break up and be heart broken (cause this was my first serious relationship) I ended the relationship a year ago, and it was the right thing to do. But trust me, being heartbroken is the worst feeling I've ever felt and it would be better not to know the feeling. If you never feel it, you're lucky, but rare.
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advice from Guest1486379 | 11-18-2007 11:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
ive longed to be heartbroken before
i am in love with a beautiful wonderful man and now i realize that it is not a necessity in life for me to be heartbroken some day
it felt really good to say that!
it is kind of you to want to be empathetic to others that have been heartbroken- but you probably have enough hardships in your life. if you have commitment issues- when you find the man/woman/person you love- it will hopefully disappear!
peace to you...
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advice from Guest1060015 | 11-19-2007 14:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
It's ironic you want your heartbroke.. especially considering the fact that there are other young girls on here threatening suicide over heartbreak. Well sweetie.. you have to give your heart in order for it to be broken. Also, if you want to know what it feels like.. have your best friend punch you in the stomach a few times, then cringe when you see a couple together, and at this point have your friend then punch you again. Cry on their shoulder, complain about the pain, and repeat the process for however long your imaginary relationship was. You'll get the idea...it isn't pleasant. Personally, as a soon to be graduate student myself.. you seem self-absorbed...your life sounds very adventerous, but you also seem like your running from something. And I'm guessing its yourself. The nice girls have to deal with these broken hearted guys, girls like you have help create. I have no sypmathy for you. In all your travels your have forgotten one thing.... and that is to grow up.
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advice from Guest1108137 | 11-19-2007 16:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
I used to feel like that in a way. Then my boyfriend dumped me and I went through 2 months of hating myself and him so much I nearly self-destructed. Maybe it is something everyone should go through...but be careful what you wish for.
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advice from Guest1501814 | 11-19-2007 23:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
i hope you'll find this comforting, if nothing else. I gonig through exactly the same thing with girls. Every time there's a slightest hint of going steady i get a panic attack and only just manage enough self control not to start runnig away immediately.
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advice from Guest1436472 | 11-22-2007 11:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
Girl...it is like this: You don't know what you've got, until you loose it. If you do not get your heart broken, you will never appreciate a good man in your life. I lost my ex-boyfriend (6.5 year relationship) because I was still too young and needed to experience life, now I still love him, and life? life is ok...was it worth it??? maybe I will know at the end of the road...
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advice from Guest1084894 | 10-06-2007 07:09 | E : 0 | S : 3
My heart have been broken. It's not a good feeling. Please...Don't be heart broken.
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advice from Guest1372314 | 11-09-2007 14:59 | E : 0 | S : 8
You are 24 and have not even begun to live (grad schools and drugs do not constitute a life). Have no worries...if you are as shallow as your post sounds, you will be heartbroken many times...quite possibly in the end when no one wants to have you around.

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