Does she loves me

I am a normal man with a desent job but frankly speaking i am not that good looking. Surprisingly met a beautiful gal and married her.
she is financially dependent on me. She tells me that she loves me verymuch and we have a son now but somehow i couldnt understand why she loves me cos i am not good looking. Is it because she is financiallly dependent on me? i often threatens her to leave cos in the heart of my heart i fell that she doesn't love me just want to stay with me(and she is very good to me also)but somehow i dont want to be like that cos if i love someone then someone should love me if not better not love any one. ........i can feel that whenever we try to feel romantic she doesnt look into my eyes thats when i get hurt most.......help me guy!!!s what to do.
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advice from Guest2541514 | 03-11-2007 08:53 | E : 9 | S : 1
Most woman think with their hearts and we all speak with our actions. Personally, I can't imagine being with a man based on looks. I'm an attractive woman with a serious nerd fetish. My friends tell me my current Boyfriend is not very good looking but I think hes beautiful. I'm telling you all of this because I'm hoping you'll believe her and trust her instead of pushing her away. Physical beauty may be very important to you but that doesn't mean its a priority for her! she might be upset lately because you're threatning her constantly. I would be hurt if someone I loved treated me that way. She's not better than you just because she was genetically blessed. She may love your ambition and the way you care for her and your child, your friendship, your sense of humor, your intelligence. She picked you for who you are, and you're your constantly trying to prove her wrong. Because you're not a model. Speaking from my heart as a girl whos had all the options a mans looks are so trivial. Who cares when we're 80 anyway. I want a friend that makes me laugh and who I can trust! If this relationship ends because of your self esteem issues you are truly going to feel like a big marooon! Let it go mister normal, she thinks you're extraordianary.

I wish you the best!
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advice from Guest2549108 | 03-12-2007 12:57 | E : 3 | S : 1
Love is never about a person's outward appearance. It is always their inward appearance. I've met people that society regarded as beautiful and they were some of the ugliest I've ever seen. I've met people that society regarded as not attractive. Those, friend, are the ones that took my breath away. Believe it or not, your inward appearance will MAKE you beautiful OR ugly. There is no stopping it. Trust in her. Be good to her and enjoy her beauty as she enjoys yours.
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advice from Guest3325734 | 07-04-2007 15:16 | E : 3 | S : 1
You shouldnt break your heart only bcz she doesnt look u in the eyes. Some women are like this. U should focus ur mind on other things that make u happy with her. I know sometimes we feel down about our looks, status etc but this thinking only makes the relationships worse. U can fall inlove with anybody & beauty is NOT the only standard for love.
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advice from Guest2427127 | 03-01-2007 14:23 | E : 3 | S : 2
If you love her, you should be good to her. If you don't feel attractive, it doesn't matter, not everyone loves someone solely based on looks. Don't threaten her to leave. Ask her why she loves you. Don't dislike her because you don't feel good looking... Don't make the assumption that she just wants to be with you for what you can give her. She can probably find someone else to give her something similar if she is using you. She is giving you a family and a wife, she might just like being wtih you. Just love her and see her for who she is, without being hard on yourself. Good luck with your marriage and your son :)
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advice from Guest2457361 | 03-01-2007 14:36 | E : 2 | S : 2
Have you ever tried sitting down and discussing this with her one-on-one. You stated she is good to you, but you obviously have doubts about how she feels about you. Do you think she is with you only b/c you support her financially? If so, then I think maybe you knew this before you married her. Take the first step and just talk to her. A lot of times, women show exactly how they feel through their body language. When you are discussing this with her and she still cannot look you in the eye, it's not because of your looks. It is probably because she is not being truthful with you. Follow your heart. Although you have a child together, it would not benefit the child for you to stay with a woman that does not love you. On the other hand, again, you probably knew that before you married her.
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advice from Guest2503671 | 03-06-2007 21:18 | E : 2 | S : 3
You should own your issues.
She loves you and Im sorry for you not feeling it.
So what If she is financially dependent to you, should it be otherwise? Your are the man in the family, you should be the one who provides and I think she compensates by taking care of you and your family. You should be happy!
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advice from Guest2898987 | 04-07-2008 07:25 | E : 1 | S : 2
Wake up and smell the coffee, you think she may feel that way but perhaps you are the one looking for an excuse
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advice from Guest2478761 | 03-04-2007 02:00 | E : 0 | S : 2
Well you are married, you have a child, that's it. Is this really worth getting a divorce over? I'd say something different if there wasn't a kid involved. You need to get over your insecurities. No one likes an insecure partner. But on the other hand, if your instincts are telling you something, it's always best to listen. This is why each partner should work. I've found that when guys don't look me in the eyes (esp when we are intimate) that it's a bad sign and they do not care for me at all and are just using me.
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advice from Guest2558699 | 03-13-2007 12:02 | E : 1 | S : 3
I love someone who isn't good looking to the majority of the population, but I think he is because I love who he is. He often gets comments about 'why is she with you? she must be blind'. Relax and let yourself be loved. Your insecurity is whats going to ruin your relationship. you deserve to be loved regardless of looks.
Tell her about looking at you while you are intimate. sometimes its just a reflex. I close my eyes often, but its not because of who I am with, its because I like to, and sometimes I feel I can let myself go if I pretend I don't have an audience.
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advice from Guest2149736 | 01-22-2008 20:58 | E : 0 | S : 2
hey dude not everything ends up with looking good. it is all you and you. can be your personality, the love you giving her, all the attention, your honesty and so on. most of my friends are good looking and they are kind of playboy, but suprise the could never hear the "i love you" from any of their girls. why? because there is no love. and one last thing love is a two way road if you didnt tell her that you love her she wouldnt tell you how she felt about you either or maybe ther wouldnt be any feelings that she may wanna tell you about.
if you recon it is just the financial dependent, let me tell you something "IN WORKING LADIES ARE BETTER AND THEY WORKED MUCH MORE HARDER THAT WE DO" and she is mature, let me assure you she love you.
and she love you to death thats wahy she says i love you (women busines). the never tel how much they love you you have to figure out your self.
Lol (LOVE OR LIKE)
cheers.
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advice from Guest2552715 | 03-12-2007 14:22 | E : 2 | S : 5
nothing we say will put your mind at easy, hire a private dective to track her for 3 weeks and report back to you. I'm sure it's nothing, but at least you'll have peace of mind and be content with your life.
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advice from Guest2256659 | 02-04-2008 13:34 | E : 0 | S : 3
dunno mann
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