For One More Chance

My brother is dying and I'm not supposed to know. I still treat him the same... the problem is that we weren't talking... so we still aren't. I wish I could change that
Category Didn't Want To Know - But I Do

advice from Guest3271948 | 02-01-2008 09:00 | E : 1 | S : 0
Does he know he's dying? Is he making any effort to contact you? It's a two way street. Send him a letter perhaps, and then the ball's in his court.
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advice from Guest2232398 | 02-01-2008 14:03 | E : 1 | S : 0
If I were in the same situation, I'd probably try to talk to him. Otherwise, it's just going to rip at you for the rest of your life, and you may find yourself regretting it.

To this day, I regret not going to visit my step-grandmother when I had the chance. She died a week after I was "too busy" for her, and I can't stop worrying that she didn't know how much she meant to me.
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advice from Guest2610472 | 03-12-2008 08:47 | E : 1 | S : 0
Grab your balls n talk to him! He is one of a kind, your blood! Life is too short to hold grudges! Forgive him and yourself
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advice from Guest2409239 | 04-05-2008 15:51 | E : 1 | S : 0
What ever the reason is that you are not talking, it will not be harder to face now than living with the guilt of not trying to sort it out at least, will be. Trust me...it kills you. I had a good relationship with my brother but never said things I should have when I had the chance, now I have to live with it. Don't put yourself though it, make peace now.
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advice from Guest2121794 | 01-26-2008 19:38 | E : 0 | S : 0
you need to talk to your brother how do you think you will feel when he does pass on and you never told him how you feel and how much you love him.
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advice from Guest1789369 | 03-01-2008 14:01 | E : 0 | S : 0
Make the excuse and contact him, tell him your pregnant or that your partner is or any excuse but make dcontact before he dies or you will regret it forever.
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advice from Guest2782203 | 03-27-2008 18:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
don't have regrets. Contact him. Never put yourself in aposition where you could say possibly say.. "I wish I had..." Contact him vis phone, e-mail, in person, in a letter, whatever works for you. Just do it. And don't let anyone be the go-between.
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advice from Guest2259438 | 04-13-2008 16:16 | E : 0 | S : 0
i have a brother and i love him to death so i know how you feel just start talking to him about anything and if theres a reason you and him are not talking apoligize about it and just forget it before its to late to talk to him.
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advice from Guest2964367 | 04-14-2008 14:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
your secret made me cry for you. My grandfather just died, suddenly. I had disowned him because he had sexually abused other girls in the family. I feel my reason is valid and I feel no guilt or regret. Though still a pang of sadness.

There are situations where you may not feel badly for not talking to a family member, like me, but if no such situation is present you should decide how worth it this is to you.

What do you stand to lose by admitting you know your brother is dying?
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