Dirty sex

In my mind there are two types of sex. The dirty brilliant sex you see in porn movies or what you would have on a one night stand with a stranger, or the type of nice loving sex you have with your girlfriend. The latter does not really turn me on as much as the former because I feel guilty about seeing my girlfriend as a 'slut'. I want to have dirty sex with my girlfriend the same as you see in movies. Is this possible and if so how do you people 'think' ?
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advice from Guest2187994 | 02-03-2007 05:41 | E : 1 | S : 0
I think you should explain to her that you're not ready to be in a relationship for another 10 years or so - or at least until you grow up.

Movies are just that - works of creative imagination, and filmed over a period of time.

One night stands are only "fun" because you know (or hope !) that you'll never have to meet them again, and can get away with more than you normally would.

In a relationship, you have to face the consequences in the morning if you overstep the mark.

That said, perhaps she would like a little more sparkle and spontaneity too, so you could always try pushing the boundary and see how she reacts. If she reacts badly, get used to the idea that this is now how your love-life is (and likely to stay that way), but if she reacts favourably, perhaps you'll find your "boring" relationship hits a whole new level.
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advice from Guest2978073 | 04-24-2007 11:46 | E : 1 | S : 0
IM BETTING YOUR G/F IS THINKIN THE SAME AS YOU -- SHES JUST TO EMBARRASED OR SCARED TO ASK FOR IT!

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advice from Guest2204257 | 02-02-2007 23:46 | E : 1 | S : 1
Me and my boyfriend have all types of sex. Dirty, where he will pull my hair and call me a s____ etc, me dominating him when i whip him kick him in the b___ spit on him etc, and normal boyfrend gurlfrend sex. I have learnt to love all of them just as much as achother. Talk to your gurlfrend, maybe she will be keen to try different things. You have to make sure your open about sex because otherwise it can lead to straying.
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advice from Guest2497083 | 03-06-2007 12:40 | E : 0 | S : 0
i love both types!
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advice from Guest2595365 | 04-04-2007 06:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
ask her about the worse thong that could happen is that she'd say no!!!! but be realistic!!!

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advice from Guest2837186 | 04-12-2007 04:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
Of course! Believe it or not alot of girls like sex like that, the key is to keep it comfortable and leave no questions about equality in the relationship. Try being a bit rougher (not too much) next time things get hot and heavy, and encourage her to do the same, if she likes it continue on little by little. It's not only satisfying but it can be incredibly healthy for the relationship so long as you both remember to respect each other. >>I say healthy because it's good to be open
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advice from Guest3182983 | 05-30-2007 10:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
You need to get her into some soft core movies, the kind that are produced and directed by women - more prep time, beautiful settings and costumes, etc. They usually start off with the guy going down, then sometimes a little 69 action, then missionary adjusted for a large chair or sofa, eventually you'll get some harder banging against a wall and a little doggie style. Put the focus on her and get well into the mood, prep her for at least 15 or 20 minutes, she'll become butter in your hands - trust me, doggie WORKS for her better than it does for you, she'll love it and become more comfortable with it. Eventually, you can do the 'quickie' lift her skirt, bend over the bed, when people are at the house or you're in between errands. Good luck !
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advice from Guest3253449 | 06-18-2007 10:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
Ok, I totally agree. I'm 19/f, lost my virginity end of 2006. I had been with a "player" for 3 weeks, went to work in another town for 8 and lost my virginity while I was there. Came back to university and slept with him. It was incredible. No kidding, it was movie stuff even if I say so myself. For me, I didn't love him. That kind of sex is too selfish to have with someone you love. You're right about the "seeing your girlfriend as a slut" thing... I had been dating this guy previously who I think respected me too much. Or else he was scared of me coz, i'll admit, I pushed the "you better not be using me for porn" thing a tad too much. Now all I want is to be used... some girls like it rough...

Also, maybe you're not ready for a long-term relationship and you need to play the field for a bit. It's worked for a lot of guys I know, but you have to be able to deal with the consequences of getting a bad rep, etc...
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advice from Guest2213579 | 02-03-2007 23:58 | E : 0 | S : 2
dude, your girlfriend probably wouldn't mind pornstar sex either. go for it.
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