Granddaddy

My grandfather might be dying in the hospital and even though I cry about it every day, I haven't called him yet. I know I will regret it for the rest of my life if he dies without knowing how much I love him, but I can't bring myself to pick up the phone because I don't want to have to listen to him suffering.
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advice from Guest2191892 | 01-28-2008 00:58 | E : 3 | S : 0
My one regret in life is not visiting my Grandfather when he was dying in the hospital. I kept putting it off, saying I'd do it later. When I finally decided to do it, it was too late, as he had passed away.

That was almost ten years ago, but the sting has never subsided. Trust me, it's not something you, or anyone, should have to bare when it is so easily avoided.
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advice from Guest2731201 | 03-22-2008 23:50 | E : 1 | S : 0
Just do it. Don't think about it. Just pick up the phone and hit send.
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advice from Guest2067513 | 01-14-2008 07:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
call him or go visit him. otherwise it's gonna hang over your head for a while and you won't be able to stop thinking about it.
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advice from Guest2091418 | 01-16-2008 18:11 | E : 0 | S : 0
I know how that feels, you want to remember him as the man he was, not what he is withering into. He probably wants to see you, so do it for HIM rather than yourself.
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advice from Guest2200139 | 01-29-2008 00:11 | E : 0 | S : 0
call him please. just tell him you love him visit him, hug him. one last time.
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advice from Guest948530 | 01-31-2008 17:37 | E : 0 | S : 0
I didn't contact my nana before she died and its the biggest regret of my life...
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advice from Guest2243371 | 02-02-2008 23:01 | E : 0 | S : 0
I hadn't spoken to my father in over 4 years (he was an abusive alcohol) when his cancer took a turn for the worse. If I regret not seeing or speaking to someone whom I HATED this much then I can only imagine how much you're going to regret your DECISION not to call your grandfather. And yes, that's exactly what it is. By posting this you are admitting that you consciously are choosing to not see your grandfather on his death bed. I think that you are very selfish. This is not about you, it's about your grandfather and you have an obligation. Believe me, the smile on his face when he sees you will make it all worth it. I know with me it was my father's dying wish to see me one last time. He actually told me that he felt as if he could die peacefully since he had gotten to reunite with me and say goodbye. I only regret that that reunion was on his death bed. CALL HIM!!!
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advice from Guest2325362 | 02-12-2008 04:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
thats a tough call but one that should be made...even though it killed me a little on the inside...I moved in with my grandfather for the last month of his life on earth. i watched him fade, but I did it for HIM...at some point you have to push your feelings aside sometimes and worry about those you love
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advice from Guest2409370 | 02-20-2008 17:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
my poppy dies in july and i was there..and it made it so much easier go or call your grandpa

-kay
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advice from Guest2479266 | 02-27-2008 17:34 | E : 0 | S : 0
Do it before it's too late, it's been 6 years and my bro-in-law still laments the fact that I spoke with his grandma and he didn't ... because he didn't want to take time off work ... then it was too late. Do it, you'll both feel great afterwards!
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advice from Guest1789369 | 03-01-2008 13:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
If you cannot face him, which you kind of owe him and will probably regret for the rest of your life unfortunately, then at least write him a letter and tell him how you feel. Dont let him die wondering whether you care or not.
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