My Best Friend does not trust me anymore

Ok is it was valentines day and i had a date with a girl. It turned into a group date of 6 with one more girl and 4 more guys. So two real couples and two loaners. They made the date horrible, and this was the one time that i thought i could connect with this girl. So then i left a bag at one of the friends homes for her to give to this girl. (they were sleeping over together)She calls me when she gets the flowers and stuff in the bag and tells me that she only wants to be friends. I hang up on her and feel bad for a little while till i text my friend who gave the girl the stuff in the bag and tell her I'm gay. i have been wanting to tell her for so long and this was the perfect time. the only thing is that we did it by text message on our phones and i told her to keep it a secret. So my best friend wonders what his girlfriend is saying to me. she promised not to tell. so then later that night i talk to him and he says the two people he can trust he can't anymore. so now because of this secret he wants to break up with her and me and her are trying to come up with a good secret to tell him so that we can just get this under control. i don't know if this is right but i am not ready to tell him that i am gay...so to save their relationship we have to do this.
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advice from Guest2335069 | 03-02-2007 19:54 | E : 1 | S : 1
Well her is what happened...later that weekend i told him because i cared more about their relationship them my self and he was cool with it. Because i thought that his girlfriend was mad that she could not keep a secret i made him say that he was sorry for not trusting her and what not in exchange for me telling him i was gay. But ever since that day they had been not getting a lot together so well and only 1 week after they broke up. It made me kind a mad cause i really did not want to tell him that i was gay (i just wanted it to be a secret between me and the girl. Then to save their relationship i give up my big secret. Now things have become weird to the point that i don't see him very much any more. The only good thing a bout this is that the girl is now my best friend and i am hers.
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advice from Guest2569962 | 03-14-2007 12:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
Wasn't this an episode of King of the Hill when Dale finds out the real reason his dad kissed his wife on their wedding day?
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advice from Guest2591615 | 03-16-2007 18:54 | E : 0 | S : 0
Well you did the right thing because relationships based on lies always fail.
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advice from Guest2675777 | 03-26-2007 07:48 | E : 0 | S : 0
Honestly, I think you should try to explain to him that you're gay. Why do you feel like you're not ready to share? Is it because you feel like he won't accept you, or that you're just not ready? If he's really your best friend, you should trust him with your secret & he should trust you with his girlfriend.
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advice from Guest2694437 | 03-28-2007 12:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
Sometimes the easiest way to come out is to be outed. Seriously. I came out when I was 16, and I will say it was the hardest decision I EVER made in my life...and that was 10 years ago. I was afraid of the aftermath. However...a friend made it easier for me. I trusted her, so I told her. I would say a week later, everyone knew. I don't hate her...I thank her.
I may have lost a lot of friends, but it sure showed me who my true friends were...and I gained better friends with time. Best Decision I ever made, was to come out to someone.
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advice from Guest2675906 | 03-26-2007 08:06 | E : 0 | S : 1
Stop being selfish... you can't be mad-you came out, it's over with. At least they are being supportive of you!
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advice from Guest2552840 | 03-13-2007 08:37 | E : 0 | S : 2
She should convert you. Its a win /win
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