Broken

I am married I have fallen in love with another man. The man has the same feelings. I want to leave my husband but I dont want to hurt him. The other man and I have never had any sexual contact. We have just got to know each other and we want the same thing out of life. I really dont know what to do. I could live the rest of my life with my husband and miss out on everything I have ever wanted or I could break my husbands heart.
Category Romance

advice from Guest821011 | 02-08-2007 22:50 | E : 1 | S : 1
That is a difficult situation. They say that people like monkeys reach out for another branch before letting go of the current one. Maybe you have already realized that you are not getting what you need from your current relationship. You didn't mention how you feel about your husband. I think that staying with him if your heart is not in it can be caustic and trying for your relationship, but on the other hand every relationship has its low points.
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advice from Guest2313803 | 02-13-2007 13:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
Please...don't do it. What you're going through is textbook classic and the truth is that while you feel like you love this other man, you don't. Feelings are misleading. The relationship you have with him is not based on reality, its based on interactions you have had as you have 'gotten to know' him. You don't _really_ know him. The person we don't know can seem so much better because the imagination fills in the blank. You haven't been unfaithful in deed yet, you can still repair your marriage. Stop all contact with the other man. Find a good personal therapist and talk to her about your feelings and whats happened. Make a sincere effort to see your husband with new eyes. God gave you your husband for a reason, don't waste the gift. The 'second relationships' rarely work...there's the whole trust thing. I speak from experience - just stop this thing now before there is more pain.
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