Lover?

I always knew you were gay, I just wish you hadn't told me. Now I can't let you act like we're together with good conscious. And the sad thing is that even though you've told me that's the way it is for sure, I still wish I could change you back. And that's sick, and wrong, and goes against everything I believe in... But I adore you, and I can't help that... And now I don't know what to do.
Category Didn't Want To Know - But I Do

advice from Guest987936 | 09-20-2007 17:52 | E : 6 | S : 2
Better to have a best buddy than a partner that's living a lie
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advice from Guest1015987 | 09-24-2007 22:54 | E : 4 | S : 0
My now ex-husband told me he was gay when our only child was 5 weeks old. We had been married 10 years. I always had a feeling. I had even asked him many years prior, but he denied it. What hurt most was the fact he covered it up for so long even though I had asked him. It's a relief to be divorced and have a new love who has committed to loving me forever. The only problem, I can't fully trust him because I'm afraid he too is covering up a secret and once again I will be embarassed to discover I was terribly naive a second time. If he's gay, take your loss and move on, but don't take it personally. It wasn't you that turned him gay. Don't believe that for a minute. zooie
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advice from Guest1017082 | 09-25-2007 01:28 | E : 2 | S : 1
I know how you feel.
I'm in the same situation.
He's my first love.
After school we walked around the neighborhood and he told me everything.
Sometimes I wish he hadn't.
Since it'll never be the same.
How could i let myself get this deep?
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advice from Guest1044608 | 09-29-2007 02:06 | E : 1 | S : 0
Well, I had a boyfriend who never told me he was gay. We were best friends before we dated and we're still close now. To this day he has not said he is gay, but I don't know that he isn't. I wish you well.
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advice from Guest2113736 | 01-19-2008 03:12 | E : 1 | S : 0
You girls just don't get it, do you? Talking about how it will never be "the same" now that he's told you. Don't you realize the burden it is to carry this around? How you don't feel like you can breath because you feel like something's wrong with you for wanting to fall asleep with another guy and have breakfast together in the morning? Faking football, track, soccer, and baseball? We are the same after you know. Women always talk about how they wish men were more open, but it's a lie. When we show you what's really there, you can't handle it if it doesn't fit your perfect mold. Just once I wish someone would have seen how well I concealed it, given me a hug, and said, "Dude, it's okay."
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advice from Guest1084871 | 10-05-2007 04:27 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am in the same predicament. Thing is, I knew he was gay.He told me from the beginning. But we crossed the line. Now, I am desperately in love, but it cannot happen. I will always be worried if he is thinking of men. Thing is, his ex boyfriend spent 10 years worrying if he was thinking of women. It's funny. I think it's him. I think he just either doesn't know what he wants, or he is bisexual and playing both of us. But you must just let go.

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advice from Guest2335513 | 02-14-2008 11:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
nothing ever stays the same. you don't choose who you fall in love with. be supportive. if you adore them then TELL THEM! nothing will go anywhere if you stay quiet. and you don't want to look back and regret not saying anything years from now do you? talk to them. you cant change anything but you can be there for them. he needs you.
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advice from Guest952514 | 09-24-2007 09:46 | E : 0 | S : 1
Well. Have you talked to him about it?
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