My Wife Cheats

My wife is cheating on me with at least two guys. One of them is a long time friend that went to college with her.

She is discrete but I know her and its obvious in how they interact. I just hired a detective to confirm my fears, not that I am going to do anything about it.

I havent been able to ejaculate or enjoy intercourse since Desert Storm.
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advice from Guest1215365 | 11-20-2006 10:50 | E : 6 | S : 0
Sex and intimacy are two distinct aspects of relationships. You say that you know that your wife is cheating on you and that she is discrete. Have you asked her? If you are not satisfied with the level of intimacy that your relationship lacks, then you should look to counseling and be more proactive within your relationship. Good luck!
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advice from Guest1223908 | 11-21-2006 03:06 | E : 4 | S : 1
If I was in that position I would tell her that I knew.
Show her the evidence, and tell her honestly how you feel about it.
Then you need to decide whether you're willing to let it slip because you love her or whether you're afraid of being alone.
Everyone is afraid of being alone to some extent, but you need to figure out whether staying is going to do more harm than good.
Last of all, if this long time friend is a mutal friend of sorts then maybe you also need to confront them about whats been going on, especially if they too have a partner, maybe the fact that someone has sprung them will be enough to make them both change their behaviour.
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advice from Guest1209032 | 11-19-2006 21:04 | E : 3 | S : 1
Maybe you should lay down the law and now let her walk all over you.
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advice from Guest1210770 | 11-20-2006 01:15 | E : 1 | S : 0
Have you found out for sure yet? I hope that maybe you are just being paranoid. Like myself I love to flirt but I would never cheat and I do hope that this is the case with your wife. If not then there maybe something is missing from your relationship and you have to find out what it is then she may stop. I wish you all the best in tackling this problem.xXx.
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advice from Guest1374487 | 12-03-2006 12:37 | E : 2 | S : 1
....leave the ___
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advice from Guest2770523 | 04-05-2007 16:48 | E : 1 | S : 0
Then why are you still with her? Leave her before you lose repsect for yourself.

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advice from Guest3574182 | 08-11-2007 07:49 | E : 1 | S : 0
You will get your manhood back just as soon as you start acting like a MAN again. You don't need a detective to tell you if she's cheating. A woman who loved you and cared about you properly would never give you the feeling like she was cheating. Go with your instincts and kick this bitch to the curb and don't look back. Life is way too short to waste time with someone who keeps your stressed out all the time. There are so many aspects of life you are missing out on right now because you are looking over her shoulder to see what dog is sniffing around. Cut her loose and move on.
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advice from Guest2354886 | 02-17-2007 19:44 | E : 1 | S : 1
talk to her, there's a reason she's cheating. if you're open about things, she might come back to you.
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advice from Guest2552766 | 03-12-2007 15:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
i have to say i know how you feel my dad and i new my mom was cheating she never told us but you could tell and if that cheat they will cheat againg .. i knwo how you feel that sadness ,madness,cant eat ,cant sleep ,and cant stop thinking about it .. things will only get worst untill you come foward with this and do something about my dad is now not together with my mom after 7 years and he has fonud the love of his life and i am so happy for him ... i want the same for you ... and i bet alot of other people want it for you also ...

-stay strong
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advice from Guest883589 | 09-10-2007 19:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
to some extent i understand your wife but surely there are other ways of satisfying her in bed..? if youre sure you would not let her go why not work on it
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advice from Guest1023194 | 11-01-2006 01:53 | E : 1 | S : 2
For a wife to cheat on her husband, it may have to do with her libido. Better put up a good show before she leaves you.
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advice from Guest1632954 | 12-23-2006 10:25 | E : 0 | S : 1
if your wife cheat on you more than once , than jut leave here she is not worth it and one day she might bring you some std,s .
once ur a cheater you always be a cheater
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advice from Guest1751086 | 01-01-2007 22:25 | E : 1 | S : 2
Once a cheat. Always a cheat. If you want to stay with her tell her you know she's cheating (after confirmation) and tell her you want an open relationship (you can freely sleep around too.) Otherwise get out while you can. Nothing but misery and heartache down that path.
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advice from Guest2427386 | 02-26-2007 01:13 | E : 0 | S : 1
if ur blood brother or sister cheats on u and u know .and it hurts u tell them u know and it hurts and ask in what way u can help correct d situation.she may tell u u ar esponsible ,she may admit she cant help it and she may wish u accept it til it naturally goes away or she might ask u to decide what next and she is ready for ur decision.but by all means accept jus like u break d law of god ,ur own laws including the law of ur covenant marriage are breakable.in other words accept it as a human challenge.subtly tell her u wil do a dna test 4 incoming kids so she will learn to protect herse;f whenever she goes on her frolic thereby prolonging ur health and ur future.some humans do need a change of ___ or ____.im sorry its d truth. [moderated : sorry you cannot leave your contact information here]
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advice from Guest2467128 | 03-02-2007 13:57 | E : 2 | S : 3
my parents are going through the same thing and i secretly have had sex with all of my step-moms boyfriends and i am only 14
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advice from Guest2743740 | 04-02-2007 23:30 | E : 0 | S : 1
:- this is horrible. im sorry the world sucks...
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advice from Guest1208717 | 11-19-2006 21:39 | E : 1 | S : 3
maybe she is cheating cause ur not giving it up.....not that thats gives her a reason but dont u want some too.....
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