cutter

ive cut almost everyday since 7th grade. im in 9th now. noones noticed. my arms and legs are covered with scars and scabs and cuts. i cant stop. everthing sucks and cutting is the only thing that keeps me alive. no1s even cared enough to notice. not even my mom, the main reason i cut in the 1st place. no1 cares.. so y bother trying?
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advice from Guest1175616 | 10-18-2007 05:52 | E : 2 | S : 0
talk. i was a cutter for years when i finally realized that i couldnt stop and it was killing me. literally. you need to find a person you feel comfortable talking to and ask them to help you find help. whether its a teacher or your mom. dont keep it hidden, it isnt healthy.
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advice from Guest1213269 | 10-23-2007 01:07 | E : 2 | S : 0
You need to tell someone. It will be so hard to do, but you have to do it. You are slowly killing yourself, and it's scary. It's scary to be where you are now, and you need to get out. You can't say no one cares about you, becaue I care. You may not know me, but I can tell you that I really do care. If you don't do anything else with your life except stop cutting, I will be satisfied. I've been there, and I know you can do it. Good luck.

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advice from Guest1622759 | 12-02-2007 02:14 | E : 2 | S : 0
i used to cut myself too. stop doing it, now i dont do it anymore and i hate to see the scars that wont fade away. believe me, there are other ways to cope with your feelings, ask for help! people do care about you, but u are the one who needs to care about urself. =) good luck.
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advice from Guest1633775 | 12-02-2007 22:34 | E : 2 | S : 0
i used to burn myself with lighters...i know exactly the way you feel...I felt that same way as a teenager. I'm 26 now. I have two children and a man who loves me. And, I'm ashamed of my scars. The only thing that will get you out of this slump is YOU! You have to realize your self worth. You have to realize that you are SOMEBODY! Most of my friends never realized that I had issues with self-inflicting pain...until I told them. You've got to find your self-confidence. And you've got to get help. That doesn't mean that you have to go to a doctor, necessarily...it means that you have to find something that works for you...something that keeps your mind off of cutting. After a while, I believe it becomes an addiction, and you start to do it, not for the attention, but for the weird enjoyment that you start to get from it. Start an online blog, keep a diary, find that one friend that you know will listen to you when you need to talk. Find what works for you. Get those feelings out in a different, more productive way. And start on your road to recovery. It WILL get better, if you WANT it to get better. YOU have the power!! I will keep you in my prayers.
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advice from Guest1738510 | 12-11-2007 20:44 | E : 3 | S : 1
i started cutting in seventh grade too. now i'm filling out college applications for next year, and sometimes i wonder how i'm going to hide razors and cuts when i'm sharing a tiny dorm room with a stranger. i of all people get that you can't always talk, and that by two years in you don't know how else to deal with the way you feel. my parents give me ultimatums and threaten to put me in an institution if i don't stop, but i feel like they're taking away the only option i have. i would recommend you start writing, and write a lot. or draw, if that suits you better. get busy creating something rather than destroying. some of my notebook pages look like they were written by a maniac, and maybe they were. but every word is one more second i don't cut. peace and love.
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advice from Guest1778790 | 12-16-2007 11:40 | E : 1 | S : 0
Trust me, I have been in your position one too many times. I also started cutting in the 7th grade. Everything was miserable. I just felt like everyone was lying to me or trying to hurt me, and my mother...don't get me started there. She made everything worse to the point I just wanted to cut too deep...end it all...
I'm in the 9th grade now as well, and since then, I've stopped cutting. I had accidently shown my wrist when I reached up to get something out of my locker my 8th grade year, and my best friend Kyle saw all the cuts on my arm. He was the first one to notice, and he pulled me out of class and talked to me about it. I just started crying and I couldn't help myself.
