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Mistake #1: I had an affair with a married man for 2 and a half years. He kept saying he was going to leave his wife, said he couldn't wait to start a life with me and have a family. Mistake #2: I believed him. Mistake #3: I got pregnant. All of a sudden that life with me didn't appeal to him so much. He didn't want a baby because it would mean he would have to get a job instead of relying on his rich wife to take care of him. Mistake #4: He convinced me to have an abortion. He met me at the clinic the day I had it done, and saw how traumatic it was for me...and I haven't seen or heard from him since. I've never felt so worthless or abandoned in my life. I know I deserved to learn a lesson for cheating, but I don't understand why I had to suffer ALL the consequences while he was able to just walk away unscathed.

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advice from Guest834860 | 11-17-2007 15:06 | E : 2 | S : 0
Each person is culpable in this affair. He more at fault than she, but both parties share the blame in this matter. While he never should have initiated the affair, she new he was married and continued with it. It sounds like a lot of decisions were made based on getting some immediate gratification, rather than considering the consequences of their actions. I say, move on and learn from your mistakes. If you choose to tell his wife, that is completely up to you. You will probable not get any satisfaction from it and it will probably be the beginning of a pattern of hurtful behavior. Again, I say move on and start making some better healthier decisions decisions for yourself. Get some counseling and learn why you chose or choose men that are not available to you. Good luck.
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advice from Guest1886149 | 01-23-2008 01:56 | E : 1 | S : 0
i'm sorry this happened to you, but it's a new year honey, start over. i once heard someone say, "sometimes you just want someone to hold you so bad, it doesn't even matter if it's the wrong person"..i wish you the best.
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advice from Guest2160596 | 01-24-2008 12:52 | E : 1 | S : 0
The people who care always seem to have the biggest burden.
It just means that you care, and that's a good thing. It means your human, that you will learn from your mistakes, and that you grow from it. It's a positive thing.
And just because he is unscathed now doesn't mean anything. What goes around really does come around. Really.
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advice from Guest1368747 | 11-08-2007 15:18 | E : 2 | S : 2
You made several bad choices. Take responsibility for what YOU did.
Moving forward, how will you prevent this from happening in the future?

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advice from Guest1868656 | 12-24-2007 00:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
Everyone bears some fault (maybe even the wife) but that's no reason to make her miserable too. He is just as much at fault as you. I'm sorry that you bear all the consequences and not him, but that just shows who was good and sincere and who was a selfish manipulator from the beginning. Find a good friend and talk with her.. you can move on from this

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advice from Guest1914377 | 12-28-2007 20:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am so sorry that you had to go through such a tramatic even in your life.

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advice from Guest1341382 | 11-06-2007 03:18 | E : 0 | S : 1
Call his wife and tell him then hell get what he deserves

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advice from Guest1416207 | 11-12-2007 22:51 | E : 2 | S : 3
The first advice is quite wrong in my opinion....How did this woman make mistakes? She had no commitments...She wasnt the married one. Its not ideal to be with someone elses husband but the truth is he is the one in the wrong. He had hte wife at home, he had a bit on the side, HE manipulated and used his bit on the side, HE made her feel worthless. HE is the one that has made several bad choices. She was with a man, got pregnant and was convince (while already in a vulnerable state of mind) to abort that child and was then dumped off like some hopeless POS! I think you should try and get some post abortion counsilling to help with your feelings but just know these are not your bad choices. They are his
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