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He doesn't love me back.

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It's really hard to be completely honest about this for some reason. I don't even know you people, but I'm afraid you'll judge me. I've been in love with the same guy for a year. We used to be dating, but when he started thinking he loved me, he got scared. We broke up, I guess? We're best friends. We tell each other everything. He recently moved to New York. He makes me feel beautiful. We. Uhm. We have phone sex. And I've always felt that you shouldn't have sex with somebody unless you love them, and he feels the same way. Sometimes I start thinking he loves me, he's just afraid to admit it. The other night I asked him to tell me the truth. That if he doesn't love me, he should just say it. It took him at least a half hour, and he kept crying. At one point he even said "Why do you think it's so hard for me to say it?" "Because you don't want to hurt me." "That's not it!" and I thought.. I thought that he was going to tell me he loved me. But a few minutes later he finally did it. "I don't love you,___" And I was crushed. I still am.. but another part of me still thinks he's hiding it. I'm so confused. I always thought you shouldn't stay with somebody who doesn't love you, but I can't leave him. We need each other.
Category Romance

Submitted 01-08-2007 12:52
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advice from Guest2038300 | 01-22-2007 12:35 | E : 10 | S : 6
If he said to your face "i don't love you" then i think you should take it seriously. By the sounds of it, i think you guys are better as best friends, romance can ruin a friendship. Those 3 words are very important and when you do love someone, usually you cant wait to tell them. i think- stay friends. move on from this.
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advice from Guest2981980 | 04-16-2008 17:00 | E : 3 | S : 2
i am in the same position, i am in love with my best friend, we have been friends for a couple of years and we both lost our virginity to each other. then we kind of faded apart. now i still love him and i dont know if he loves me! i think that you should see how things go.maybe give him a bit of space to think. good luck :)
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advice from Guest2687664 | 04-08-2007 17:38 | E : 3 | S : 4
well get together and then ask him to say it to your face. if he cant then he probably does love you, but if he does right off the bat. .then well just try to leave him. the things we most desire, are the things that destroy us the fastest

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advice from Guest821011 | 01-09-2007 13:20 | E : 6 | S : 8
Love or not, it sounds like you guys are looking for different kinds of relationships.
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advice from Guest2687664 | 04-08-2007 17:35 | E : 5 | S : 7
well get together and then ask him to say it to your face. if he cant then he probably does love you, but if he does right off the bat. .then well just try to leave him. the things we most desire, are the things that destroy us the fastest

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