Difficult times

Its been a very difficult time. I just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. My pregnancy n post partum are the tough times i'm talking about! My husband does not bother to share anything including the house rent. If i've to keep my marriage i've to slog my day at work, cook and care for the kid! I can do all this and am currently doing all of it but then, i feel so depressed leaving my kid behind at home with a maid, always wondering what my baby's doing, if she's happy. I'm doing all this for her. I cant turn to my friends, as me and my husband have too many common friends and my husband'll feel insulted! No support from family either, my mom working 2 jobs and my mom in law staying too far away. I hate my husband for being so non cooperative and non understanding. I get these suicidal thoughts sometimes, but then my daughter needs me which's what keeps me ticking.
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advice from Guest898623 | 09-26-2007 23:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
Men often get jealous when new babies are born because they soak up all of the mother's attention. Well, he better get used to it because you're going to have a kid in the house for the next 20 years. He needs to get over his insecurities. If YOU are going to do everything alone, you may as well kick him to the curb and make life easier for yourself and just care for you and your baby girl. And trust me- you may think that sounds harsh now, but when it goes on long enough, you'll find yourself starting to agree.
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advice from Guest1030619 | 09-27-2007 00:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
Hang in there girl. Being a mom rocks. Your husband is a loser for not helping out. I'm a single mom of a 14 yr old. I left my loser husband 10 years ago. Since then, live has been tough but I always muddle through somehow. Your baby girl needs you for life. Find strength in her unconditional love for you. Mom's are tough and so are you. You'll see.
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advice from Guest1031757 | 09-27-2007 03:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
get therapy sweetie. the feelings you describe are VERY common and you can be helped with meds and or therapy. PLEASE take this to heart, your hubby is probabbly just doing his best. we all need time to adjust after becoming parents and your daughter will be fine with another care taker. she's mostly sleeping now anyway. best :)
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advice from Guest853722 | 09-27-2007 22:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
your husband sounds like a piece of crap....the only good thing in your story is that your mother in law is staying away. how old is your baby? you could have post partum depression, talk to your doctor about that part of it and get rid of the lazy crap your married too....i did and i am so much happier. wishing you the best
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