My sexuality

For a long time now i have been looking at women..I dont know what to do. Am I Bi or what, sad thing is im afraid to try it with a women cause i wouldnt know where to start. I'm afraid that people will disown me if they found out i like women..I just need a few people to lead me in the right direction. It is killing me inside just thinking about it.
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advice from Guest1209547 | 11-19-2006 22:41 | E : 4 | S : 1
I know exactly what you're going through. Just recently I came out to my friends and famiy. I was afraid of how they would react but I knew if they loved me and cared about me, they would accept me. It is not easy but I felt sooo much better after I told them.
At first I was also unsure of whether or not I was a lesbian, bi, or just exploring. It takes time to figure out who you are, so don't feel rushed or pressured to be something you are not. I pretended to be straight for the longest time just to make the people around me happy but then realized I was only making myself unhappy.
Just remember things may get worse before they get better so stay true to yourself and don't give in to what others believe.
Good luck :)
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advice from Guest1209610 | 11-19-2006 22:32 | E : 2 | S : 0
First, no one can lead you in the right direction. That has to come from yourself, one day it'll just become obvious. People shouldnt disown you for liking women but unfortunately you might face discrimination from people that you care about which is all the more reason to be sure about what you want, so you can deal with the discrimination.

I'm sorry I cant be more helpful, just wait until the decision finds you, you probably already know, that's why it hurts so much. Good luck.
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advice from Guest1801906 | 01-05-2007 21:46 | E : 1 | S : 0
I agree - try to find a gay woman online who would just maybe talk on the phone with you, sit down, or even try to establish a trustworthy friendship with one online. If you have a best friend, try talking to him/her. Take your time in discovering the truth about yourself, don't be too hasty with your emotions; let real-life experience tell you whether or not it is for you. I'm not saying go and jump into bed with anyone, just listen to your gut and associate yourself with someone who will be able to sympathize with what you're going through.
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advice from Guest1389942 | 12-04-2006 13:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
all too oten we make decisions in life based primarily on what other people think.... for once in your life do what you want without regard for what others think. it's your life, not theirs.
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advice from Guest1702649 | 12-29-2006 00:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
come out. be happy. life is too short to be anything but what you are.
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advice from Guest1751086 | 01-02-2007 02:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
If you want to be with a woman and you're not in a relationship, try hooking up online with someone on one of the dating sites. Do what makes you happy and don't let society force its vision of right or wrong on you.
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advice from Guest2434045 | 02-26-2007 15:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
I came out eight years ago as bisexual and went through two years of agony finally coming out as a lesbian. I have been "married" to the most wonderful woman in the world for five years, and we own a business together and have a beautiful, wonderful life. My family has come to love and accept her. I know where you're at right now, and it's a tough place to be, but I just want you to know that a great life is possible for you either way. Just take your time figuring things out--maybe you can get online and meet some gay friends to help you in the meantime.
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advice from Guest2703671 | 03-29-2007 10:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
Ive already tried summut with a women but its my age, im only a teen and im just experimenting, if people disown you then they are nasty and dont take you for who you are. No matter what ur sexuality everyone should like you. i know how you feel, i dont want anyone to find out, dont worry just keep it a secret until you know the time is right. If you meet the woman/man of your dreams, thats great! i hopw ur happy wateva the result!! good luck babe xx
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advice from Guest3195777 | 06-02-2007 20:12 | E : 0 | S : 0
IM ACTUALLY THE SAME WAY AND I FEEL WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH
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advice from Guest2347241 | 02-16-2007 20:55 | E : 0 | S : 1
Im 17 and im lucky i get to grow up with people who (for the most part) have an open mind. I am bi and sorta open about it. Be open to your feelings. If you just ignore what your feeling you could end up destroying you life. My neighbors recently got a divorce because the Man was gay. He started to becoume attracted to guys in high school but his parents and friend disapproved of homosexuality so he just ignored it. After 13 years of marriage he realized he couldn't keep pretending. You have to be yourself. Its hard to admit that you may be bi. I know i was scared of rejection at first. But true friends wont dump you for being you. The first thing i did was tell some one i knew was open minded and wouldn't turn me away. talk it out with them. The best thing you can do is keep and open mind about yourself and others. don't box yourself in by labeling your self just go with you feelings. Some one could think there totally straight and one day find that they attracted to someone of the same sex. Just be yourself no matter who that is and true friends will love you just for that. Good luck and best wishes
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