fake orgasm
QuickCode : fakeO
I love having sex with my husband but I usually
fake an orgasm so he feels good about what he
does for me. I've only had a few orgasms without
helping myself. It's been going on for so long
I don't know how to stop now.
Category Dirty Little Secret
Submitted 04-19-2007 09:40
Visited 1955 times. 72.50 Compelling Rating (rated 4 times) 97.14 Sincerity Rating (rated 7 times)
advice from Guest3122938 | 05-14-2007 12:28 | E : 2 | S : 1
I'm in the same situation -- our secrets are identical. I don't know what to do about it either. It started when I first got with my boyfriend almost 2 years ago. I was only 18 at the time, so I figured it would just be another short "fling" relationship, therefore I didn't care much about being honest about my orgasms. Instead we ended up staying together for 2 years now, and we were engaged a couple months ago. Faking is an ingrained habit, so I can't just stop all of a sudden because he naturally assumes I can come almost every time. I'll feel horrible if we marry and I continue to do it, and I'll feel horrible if I tell him the truth. There's no way out. For the record, I LOVE making love with him and I don't care if I don't come (if I really am dead-set on it, I will "help" myself too). But if I tell, he will think he's a bad lover, which is NOT true. It's a fact that women are not biologically wired to orgasm easily during regular intercourse...but men take it personally.
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advice from Guest1027973 | 09-27-2007 17:09 | E : 1 | S : 0
I always let my fingers do the walking, it's just much easier that having to tell my husband what to do! Also, we use a dildo! It gets him even more excited than I could ever imagined! Don't be ashamed of helping yourself! He probably gets off watching you!
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advice from Guest1697450 | 12-08-2007 03:52 | E : 1 | S : 0
Don't give up hope! I was with my fiancé for four years before my first orgasm. It took that long for him to learn what to do, and for me to be comfortable enough with my sexuality, to relax and let myself feel good. It was a hard battle. I felt horrible because I knew how much he wanted me to. He felt inadequate because he couldn't make me. I love him with all my heart and in the end we won. Now our sex life is GREAT!
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advice from Guest3212246 | 06-08-2007 03:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
Actually, I find myself feeling really guilty when I orgasm. I hate myself that I let someone have that much power over me. That I let someone get that close. Then I do my best not to cry, but most of the time the tears win. I don't even know how to explain it to him. I don't even want to TRY to explain it to him! I just want him to stop thinking sexual things and to let me go on existing as the non-sexual person I am. I'm a thinker, not a f_____.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 07-05-2007 10:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
Why do yo have to stop? i would tell him If I wee you... but if that is not an option, keep it going and let your fingers do the walking.
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advice from Guest3347606 | 07-09-2007 02:54 | E : 0 | S : 0
I think most women end up in this boat. I've always been honest w/ my husband,but he still takes it personally. We looked into a basic vibrator and now I enjoy things more, and he doesn't get so offended.
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advice from Guest989586 | 09-20-2007 22:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
Same here.. actually, I think we both fake it sometimes..
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advice from Guest1179931 | 10-18-2007 18:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
First, know exactly what it is that'll make orgasm. Then at some point during sex. at an appropriate time. Tell him that you would really love it if he... then say whatever it is that truly satisfies you.
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advice from Guest1836742 | 12-20-2007 15:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
what about oral? does that get you off? im very honest with the man im sleeping with .. andup front i tell him that the only want to really get me off is by oral .. that im all about having sex but that it doesnt do it for me! just be honest! figure out whats going to get you to the big O
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advice from Guest1868404 | 12-24-2007 00:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
i havent orgasmed once in my life having sex.. :( and it makes me feel like i can never c__ that way
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advice from Guest1868656 | 12-24-2007 01:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
Oral does it every time. Just tell him what you want...
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advice from Guest1969248 | 01-04-2008 14:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
Stop faking slowly. Faking only promotes bad sex. Maybe just try to show less enthusiasm, then work down from there.
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advice from Guest2016489 | 01-09-2008 02:12 | E : 0 | S : 1
Maybe you could suggest trying some toys? A vibrator during sex helps immensely...and you don't have to tell him outright that you needed a little help.
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