my only 2 fears are intimacy and commitment

i want to fall in love with someone, but i'm very suspicious. i don't believe anyone could ever love me. If men show an interest in me, i think its because i'm busty and curvy. i believe every guy i'll ever go out with won't want anything past sex. i don't think any guys want to fall in love, just lust.
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advice from Guest1751086 | 01-02-2007 02:43 | E : 3 | S : 1
Women fall in love and then lust follows.
Men fall in lust and then love follows.

Some men will stop at lust and some women just straight to it. There are as many good men as good women and as many bad ones both ways too.

You can't judge an entire gender by a few members of it.
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advice from Guest2685226 | 03-27-2007 11:08 | E : 1 | S : 0
I used to have the same problem. I later realized that my own fear of intimacy was preventing others from getting close to me. I often leaned toward the sexual side of a relationship just to keep feelings aside. Then, I would be angry when the guy didn't show any "real" feelings.
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advice from Guest821011 | 11-19-2006 21:38 | E : 1 | S : 1
It is okay to be suspicious, but trust me that you are wrong in your generalization about men. Everyone - unless they have baggage to overcome - wants to fall in love.

You can't hold it against a man if they are attracted to you.

Lust and love can overlap and compliment each other too. Sometimes love can even intensify your lust.
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advice from Guest2504129 | 03-06-2007 21:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
i feel the same way...and when i try to steer them away from that and not give them sex, they leave me.
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advice from Guest2520922 | 03-08-2007 16:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
i dont think you want to fall in love that's why you don't allow yourself to go past sex!! I'm the same way but i embrace it! I'm independent and i dont need anyone!
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advice from Guest2552715 | 03-12-2007 13:38 | E : 0 | S : 0
At some level everyone is attracted to someone else based on 'something' - often their looks. It's up to each partner to decide how serious the admiration is, what common interests are shared, etc ... slow down on giving it up, be an adult, become sincere friends before you become a lover. Just my two cents ...
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advice from Guest2598710 | 03-17-2007 16:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have ran into the same men.. most women have, however you can learn from this and I promise.. you will appreciate the one that does not just lust you. You see, if we never met the bad ones, we could never appreciate the good ones. Just like rainy days make us appreciate the sun. If the rain never fell, we wouldn't even notice the sun :) Keep smiling!
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advice from Guest2654392 | 03-23-2007 16:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
I thought the same. I didn't see how a man could love me for me. I found one who does. All you can do is keep searching..you'll find him =]
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advice from Guest2710611 | 03-30-2007 06:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
im curvy... and im afraid too.. but i fall in love everytime .. and every time its a great experience which ends.. but the beautiful thing is that its an experience.. whats life without them?
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advice from Guest2724526 | 03-31-2007 22:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
You want a real guy don't go for a jock or a piece of crap. My friend has the same problem as you. She's drop dead gorgous and gets hit on like everyday but she wants a smart intelligent fella. I always tell her to hit on guys herself...and I guarantee that way she has her choice of what she'll get in a guy. Go for the overlooked fellas.
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advice from Guest2913068 | 04-18-2007 19:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
all men want sex but thats is not all men want if you want to find out if someone wats u then date them talk to them find out about them before u even think about getting seiouse

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advice from Guest2956925 | 04-22-2007 12:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
It might depend on a few things. First, most men DO approach women based off of looks at first hand. It's a natural law of attraction. Secondly, it depends on where you're looking for men. Don't expect to find love in the town pub with booze-filled degenerates. Most people tend to find love when they aren't even looking. Maybe you should simply stop looking.

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advice from Guest3069398 | 05-04-2007 10:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
Men are turned on by what they see. Women are turned on by what they hear. That's why most men are such a turn off because they've got nothing to say.

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advice from Guest3093286 | 05-07-2007 16:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
My mom used to say keep his belly full and his balls empty and you will have a great relationship, My parents have always been the Happiest people I know. I am in this great relationship and we will be married in the Fall! Good Luck!

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advice from Guest3121184 | 05-14-2007 03:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
You need to improve your self-esteem. People can fall in love with anybody! Cripples (emotional or physical), the hideously ugly -- literally anybody. Plenty of men have probably already fallen in love with you. And guys, if anything, are more romantic and prone to 'in-love-ness' than women are. Start by thinking positive about yourself, and think positive about others too. Good luck!

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advice from Guest1115861 | 10-09-2007 17:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
u are right
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advice from Guest1210254 | 11-20-2006 00:02 | E : 0 | S : 1
All guys arnt like that but honestly though i guy will fall inlove with the way you look im sure you done it plenty of times that you looked at the attraction first then you made the effort for him to get to notice you. the only way your find out what a guy is after by holding off sleeping with him till he prooves to you that your worthy i don't mean wait a lifetime but maybe a few months you hold out on what they want till you figure out you want and if thier the guy your looken for get to know them well people change from time to time so look out girl
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advice from Guest2731524 | 04-01-2007 19:52 | E : 0 | S : 1
HEY THATS EXACTLY THE WAY I FEEL I FEAR THAT THERE WILL BE NO MAN WHO CAN FALL IN LOVE. I KNOW NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME BUT ITS HARD FOR ME TO ACCEPT THE FACT THAT MEN COULD FALL IN LOVE.
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advice from Guest2416897 | 03-04-2007 23:27 | E : 0 | S : 2
Why are you complaining about the good things in your life? One day you will grow old, and wish you had this problem.

From what it sounds like you're young, and beautiful. You have guys fawning over you.

There are lots of people that probably feel like they are ugly, not you, you know you've got something the guys want.

If you want a guy that sees past that, then maybe you should try dating a guy you "don't feel that way" about. Give him a chance. Or you're just friends.

Last but not least don't be like this [moderated : sorry no external links]



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