effeminate mannerisms
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For the past several years, my son has adopted some extremely effeminate mannerisms, all with his mother's (my ex-wife's) blessing: dressing like a girl, wearing his hair like a girl, though he's NEVER had a girlfriend, not even a girl he was interested in, or one that was interested in HIM, and he's 18.
If my son, at the core of his being, really IS gay, I can accept that. But if he's being pushed there by his overbearing and emotionally enmeshed mother, I have a problem with THAT.
Category Didn't Want To Know - But I Do
Submitted 10-29-2007 09:47
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advice from Guest1456560 | 11-15-2007 19:55 | E : 2 | S : 0
It seems like he's not being 'pushed', just allowed to express himself.
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advice from Guest1385324 | 11-17-2007 10:37 | E : 2 | S : 0
thats a tough one, just try and be supportive to him however he wants to be which it sounds like you are already, he may be being influenced by his mom but in time he'll decide who he is for himself. 18's a funny age.
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advice from Guest1304483 | 11-15-2007 17:12 | E : 1 | S : 0
Talk to your son before you blame mom. Maybe he's just curious. Maybe he'll get over it. Whether he's gay or not at 18 he has a right to make his own decisions and maybe he thinks he's gay. Goodluck
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advice from Guest1535901 | 11-23-2007 12:23 | E : 1 | S : 0
It sounds like he might be transgendered not gay. Effeminate mannerisms do not always mean that he is gay nor do all gay men have effeminate mannerisms.
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advice from Guest1727037 | 12-10-2007 18:56 | E : 2 | S : 1
I really doubt that your ex is pushing him in this. There are a lot of social pressures pushing boys to act like boys and girls to act like girls. When somebody feels strongly enough about wanting to be a boy or a girl (or even act/dress like one), then they will do those things whether or not society approves.
I think that it is wonderful that your ex can support and love him the way she does.
He might or might not be gay, that is a completely different issue.
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advice from Guest2113736 | 01-19-2008 03:09 | E : 1 | S : 0
Trust me on this. You can't get pushed into acting that way; it's who you are in your core.
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advice from Guest2335513 | 02-14-2008 10:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
be supportive, talk to mom, and talk to your son. he needs you more than you think.
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