molestation

I hate my mother. She stayed with my father after he molested me and now I have finally after 20 years tried to distance myself from them. They make me out to be the bad one and my sister sides with them. Am I insane for wanting them out of my life and my sister to support me and not them for once??
Category Betrayal

advice from Guest3257225 | 06-19-2007 07:21 | E : 4 | S : 0
I understand completely my step dad molested me since i was six, i finally said something at 9 and my mom took his side, finally when i was 14 it happened again and I threatened to kill him if he ever touched me again, it didn't stop and he was so big and strong i didn't think their was anything i could doOne night I saw him in my 5 year old half sisters room standing above her. The next night i left the house at 11 and made a bunch of noise (i knew they would wake up and be together to scream at me) so when they were both in the same room i told my mom again that it was either him or me and she told him to go to bed, i ran away that night with my little sister and told my mom I would go to CPS if he wasnt gone by morning. I came back the next day and he was still there. Sometimes, theres nothing you can do to get through to ignorant people. I am sorry for all that you went through.
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advice from Guest3134498 | 05-17-2007 10:30 | E : 3 | S : 0
stay away from them, they are toxic people and you do not need them in your life...also, if you haven't already done so, get professional help

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advice from Guest3228523 | 06-12-2007 07:01 | E : 3 | S : 0
That same thing happened to me -- except I was the sister. My mom stayed with her husband too, but my sister and I stuck together.

You are absolutely right. Some people would rather live in the dark where they are comfortable than in the light.

Don't let them pull you back in to their sickness. I'm so sorry after all you've been through that you have such little support from them, but your real family are the people who stick by you, not people who you are merely related to.

Depend on good friends and live with the confidence that you overcame this trial in your life. I admire your courage and love for them in spite of everything.

It's now time to think of yourself. Do what you need to do and don't allow them hurt you any longer.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 06-23-2007 04:28 | E : 2 | S : 0
No you are definietly not insane. It's easy for them to gang up on you, you're alone in this. They can band together. Just try and get on with your life and try not to obsess about the hurt. They'll come crawling back one day.
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advice from Guest2973592 | 05-04-2007 22:16 | E : 2 | S : 1
yes take it to court !

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advice from Guest3216525 | 06-09-2007 09:20 | E : 2 | S : 1
I thought i was reading something i wrote for a minute. My story is almost the same, except i was being molested by my moms boyfriend at the time. I eventually told her, she didnt believe me. And she married him. I was abused for years until he got caught cheating with another woman. I dont have a good relationship with my family. I dont talk to most of them. It hard to live a life that feels so alone. Your sister should support you. Mine doesnt.... and i think she should also. No, you are not insane.
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advice from Guest3318044 | 07-03-2007 00:11 | E : 1 | S : 0
No you are not insane but unfortunately sometimes its not possible to have a relationship with your immediate family as such you have to make a new family with your friends who can be just as good then blood family.
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advice from Guest3071023 | 05-04-2007 16:45 | E : 1 | S : 1
No! You need to take that to court or something, thats messed up.

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advice from Guest3144649 | 05-20-2007 00:02 | E : 0 | S : 0
No you are not insane. I would have distanced my self a long time ago though. Your sister is being a pooface about this. Why would she do that? I would ask her when she is by herself because it might have been because she was scared.
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advice from Guest3217792 | 06-09-2007 16:22 | E : 0 | S : 0
Listen- you are NOT insane. They definitely are toxic people and you need to completely stay away from them. Professional help is the only thing that is going to help you to understand how to deal with your situation. Just talking to someone can help you in ways you would never know unless you tried.
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advice from Guest3219322 | 06-10-2007 00:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
You are not insane, you are doing the right thing distancing yourself. Ask your sister by herself, why she is doing this. And demand an aplogoy from everyone. Get some professional help, and some legal advice. You are doing the right thing. And the other people are right, they are toxic people.
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advice from Guest3226319 | 06-11-2007 19:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
Maybe he's Molesting her too and she is too scared to talk and maybe he threaten her, so that she take his side. Talk to her when she's alone and try to gain her trust to see if she is scared.
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advice from Guest3607197 | 08-15-2007 14:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
WOW...I didnt realize there were others going through the same thing I did growing up...Only difference is...my mother died before I myself could be the bigger person and accept her faults and all so now I live with more guilt
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advice from Guest3653075 | 08-19-2007 17:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
of course your not! thats awful that they dont seem to understand or believe you
i hope that you dont let the way they act affect you, and i hope you feel better about eventually
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advice from Guest834726 | 08-30-2007 13:14 | E : 0 | S : 0
No, you're totally right. You dont need them.
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advice from Guest3213718 | 06-08-2007 13:17 | E : 1 | S : 3
I cut myself. I have a eating disorder. I am a alcoholic. I have a best friend I can't talk to about it because she is so absorbed in her problems she has no time for me.
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