My son is sick and I feel like dying

I just found out that my 12 year old has cancer, stage four. My whole world is crumbling and I feel like dying.

I don't know how to handle this.

He is my whole world. If he dies, I want to die, too.

But what about my 10 year old daughter?

I just hate this.
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advice from Guest2166743 | 01-25-2008 11:08 | E : 4 | S : 0
constant
we are all born naked and screaming as we come into this world, and we all share the common fate, death.
we all shall die

i have lost one close to me to cancer and two others have fought and won.
what i have gathered from it is life changing.

Life is a gift and so death is also a gift
i know these are hard times but they have a purpose, we are all water in the pond of life, every action is felt and effects everything else.

Take this time to appreciate the air you breathe, the land you walk on, the sun you live by.
Hold on to those positive things, believe in them, nourish them, and let them go
Because either way your situation comes out, positive or negative, life goes on and its the positive things, Positive people that keep life worth living

you can either be a positive ripple or a negative wave, you decide these things everyday.
with much love to you and your family

i don't even know you but
i love you, i love your son, i love the beautiful things in life, all you have to do is follow your light
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advice from Guest1017126 | 10-19-2007 21:35 | E : 3 | S : 0
I read this poem in the newspaper, and found it very touching...

"Cancer is so limited...

It cannot cripple love,
It cannot shatter hope,
It cannot corrode faith,
It cannot eat away peace,
It cannot destroy confidence,
It cannot kill friendship,
It cannot shut out memories,
It cannot silence courage,
It cannot invade the soul, I
t cannot reduce eternal life,
It cannot quench the Spirit."
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advice from Guest1108845 | 10-11-2007 21:31 | E : 1 | S : 0
You have to be strong.
If your daughter sees you in such a vulnerable position, who can she turn to for comfort?
It's your responsibility to be there for both your children whether you like it or not.
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advice from Guest1190515 | 10-19-2007 23:06 | E : 1 | S : 0
I'm so sorry. One of my really good friends died of Leukemia a few months back. It was really hard, but things do get better. I know it's not the same because she wasn't my child, but I still talk to her parents from time to time. They're doing much better, as are her three younger brothers.

My heart goes out to you. Be strong for your son, for your daughter, and for yourself.
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advice from Guest2054501 | 01-20-2008 19:15 | E : 1 | S : 0
You need to be there for your family... Especially if you have other children...i think you are strong and you can get through this... If you are religous..pray.. if not... just keep your head up.. I will pray for you...
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advice from Guest2224988 | 01-31-2008 16:10 | E : 1 | S : 0
see a therapist or psychiatrist, they will help. you should seek support from your 10 year old daughter to
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advice from Guest3271948 | 02-01-2008 08:11 | E : 1 | S : 0
Of course you feel this way. You are experiencing the threat of loss of the greatest magnitude. Your daughter may be experiencing emotions that she, due to her tender years, might not be able to process or understand. Are you addressing the issue off illness as a family? Are the lines of communication open? Or perhaps all your energies are being directed towards your son? You have two children, my dear, and your daughter is probably anguished aswell. After all, she is not only facing the loss of her brother, but by the sounds of things, her mother also. And therefore the loss of her family unit. She may be sad, angry, resentful, scared or confused. Any number of emotions. My advice to you is to seek some counselling for yourself, and perhaps some family grief sessions also. Sometimes it helps to get it all out in the open. The hospital would be able to put you in touch with a qualified social worker or psychologist. Good luck to you all.
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advice from Guest853722 | 10-11-2007 11:21 | E : 2 | S : 2
i do know how you feel, my son and daughter in law could not put the crack pipe down and i have custody of my grand kids and the girl is 9 and the boy is six and he is dying of duchenne muscular dystrophy,and every time i look at him i can't not stop thinking about how sick he is and it breaks my heart, but i have my grand daughter, and my husband and my dogs, and life goes on no matter how bad or how sad i am, and i take comfort knowing he will go be with my mother, i am so sorry about your son.
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advice from Guest1131476 | 10-11-2007 21:43 | E : 0 | S : 0
IM so sorry my heart goes out to you.
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advice from Guest1136492 | 10-12-2007 12:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
I have a friend that was in a terrible car accident. He was in a drug induced come for 3 months. And when he came out of it he wasn't the same. He spent a total of 7 months in the hospital. His mom thought she couldn't handel it either. But, when it comes to your kids you'll suprie yourself in how strong you'll become. I hope that helps

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advice from Guest2156577 | 01-23-2008 21:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
My 2 year old sister has an extremly rare chromosomal disoder called Palister Killian Syndrome and since it is so rare there have been no studies done on it and we have no idea how long she will live or if it will get worse. So i know how hard it is to deal w/ something like this. All you can do is take it day by day and cherish every moment you have together. My sympathy goes out to you and your family.
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advice from Guest2144893 | 01-25-2008 01:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
My thoughts and prayers go out to you. This is completely normal but try not to let it consume your energy...be strong and fight this thing!!! And while it may hurt try to focus on the time you have together, loving each other, and fighting this monster.