All I can tell you is tell a friend [[just as I told my best friend]] or adult [[like a teacher or a counseler]] you trust how you're feeling. Everyone has at least 1 good friend or person that they can trust.
If you tell no one and keep all those feelings inside, everything will just get worse, I gurantee that. If my best friend hadn't been there for me, I'm sure I'd be gone by now.
I know that it'll be hard to tell someone, you don't know how many times I fought with myself deciding if I should tell Kyle everything or not...but that was probably the best decision of my life.
I also know that it'll be hard at first to stop cutting. It was for me. Every time something goes wrong, you will feel the urge to cut again, I've been there, done that. But don't. Just think of that person who saved you from yourself, the person that you can open up to.
I wish you luck, and be aware that I care about you, even if I haven't met you. You and I are very similar, and I hope that this advice has helped.
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advice from Guest1103659 | 10-07-2007 23:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
people notice.
trust me, they just don't know how to handle it.
stop cutting yourself it's a waste of time and it serves no point at all.
people care, you just choose not to realize they do.
someone out there cares about you a lot.
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advice from Guest1621961 | 12-01-2007 23:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
people care.
thats something people dont know how to talk about.
and you need to talk to your mom.
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advice from Guest1669536 | 12-06-2007 02:34 | E : 1 | S : 1
i did it for 4 years. i stopped about 4 months ago. and i feel okay about it now. its a stage- you'll get over it.
but i know what you're going through.
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advice from Guest1747718 | 12-12-2007 17:33 | E : 0 | S : 0
...i started in the 7th grade as well. in college now, and i still have relapse moments.. get help while its still early... THINK HARDER. people do care about you.. you just arent conscious of it. find a hobby.. a passion.. anything. cutting is so pathetic. cutting is the easy way out, and i know youre stronger than that.
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advice from Guest1793593 | 12-16-2007 23:12 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have to tell yourself it's a waste of time. Your voice can be heard in many other ways. If you can't talk to your mom? How bout the school counselor? Or your best friend? Or any friend! Someone will help you, and i'm sure that people have noticed, they're just freaking out cause people like you scare them. They'd never handle their problems like that, and i know the truth hurts, but you have to find a better way to get through your life.
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advice from Guest1836198 | 12-20-2007 13:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
your in need of help.
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advice from Guest1839440 | 12-20-2007 21:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
i was a cutter from age 19-23, and i know how that goes. i think you should start talking to someone thats what helped me.
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advice from Guest1864146 | 12-23-2007 14:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
i used to cut a h___ of a lot for about 5 years, i have scars too and so does my boyfriend from his past. i was psyically abused by my dad but hes the pathetic one, a coward. dont let your problems now dictate your whole life, things do get better. your living YOUR life, its not up to your mom to ruin it. i know it seems hard to see that at the moment and i never thought it was possible to be happy but it is ! cutting might be your only control over life but its just a vicious circle. the sooner you stop the sooner you can get on with your life and be happy ! whatever happened to you is done now, but you have memories to make, marrying someone who doesnt care about your scars! having kids, driving, university etc etc ! i cut all through secondary school and i dont now. its worth it trust me ! ive done the councelling, ive taken the meds but the main thing is your own willpower that will save you. sure, your life will have bad times but it will also have amazing times. its easy to be depressed but it takes a strong person to be happy and im sure you will be. dont think that stopping cutting will make you happy overnight, work at it and you will suceed ! good luck, and remember that you dont need cutting ! XXXXXXX

