I Want My Dad Back!

My mum and dad split up when i wer young, An ive bin hearing things about my dad - like what hes done to my mum! and some of the things i know have happened are pretty bad!

But i cant help but love my dad so much! i know it hurts my mum cause he hurt her so much but i love him! and i know what he did was wrong and i hate him sooo much for that! but i cant help but miss him and want to see him all the time!

Hes moved to new-castle now - 400miles away from me and now hes married and is a step dad. Im happy hes happy but im so mad how unhappy hes made my mum - hes taken all her confidence and self pride and everything!

I feel so bad talking about my dad or wanting to be with him. I tell all my friends the bad things about him and pretend to hate him. but inside i really love him so much!

I love you dad! im so sorry i want to change my last name!
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advice from Guest898623 | 11-16-2007 13:49 | E : 1 | S : 0
Sweetheart, I don't know why your parents would burden you by telling you bad things about each other- that is not fair to split you in two like that. My parents divorced when I was too- and they always said such nasty things about each other to me. When I grew older I finally figured out neither one of them was innocent and they were both morons. I have had little to do with them since. There are always three sides to a story: his side, her side and the TRUTH. Don't be torn apart any longer. Love your dad- it's ok. Love your mom- it's ok. But realize parents are just human beings and they are capable of blowing it for themselves and their kids when they get caught up in finger pointing and blame.
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advice from Guest1151493 | 10-14-2007 15:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
I found out why my mom left my dad when I was 14. The things I did make me hate him. I feel guilty for loving him deep down, but I'm afraid I only love him becase I feel like I'm supposed to. I can never look at him the same as I did when I was younger and 5 years later I still wish I could scream at him and tell him I know everything, but I never will. I considered changing my name too, I still think about it. I'm not sure if this is advice or not but its nice to know someone feels the same way I do about my dad

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advice from Guest1284345 | 10-30-2007 07:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
my dad cheated on my mum when i was 14 and when she found out, he was not sorry for what he had done and made her move out, so that his new girlfriend could move in with him. me and my brothers were forced to move with mum into a 2 bedroom apartment. he ruined my life. that is why i hate my dad, but how can i hate someone who i'm supposed to love? i know how you feel, if that makes any difference.
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advice from Guest1368747 | 11-08-2007 14:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
This is normal. Even if your father hurt your mother, it is ok for you to love him. I watched my father beat my mother several times and put her in the hospital. She never left. He finally left her when I was 10.
Tell your friends. There is no need to lie. It doesn't make you weak - it makes you normal.
Reach out to your father. Down the road if he does not reciprocate you will know it was his fault and you at least tried and you can live your life with no regrets.


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advice from Guest1456210 | 11-15-2007 19:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
he left you...why would you want him back... im sorry but if he did want anything to dowith you, he would find you. think about it.
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advice from Guest3285745 | 11-17-2007 01:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
You know you can still love your dad, but hate what he did.
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advice from Guest1519605 | 11-21-2007 15:01 | E : 0 | S : 0
You can have my dad
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advice from Guest1974347 | 01-05-2008 04:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was much the same way. My parents told me all the bad things that the other did to them. It took ten years for me to get back in touch with him. I decided that he could call me next time and he never did. I found out later that he thought I was better off without him and that he was scared to call as much as I was scared to call him. We both thought that not knowing would be better then having the other hang up on us. I'm not saying that what your dad did was okay but eventually you'll be able to forgive him for what he made you go through. I never did forgive my dad for what he did to my mom because I didn't think that it was my place to do that. I would suggest trying to get past it, don't forget what happened just don't let it ruin YOUR life.
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advice from Guest2087421 | 01-16-2008 06:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
call him and learn the truth. i found out my father had an affair and thats why my parents broke up even it was about 7 years ago i only found about a year ago, i was really mad at him but never said anything and never told anyone (not even my brothers).he died a few months go and i'll never get to hear his side of the story, talk to him before its too late
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advice from Guest2253262 | 02-04-2008 02:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
I love my dad too! I always ignored everything anyone said. He's my dad.
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advice from Guest2268274 | 02-06-2008 04:40 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had the same problem with my dad. I thought that I hated him all my life. Some of the things he did were really messed up and I eventually stopped talking to him at all. I would tell people that I hated him and I didn't want anything to do with him.

He died in a car accident about 6 months ago.
EVERYTHING changed. I don't feel any of those things anymore. I regret not spending time with him and having a good relationship with him.

Try to forgive your dad for the things he has done before it is too late. Trust me, you don't want to deal with the guilt and regret if something were to happen to him. Try to build some type of relationship with him.
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advice from Guest1357123 | 11-07-2007 14:37 | E : 0 | S : 2
there is no point u writing this! Unless you do somthing about it! CHANGE YOUR NAME! Thats if u are old enough!

My dad has done exactually the same, Apary from my mum didnt let him hurt as much i think. They now both have partners and my mum is getting married!

I still get too see my dad... Dont u ?

But the only thing i suggest is do what u feel, Its not your falut whats happened too both of them! They wee happy and you got too see him, so what there un happy and u dont! Are u going too let there staus get in the way of seeing your dad! DONT LET IT!

PLEASE, i didnt see or talk too my dad for around 4 years! And he has missed the years of my life, which i actually needed a father figure! Dont make the same mistake!

Tomorrow! Do somthing about all of this! Sort things out! Arrange too meet him! Thats the only thing which will make things better!

P.s!

Who cares what your mates think, Either there accept it! Or they wont, I dont see why they wouldnt! Your be able too tell who is a good and bad freind from this 2 then, Killing 2 birds with one stone!

HOPE I HELP!

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