He is so selfish!

My husband is a big baby. When he doesn't get what he wants, he pouts. Right now he wants a new computer because he doesn't like to share. I can't even tell him how impractical that is because he'll just have a tantrum and sulk until he gets his new toy. Meanwhile, I hand wash all our clothes because we haven't bought a washer and dryer yet. I can't believe I'm married to a man who thinks it's okay for me to spend all day every day doing laundry by hand, but it's just awful that he doesn't have his own personal laptop. The last time he had his own computer he used it for internet porn. Of course I suspect that he wants to do that again. And naturally this is more important to him than something as frivolous as a washing machine.
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advice from Guest2693961 | 04-09-2008 00:14 | E : 0 | S : 0
Huni....you need to get some back bone and tell him. Dont be his doormat.

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advice from Guest2700544 | 04-09-2008 07:36 | E : 0 | S : 0
tell him no. say I'm not doin laundry til we get a washer n dryer.
the way he's actin is calld regression. he goes bak to a child like state. and lik any child you must clearly show him his tatrum is not tolorated.
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advice from Guest2635946 | 04-09-2008 12:43 | E : 0 | S : 0
does you husband work? If he does, he can buy all of it himself.
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advice from Guest1204697 | 04-09-2008 21:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
Honey, walk out the door and don't look back!!! Handwashing whilst hubby number 1 plays on the computer?? I don't think so!! Let him sulk, pass him a tissue, and see if he can wash his own clothes by hand through the tears!! Seriously if you can't stand up for yourself now when will you ever. I know its hard but you are totally in the right about this and your needs are just as important as his. He sounds like a spoilt baby
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advice from Guest2929706 | 04-10-2008 11:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
tell him that he can buy his laptop, and you are going to buy a washer and dryer. if you have to pawn all his things to pay for it, then that's the way it goes.
no, but seriously. if he can't be bothered to help you by saving for a washer and dryer, then why should you worry about whether his socks are clean? stop washing his clothes.
if you didn't have to spend twenty hours a week doing laundry, you could work longer hours and make more money.

this is really a much bigger problem than appliances and electronics. marriage is a partnership, both people have to work together to achieve what is best for them as a couple. your husband does not acknowledge that he has a responsibility to you. i honestly suggest you explain to him everything you've said here, even if it hurts his feelings or upsets him. you have to tell him and ask him to change. maybe he honestly doesn't realize that he's being selfish. if he refuses to make any changes, ask him to start couples' counseling.
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