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advice from Guest1869015 | 12-24-2007 01:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
I started to cut in the summer going into grade 6
I didnt stop until 2 years later
I got worse and worse,
If i didnt stop I would probably have been in the hospital by now.
its hard but you should ty and stop
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advice from Guest1909554 | 12-28-2007 01:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
i used to cut in the 7th and 8th grades.....but (ABOUT TO CONFESS ANOTHER ONE:)thats only because i became like a huge pothead and i drink too much....this all started once i went to high school. im ruined.

i dunno what to tell you......i'm sorry.cuz if i told you to stop cutting and start partying every weekend then that will just produce more problems 4 you
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advice from Guest1913537 | 12-28-2007 13:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
I started cutting in 7th grade and didn't stop until I was a freshman either. No one really noticed my cuts either...my mom didn't ask about anything until they were just scars. I have a memoir I wrote for a class about it if you'd like to read it, let me know : ) I'm not going to tell you that you have to stop, or that it's bad- I'm just going to tell you that you're not alone and you must be strong. Somewhere done the road, the reasons you had for cutting are going to seem silly and you'll be over it.

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advice from Guest1918546 | 12-29-2007 03:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm not going to tell you to stop, because I know were you are coming from, but I wish you luck.
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advice from Guest1928668 | 12-30-2007 12:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
i used to cut and sometimes still do, but you have to stop. you have to take control of your life, because right now you have no control. the world can be very bitter, but you have to face it. your here for a reason. people may seem not to care, but they do. .. some people just dont know how to react to it, and will ingore it because of that. you might really be hurting the people around you more then you think. cutting is something so selfish, and ive been there, but it was someone that said "get over yourself" that got me to really stop.
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advice from Guest1016055 | 12-30-2007 21:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
because your worth it.
more then the blade;
more than whatever problems there are right now.
but if you feel alone, an stuck in the hole your in, maybe its time to stand up for yourself. take pride in being you, and dont ever let any one tell you differnt. live your beautiful life, the way you want to.
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advice from Guest1933007 | 12-30-2007 23:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
I've been there. For me it didn't last long, I have a wonderfully supportive boyfriend who helped me cope before it got too far. I still think about it sometimes though, because the scars are still there. My parents never found out- and just like you, that was why I cut. I hope you find someone, a friend, a family member, anyone, to help you stop.
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advice from Guest1933007 | 12-30-2007 23:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
I've been there. For me it didn't last long, I have a wonderfully supportive boyfriend who helped me cope before it got too far. I still think about it sometimes though, because the scars are still there. My parents never found out- and just like you, that was why I cut. I hope you find someone, a friend, a family member, anyone, to help you stop.
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advice from Guest2313585 | 02-10-2008 22:34 | E : 0 | S : 0
someone notices, they probably just dont know what to say
or how to go about getting you help.
it doesnt mean you dont deserve help...
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advice from Guest1103659 | 10-07-2007 23:58 | E : 1 | S : 2
people notice.
trust me, they just don't know how to handle it.
stop cutting yourself it's a waste of time and it serves no point at all.
people care, you just choose not to realize they do.
someone out there cares about you a lot.
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advice from Guest1133065 | 10-12-2007 00:22 | E : 0 | S : 1
give yourself more time and try to talk to your mom about it. hang in there
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advice from Guest1204672 | 10-21-2007 23:15 | E : 0 | S : 1
hun. I've cut almost every day from age 13 to age 20. It took months in a psychiatric hospital to stop. it takes f_____' strength to stop, but you can do it if you try. believe me.
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advice from Guest1267049 | 10-28-2007 07:23 | E : 0 | S : 1
I notice everything, you dont even realise that people realise.

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advice from Guest1587254 | 11-28-2007 17:57 | E : 0 | S : 1
Honestly, its not worth, your saying your insecure, find people who care and stop mourning for the people who dont; be strong and be smart..
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advice from Guest1661936 | 12-05-2007 11:00 | E : 0 | S : 1
i have know how you feel. nobody noticed me. one day i felt so awful i couldnt take it any longer and told my best friend. she found me a councillour and i never looked back. find help. its a ten tonne weight of your shoulders.
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advice from Guest1667714 | 12-05-2007 22:11 | E : 0 | S : 1
So how do you plan on explaining how you got your scars to other kids later on when they notice (trust me, kids notice everything). Even if you do have the guts to tell them you cut yourself because you never receive the attention you need, it will only motivate THEM to cut themselves. People DO care. If you believe they don't, you should just live your life the way you believe is correct-don't just cut yourself because you feel it is the one thing that's left for you to cope. It just doesn't work.
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advice from Guest1738510 | 12-11-2007 20:44 | E : 0 | S : 1
i started cutting in seventh grade too. now i'm filling out college applications for next year, and sometimes i wonder how i'm going to hide razors and cuts when i'm sharing a tiny dorm room with a stranger. i of all people get that you can't always talk, and that by two years in you don't know how else to deal with the way you feel. my parents give me ultimatums and threaten to put me in an institution if i don't stop, but i feel like they're taking away the only option i have. i would recommend you start writing, and write a lot. or draw, if that suits you better. get busy creating something rather than destroying. some of my notebook pages look like they were written by a maniac, and maybe they were. but every word is one more second i don't cut. peace and love.
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advice from Guest1583637 | 11-28-2007 10:36 | E : 0 | S : 2
lindsay?
is this you?
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advice from Guest1693343 | 12-07-2007 21:52 | E : 0 | S : 2
i don't get it,
even me: someone depressed with an awful life
if i had a knife to my wrist, i'd just freak out
& not be able to,
doesnt it hurt?
what if u cut too deep?
good things will come, so dont even risk hurting yourself
& im sure people do notice
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advice from Guest1313732 | 11-03-2007 01:46 | E : 0 | S : 4
I cut myself for years, and people do notice, but they notice in a way that says, "Wow. What a pathetic cry for attention." It's a waste of time.
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