Hoping for Love
QuickCode : shame
I am his friend with benefits, but I'm in love with him-he doesn't know. I keep this up hoping one day he'll love me and will want to be with me the way I do. But for now, I smell the pillows he laid on after he leaves and just cry.
Category Romance
Submitted 10-10-2007 04:20
Visited 1157 times. 80.00 Compelling Rating (rated 3 times) 98.00 Sincerity Rating (rated 5 times)
advice from Guest1160669 | 10-15-2007 23:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
im a guy. were in the same situation,,but its me who's hoping for love from her.
it sad and i understand it. just hold on but dont give in too much cuz if he leaves u, u cant do anything cuz technically - youre just friends.
it sucks being in this situation and youre the one who wants it the most. i know...
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advice from Guest1219000 | 10-23-2007 20:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
Not falling too hard is better said than done. Try your hardest to tell him. Maybe he feels the same. I just know waiting with no answer feels horribly.
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advice from Guest1480817 | 11-17-2007 23:04 | E : 1 | S : 1
I have a friend with benefits and i know she's in love with me. After reading this i wonder if it hurts her too...
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advice from Guest2109121 | 02-23-2008 19:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
im a girl, same thing happened except he fell for me. it hurts on this side too but, you cant force him to like you. He tried to force me to like him and it screwed up our friendship completely, distance yourself and find someone who likes you as much as you like them. be fair to yourself.
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advice from Guest2739925 | 03-23-2008 22:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
This guy doesn't care about you and doesn't respect you. You are in love with an idealized version of this person. He is a mystical creature to you. You need to demystify him. He's using you.
Men spend time with and pursue women they want to be with... If a man is not in love with you before you sleep with him, you will always be in the category of sex partner, not girlfriend/marriage material.
I'm not trying to be hard on you... just give you a reality check. Cut him off for yourself, not for any other reason. Find other interests... get involved with you!
If it's the fleeting attention he gives you, get to the bottom of why you are so needy that you will tolerate crumbs when you can have a full meal.
There are lots of good men out there who can and will express themselves.
Examine the qualities which you find so attractive in him, and cultivate them in yourself.
Satisfy yourself sexually...
The bottom line is, MEN DO WHAT THEY WANT. If he WANTED to be with you, HE WOULD be with you. he's no exception. There's no big secret when it comes to men. Go for the decent men who have an interest in YOU. Let yourself unfold to him slowly. and visa-versa. Anything fast and furious is cheap and will die quickly. If a guy will fall in love with you in a day or a week or a month, he'll fall for any number of women.
Take a break.
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advice from Guest2739925 | 03-23-2008 22:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
I've never posted advice on any topic, but I got this message:
"You have already offered advice on this topic. Your advice will need to be reviewed by a moderator before it can be viewed by others."
what's up with that?
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advice from Guest2807140 | 03-29-2008 18:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm not going to lie, I had the same situation. I ended up the one getting burned, and hurt, and now we aren't even friends anymore. Quite honestly, just keep being friends with him. It might save you some heartache in the long run.
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advice from Guest2894098 | 04-06-2008 19:33 | E : 0 | S : 0
Tell him how you feel. I know that's a scary thought, but not doing anything at all is just digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole. It's gonna hurt, especially if he doesnt feel the same way, but you cant stay in such a cold, dark place. It's unhealthy. Please do something for yourself.
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advice from Guest2910420 | 04-08-2008 09:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
Its easy for me to say to cut all ties with him......but it would prob be one of the hardest things for you to do...if he hasn't shown any interest in u as something other than his 'friend' u must take him out of your life. You are stopping yourself from meeting a good man who cares about you. In the long term its better for you.
REMEMBER: Yes you love him, but you should love yourself more
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