Can You Put An Age On Love

I am 23 years old. I have only had one serious girlfriend that You could tell there was a connection that only lasted 2 weeks. I am also a very idealistic person. I don't swear, I don't drink, I don't have sex unless I"m married, and I stand up for what is right even when nobody else is. Through college I never really connected with college girls because they told me over and over again, "I could never date a guy that didn't like to have fun." Since I wouldn't drink or have sex with them. Now I met somebody that I have a crush on. But she is only 14. I usually date girls that are OLDER then me since they are more mature and are past the fake party scene and respect people more, but they have so many bad relationship experiences in the past that they took them out on me. So really a 14 year old who i find just as physically attractive as anybody else and doesn't have all of that past relational baggage yet, and has the same morals as me. But she is Only 14! IS there Something Wrong with This? As an Idealist I like to say that, Love Has No Limits" But I struggle living in the Real World where Cultural Norms point fingers and make people feel creepy about being themselves. Is this Right?
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advice from Guest821011 | 01-28-2007 14:44 | E : 2 | S : 1
It is not right - you are rationalizing. You need to distance yourself and revisit this in at least 5 years. You should not pursue a romantic relationship with a 14 year old because a 14 year old is without exception still finding themself. She has alot of growing to do and you should give her space to do that. You are at a stage of life where you are focused on your goals and she is at a stage in her life where she is busy exercising her ideas, experiencing the consequences and defining herself. If you love her you will let her be a 14 year old instead of trying to have an adult relationship with her an.
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advice from Guest2208995 | 03-06-2007 12:20 | E : 1 | S : 0
i am a 14 year old girl, i date older guys and its time for people to get over it s___ happens live your life and do what you want
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advice from Guest2163590 | 01-30-2007 12:54 | E : 1 | S : 1
I agree with the last post- not only is this illegal (at least where I live), there is no way you two will have anything in common, nothing to base your relationship on at all. Your lives are in such vastly different phases. What do you mean by "past relational baggage"? You mean experience? Knowledge about what she wants in a man? Expectations?She has no experience at all with men and really shouldn't yet! You say you find her "physically attractive", not that you enjoy her company- this won't be a healthy relationship for either of you. Look for someone your OWN age.
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advice from Guest2541044 | 03-11-2007 06:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
I agree with the 14 year old girl below, if there is an attraction, then so be it, live your life. People need to realize that other countrys do not have such high age restrictions. We are just one of them that says this is wrong. Other countries say there is nothing wrong with what is happening. Take England for example, the age of consent is 16.
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advice from Guest2887055 | 04-16-2007 16:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
i am 15 i had a relationship, a serious one with a 23 year old when i was 14. the relationship helped me so much, i loved him sincerely and he loved me, we kissed, thats it, we never needed to do more, we are both religious, the love was pure, so pure and perfect, he never tried to control me AT ALL. its not about age, its about your heart. i wanted to marry him and he gave me a ring, we wanted to marry when i turned 18. but it fell apart, my parents found out, they called the police, i ran away to be with him, the police found me. i broke up with him after 9 months because my parents wanted to kill him, literally. so i had to.

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advice from Guest2192185 | 02-03-2007 21:28 | E : 0 | S : 1
Any man who wants to date a woman that much younger than him- wants to control her bottom line end of story.
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