I think I am unlucky in love

I have had to major relationships and a string of "almosts", guys hit on me, we go out on dates sometimes we go all the way, not premeditated, just happens, sometimes not. But its always the same, I wind up alone and they never call me back...I am tired of dating the wrong guy. I have read almost every dating self help book out there. I just want someone to love me. And I am afraid it will never happen, I am afraid to end up bitter and alone, I am afraid i am unlucky where love is concerned
Category Romance

advice from Guest1318026 | 11-03-2007 15:30 | E : 1 | S : 0
Get to know someone before sleeping with them, especially if it's someone who you think is special. Don't put all the goods on the table, but reveal your information bit by bit (don't tell him your life story and dreams right away), to expose your layers bit by bit... It will keep the intrigue factor high when you sustain a sense of mystery at the beginning. Similarly, restrain your physical urges for a little... it's more likely to pay off, leaving you with something more meaningful and avoiding those days you wake up in self-loathing because you slept with someone to force feeling on them.
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advice from Guest1679650 | 12-07-2007 00:36 | E : 2 | S : 1
i think that you should just stop dating and looking for guys for a bit.
find out who you are as a woman and you'll know what you want in a man.
and more importantly who you want. but you can't just have sex with every guy that comes and expect to find love. let sex and relationships wait till you know who you are as a person.
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advice from Guest939461 | 09-16-2007 00:54 | E : 0 | S : 0
We all want love it's jus tyou have to realize that you need long term love... You keep giving in to short term connections, Wait for something meaningful. Good luck!
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advice from Guest1242608 | 10-25-2007 04:29 | E : 0 | S : 0
take life with one heartfelt step at a time.
you will find love.
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advice from Guest1333996 | 11-05-2007 04:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
know what you want in a man - qualities , quirks etc.
then wait for him to find you .. and i believe you'll know when he comes.

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advice from Guest1445935 | 11-14-2007 22:34 | E : 1 | S : 1
premeditated or not, by allowing it to happen you're reducing yourself to a role you don't really want to own. stop looking for the right guy, you'll find the right person by being yourself, living your life, and laughing out loud when you think something is funny. in this manner, a similar soul will attach itself to you and together you'll learn that very often friends can become much MUCH more. Good Luck!
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advice from Guest1492746 | 11-19-2007 02:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
Have you ever heard that the thing you want most will find you when your not looking for it. In your case, and probably everybody else's love is what we want. So stop looking, focus on you. Once you love yourself you can love someone else, and those dates gone wrong will start to stop. You will find love just remember that.
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advice from Guest1525826 | 11-22-2007 09:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have to stop looking for the perfect boy everytime you are with someone! Love comes with time, stop looking for it.
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advice from Guest1731382 | 12-11-2007 03:29 | E : 1 | S : 1
Internet dating is pretty safe these days, i reccomend [morderated: url removed] cause its free. ps never meet anyone without cam
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advice from Guest1897362 | 12-27-2007 02:27 | E : 2 | S : 2
I have exactly the same issues...As much as i hate men, i cant seem to live without them...I seem to always find my self rampaging with random men because they get me so down....I guess it's up to us to learn to be happy with being on our own, and not have that feeling of needing to be with someone...it's hard....Will we ever find our true love?? hmmm, I dont know, I know that i'd be happer alone than with some arse hole who treats me like shit for the rest of my life....

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advice from Guest2382655 | 02-19-2008 00:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
i have been through similar experiences. when i stopped pushing as hard as i could and stopped trying and praying and wishing everyday for love, when i stopped looking for it and all but gave up to move on with my life, it fell into my lap. and she fell in love with me first. but it wasnt until i was ready for it to happen. it was ready to happen when i realized i dont need others' love to love myself. or my life. and, i cannot love or be loved until i learn to love myself and my life. smile, you are beautiful, inside and out. it will find you when you least expect it. and when you are ready, you will know. there may be other things in your life that need fixing before you go treasure hunting for love. focus on you. and i dont mean things that you may think that guys find wrong with you; find things you like about yourself or things you might have been contemplating working on. and as far as the search goes, you may be looking in the wrong places. cause mine was right under my nose the entire time. (we worked together for almost a year before we got together. and she made the first move...) so keep your head up and your heart soft. you will not be bitter and alone unless you want to be or decide to be. never get bitter, its a waste of energy. use that energy for loving yourself. and someone out there loves you. it just may be that niether of you know it yet. DO NOT GIVE UP. and again, smile. =)
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advice from Guest2411186 | 02-20-2008 22:28 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm right there with you, except I'm a guy. I'm in my very early twenties, and I've had one girlfriend I can speak of. It's not even that I don't find friends that I get along with, because I'd consider myself a fairly socially active person, a great student, and I do tons of different things. It's just that with me personally, I think I'm not confident enough to be in a relationship, because I always feel like other people are judging me. In addition, I met this girl actually a few weeks before your post, and she was really cool... And I think she liked me a bit too, but I'm too intimidated to call her back. Maybe the people who aren't calling you back are too intimidated by your awesomeness too :)
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advice from Guest2749037 | 03-24-2008 23:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
stop looking and love yourself, the other will come
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advice from Guest2884085 | 04-05-2008 17:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
Please help me,
I met this guy through a friend,And have known him for about a year now,I have developed deep feelings for him.
Feelings which feel like 'love'
I asked him out right if he wanted to take our friendship any further One day.
He broke my heart by saying he has been hurt badly in the past by his ex in the past who cheated on him,and he doesnt want a relationship,But sees me more than a friend.
I feel that I am stuck on this guy and dont want anyone else.
But the wiered thing is we hardly spend much time together.
Is this normal?
what should i do help!!!!!!
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advice from Guest1407761 | 11-12-2007 00:46 | E : 0 | S : 2
if guys aren't working out have you ever thought about mabey someone of your gender? think about it
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