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advice from Guest1666466 | 01-25-2008 17:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am so sorry. I wish I could give you a hug.
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advice from Guest2187007 | 01-27-2008 10:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
My heart really does go out to u and i wish u and ur family the best! x
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advice from Guest2187840 | 01-27-2008 13:04 | E : 0 | S : 0
I wish your family the best. I'm praying for you as I type.
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advice from Guest2190503 | 01-27-2008 22:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
i think you should stay strong i had a friend die of cancer and i talk to him at night it is likee they are still there it has been six years and i still talk to him and another one of my freinds died of cancer and you get over it i know it hurts but you have to think about your future wut is going to happen to your 10 year old where is she going to end up if she loses you she will have nobody to turn to trust me i know i am 12 years old and it feels bad when you have nobody to turnn to i just want you to stay strong and think of what is best for you i love yew and send my bestest luck to you. XO
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advice from Guest2195310 | 01-28-2008 18:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
I saw a story today about how one of the boys that was a victim in the Columbine shootings. He was not killed, however he had a long recovery from brain/spinal cord damage. His younger sister is now a candidate for Mrs. America and she is working to raise money (and I think eventually wants to work with) people who are survivors of spinal and brain damage. The thing that I took from this story is: From every tradgedy, big or small, God changes hearts. We don't see the big picture today and why He has placed this struggle in your lives...but God sees and knows the purpose of your sons' struggle. He knows what wonderful things will come from this...what hearts will be changed and what role your son (and you) will play in this. Be strong and know this...I pray for you and your son. I have a 12 year old daughter...I wish you the best.
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advice from Guest2251776 | 02-03-2008 23:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
you have to stay strong for her
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advice from Guest2252197 | 02-04-2008 00:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am so sorry for your situation. I have 3 boys of my own, and I dont know how I would feel if I were loosing one of them. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please just keep your faith and know that God knows what he is doing..even if we dont. There is a plan out there for everyone and we have to believe that in the end, it will all be okay. My prayers are with you. Stay strong.
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advice from Guest2268274 | 02-06-2008 04:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Just remember that God has a plan for everyone and what is meant to be will happen. You have to stay strong for both of your kids as hard as it may be. Don't give up, there is always hope. Everyone has a time to go and if it is his time he will be with God and he won't be sick anymore. I will pray for you and your family and again, I'm very sorry.
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advice from Guest2294498 | 02-08-2008 20:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have to be strong! I pray for you, your son and daughter.
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advice from Guest2311367 | 02-10-2008 17:27 | E : 0 | S : 0
im extreamly srry but u have to be strong no matter how hard it is.... make him have the time of his life while he has it?? u have to be strong its ok for u to cry??!!
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advice from Guest2315937 | 02-11-2008 03:10 | E : 0 | S : 0
i am so sorry.
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advice from Guest2320482 | 02-11-2008 16:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
You can't show your son that you are weak about this.You got to stay strong and pull through yes its a terrible thing that's happen but to him you are his world and if he sees you hurting its going to affect him and your daughter.You got to pull through this for your son and daughter your daughter needs you also just try your hardest to stay strong.
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advice from Guest2331011 | 02-12-2008 19:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm so sorry- I will pray for you and your son.
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advice from Guest2438644 | 02-23-2008 18:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
You are beautiful and wonderful, and I hope that you find the strength to live for your son.
Please. He does not want to lose you, and neither does your daughter.
You can do this...I know you can. Millions of others go through it, too.
Please PLEASE PLEASE
buy the book "The Secret".
Please. I'm begging you. It could just save your son. It explains how the power of the mind can do anything, and i really really believe that it could save lives.
I am not an internet junkie or a wierdo...I am fiercely intelligent, and I see how this could help you. Please.
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advice from Guest2479333 | 02-27-2008 18:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
you are so strong do not give up i will be praying for you.
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advice from Guest1127535 | 10-11-2007 09:41 | E : 0 | S : 1
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My heart goes out to you...
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advice from Guest2146142 | 01-22-2008 08:52 | E : 0 | S : 2
It's going to be ok, just don't give up! Whatever you do, Don't give up! There is an 8 year old boy named tucker in my city. He has cancer too I think. The football team at my school has been named "Tuckers Team" We raise money for him and his family to pay his medical bills.

Just look on the bright side. Things will get better, trust me!
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advice from Guest1984548 | 01-25-2008 07:08 | E : 0 | S : 4
I know how you feel. I have nightmares about something happening to my son. I think I would want to die, too.
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