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I am a F__, I can't tell my family because they will hate me. If there is a God I hate him for making me this way. My friends know but they don't understand since they don't know what it's like to be gay or at least bi. I really want to tell my parents but everytime I want to tell them I freeze up or have panic attacks. I just don't want my mother to ask "Why?" or "Is there something I did wrong?"
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advice from Guest1652128 | 12-04-2007 12:28 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am gay, too. I came out 2 years ago and although I had my mom told me she "already suspected/knew it," I received similar comments. Parents want their kids to be "normal." Some want it for their own personal outlook, and some do that to protect their kids from the mean people in this world. Whatever choice you make to tell your parents, I wish you luck. If you need to talk more feel free to e-mail me, jennifuhs@gmail.com.

It's a tough decision to make. My question is, if they truly would hate you make sure you have a place to go and a means to support yourself by.
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advice from Guest1715895 | 12-15-2007 12:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had the same problem. I came out to my parent this summer.. And not only did I come out to them I told them that I had a girlfriend who I was in love with. My Mother flipped out at first. I really didnt know what to do. So I waited. I just kinda let them digest it. It took my mother a week. She emailed me and told me that she loved me and that no matter who I loved I was still the same person who she and all of my friends loved. Im not saying that it will take your parents a week. I am,however, that it feels good to be honest. Your parents love you. and they may take a while to come around. But most likely,in the end they will realize that who we love doesnt define us... I truly wish you luck... Please... please... email me if you need someone to talk to.. I will be completely honest with you if you have any specific questions...If you decide not to then I wish you the best of luck...

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advice from Guest2568060 | 03-25-2008 21:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
I can tell you live in a homophobic place by the fact that your first name for your sexuality is 'fag'. I understand that your family might hate you if you tell them, but this doesn't mean you should hate yourself. They were raised to believe that homosexuality is wrong, just as I'm sure you were. But that is a moral belief, and "Homosexuality is wrong" is not what everyone believes. Not even all Christians that believe that. Please, don't hate yourself and don't hate God for making you this way. If you must, think of being gay as a test from God to test your strength as a person. So make Him proud and don't let the unenlightened thoughts of others influence you.
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advice from Guest1656385 | 12-04-2007 21:24 | E : 0 | S : 1
im sorry
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