for love

i only stay with my wife because i could never leave my son. I resent her more and more with each passing day, yet she thinks there is nothing wrong. My sons smile and laugh are the only things that get me thru the day.

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advice from Guest3282466 | 06-24-2007 23:25 | E : 5 | S : 0
Start dating your wife again. See her in a different light and remind yourself why you fell in love with her. She loves you. You owe it to your marriage to try and work it out. If the fire went out, rekindle it. I know how you feel.
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advice from Guest3313103 | 07-01-2007 21:53 | E : 3 | S : 1
She knows. Your son knows too. Keeping this secret will only make life worse for all of you.

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advice from Guest3317272 | 07-02-2007 20:18 | E : 1 | S : 0
If mum & dad are happy then your son will be happy. You owe to your family not to continue on like this.
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advice from Guest3318044 | 07-02-2007 23:50 | E : 1 | S : 0
Be honest with your wife and talk to her about it. she may have similar feelings to you. if you dont you will become more and more unhappy and may end leaving her on bad terms. im not saying leave her but youd be surprised how often spouses are going through similar emotions.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 07-05-2007 10:22 | E : 1 | S : 0
What is she doing to you to make you resent her so much?
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advice from Guest3264802 | 06-20-2007 22:17 | E : 1 | S : 1
its not necessary to stay in a relationship for your children... think of the example of unhappiness you are setting for your son...
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advice from Guest3314855 | 07-02-2007 07:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
Eventually your anger will reach an apex and that will be way more traumatic for your son than a divorce. Give yourself the chance of finding the person that is right for you and your son the chance of seeing what a happy, healthy adult relationship should be like.
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advice from Guest3328310 | 07-07-2007 20:02 | E : 0 | S : 0
There is a large body of research that suggests that doing what you are doing is actually to the determinent of your son. Staying in an unhappy relationship can do more harm than good for him. It will teach him how relationships *should* be. Don't you think it's more important to teach him how to be happy?
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advice from Guest3341371 | 07-08-2007 13:10 | E : 0 | S : 0
Your resentment grows because your are hiding this. You have to let it out... tell her how you feel. You should try to work it out. If it can be saved and the love rekindled you need to do that. BUT, if you find that it can't be saved then you both need to accept that and move on. It will be better for all three of you. Just don't walk away without being sure that you know what you are walking away from.
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advice from Guest3349253 | 07-09-2007 11:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
you're only giving her more of a reason to think that there isn't anything wrong.
if you want to- you don't have to, you can try to go out with her a little more.
if not, think about the reasons why you resent her so so much. then think of the reasons (if there are any) that you'd stay with her besides your son.
if you come up with more bad reasons then good reasons and you think them out long and hard, then you will know what to do because your heart will tell you, but don't waste her time while she could be in another loving relationship with another man who truly loves her, unless you'd like to give it another go.
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advice from Guest3351151 | 07-09-2007 20:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
my friend was in a similar situation..but he was the son, he knows already..give upp and come clean about everything and talk to your wife..your son is just getting more depressed knowing your not happy
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advice from Guest3426267 | 07-21-2007 13:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
I stayed with my wife for the same reason. My son turned 18 this year, and I'm astonished to find that I don't even want to leave her anymore.
Love, or something like it, sometimes takes a very long time to grow.
Your situation could be different, but in any case, you should try not to blame HER for YOUR decision to stay.
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advice from Guest3303687 | 06-29-2007 21:12 | E : 0 | S : 2
leave your wife... your son know that you don't like her... get a divorce
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