Im only 14

For the past 8 years of my life my mom has cheated on my 44 year old dad with a 61 year old CEO. She has also been bulimic and alchoholic ever since she was pregnant with me, and I'm afraid I am the cause of her unhappiness. All everyone says is it's going to be okay, but I can never look at her the same way again.
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advice from Guest2305064 | 02-10-2008 01:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
You are NOT the cause of her unhappiness. If she was bulimic and an alcoholic before you were even born, her problems were set before you even came into existance. a 14 year old such as yourself shouldnt have to deal with this crap. stay strong. keep pushing forward. i wish i could offer more, but that is all i can think to say...keep pushing forward...
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advice from Guest2308217 | 02-10-2008 08:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
Your mom's problems (and resulting unhappiness) have nothing to do with YOU and everything to do with HER.

You're old enough now that you've started to see your parents for the Real People (with Real Problems) they actually ARE.

Try to spend more time with people who care about you. You still have to go to school and learn all you can to be a successful adult one day even if your mom has problems. You can try to talk to her about getting some help for herself, but she's not likely to do that unless she really WANTS the help, so don't be disappointed if you can't get her to admit her problems and get help for them.

You can usually talk to a school counselor, too.

Good luck and hang in there, Dear...
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advice from Guest2409334 | 02-20-2008 16:50 | E : 0 | S : 0
Don't feel bad. My mom, a pill popper and other many unspeakable things also changed my opinion of her. I'm not here to tell you that everything is going to be okay but I just want to let you know that I hope things work out.
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advice from Guest2409813 | 02-20-2008 17:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
maybe you should try to talk to your mother
if that doesn't work tell your dad and get her some help
if you don't you just might loose your mother
god bless!
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advice from Guest1789369 | 03-01-2008 14:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
The other commects are correct, you cannot make someone unhappy. Thaye are choosing to feel unhappy and I doubt it has a lot to do with you. Sounds like a very secretive and unhappy marriage and your mother has a few psychological problems that need dealing with. Your best to tell your dad so you are not having to keep this secret from him which must be a burden. Then let the adults deal with it, its not your problem and never was. Dont let your mum burden you with her craop at such a young age and your dad deseves to know the truth, he also doesnt have to let your mum know that you told him.
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