forebidden love

i love my cousin and he loves me. i can feel it and see it in his eyes. i know we're soulmates. but. my family. and how we would disapoint them. but i cant help myself. love is love and i have followed it into places that are forbidden. i wish i can spend my life with him where we won't have consequences. i dont know who to tell and im drowning with each passing moment

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advice from Guest3314992 | 07-02-2007 08:25 | E : 1 | S : 0
maybe you are misinterpreting a passionate love with your cousin for a sexual love with your cousin. maybe you are just in love with him in a very deep and passionate true best friend (and soul mate in that sense) kind of way.
its like a first love, most of the time it has to end, and in that time it seems like you will never love agian...but the truth is you will; you just have to look.
while it would be great to think that it would work out with your cousin and you could live happily what you would loose would be greater than what you would gain. your family, for one. and you wouldnt be able to have children, genetically you are too similar. it wouldn't be fair to the children you would bring into this world. both physically (they would have a lot of problems with apperence and developmentally it would be harder to learn--and that would be if you were lucky) but it would confuse them too.

love isn't alsways enough.
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advice from Guest2981226 | 04-25-2007 18:52 | E : 3 | S : 3
i support you totaly, im sure you two will be happy some day
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advice from Guest2396149 | 04-28-2007 01:01 | E : 2 | S : 2
We are in the same boat!!! I too LOVE my cousin, and sometimes I WISH that we could also go far, far, far away to a place where "this" was accepted, and we could live "HAPPILLY EVER AFTER!" I love him sooooooo much! I often fantasize and think about the times we've been together, and I wish what we "have," could be out in the open, and we could be free to love each other! The thing, is that he's married and has 3 kids! I know, I know, but you know too! We just try to be together when time and chance allow us to. It REALLY SUCKS!!! BUT... I LOVE HIM!!!

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advice from Guest3278037 | 06-23-2007 23:47 | E : 1 | S : 1
we r all related. maybe not as closely as u and ur cousin but still we r. however, i dont think u should feel ashamed about loving ur cousin. this is becoming more and more common. true there would always be a possibility of ur children having mental problems or other birth defects but there is always the option of adoption. dont let what people think stop you from being with who u want to be with. u never kno...u two may not be perfect for each other and may later find out that u rnt really soulmates however if u dont try this relationship out u will always regret it. i promise. i do. wouldnt u rather regret doing something rather than regret not doin something. think about it and be true to urself.
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advice from Guest3214931 | 06-28-2007 20:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
I think that you should do whatever you want to do. Your parents should be happy to see YOU happy, not what they want. They don't control your life. Its a free country, and marrying your cousin is not illlegal in most states.
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advice from Guest3306442 | 06-30-2007 10:48 | E : 0 | S : 0
follow your heart. dont let anyone take that away from you. its YOUR life. YOU live it. My boyfriends parents are cousins and today they are still happily married with kids all healthy.
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advice from Guest3343338 | 07-08-2007 04:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
Yes i know how you feel, i secretly feel the same about my cousin as well! In other countries it is ok to marry your cousin, its a shame it is not more accepted in the west : (
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advice from Guest1014186 | 09-24-2007 18:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
The birth defects from reproducing with your cousin is mostly fallacy. It's true if the gene pool is small and it happens over and over and over again. In the past people married their cousins. It was an accepted and even encouraged practice. It kept the property in families.
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advice from Guest2986589 | 04-25-2007 07:25 | E : 0 | S : 2
It's not illegal to marry your cousin. at least not in most states. But, yeah, your parents would probably freak out. But you can't help who you love. It's legal for a reason. You're not alone.
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advice from Guest3258442 | 06-19-2007 14:16 | E : 0 | S : 2
I knows its hard but there is a danger that if you are too closely related any children you have in the future could be severely disabled.other than i see no problem but if you are young and still living at home maybe it might be wise to tell your family when you are old enough to live together.
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advice from Guest3289880 | 07-01-2007 20:36 | E : 1 | S : 3
Eww...
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advice from Guest2989513 | 04-25-2007 14:01 | E : 2 | S : 5
that sucks but keep it secret and dont get preg
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