No Sex

My partner and I haven't had sex in over a year....since the day we conceived my daughter who was born several months ago. This is his choice...not mine. I don't know what to do. Says he is just not into it...doesn't want any more babies, etc.
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advice from Guest1010044 | 09-24-2007 01:31 | E : 3 | S : 0
VIBRATORS ARE WONDERFUL THINGS satisfaction wise.. but you MAY want to check in a little bit and dig a bit deeper.. make sure he's "not into it" with anybody.. not just you
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advice from Guest2223435 | 02-05-2008 13:36 | E : 3 | S : 0
My (now ex-)husband began his disinterest in sex with me not long after we married, and stopped completely while I was pregnant. It never really got back underway. It might have had to do w/ me turning from sex goddess into a breeding cow...might have had to do w/ me gaining weight, or may have been that he was just asexual. I knew he wasn't cheating, and I only found evidence of his jacking off on a couple of occasions. Bizarre....but the truth is, if your man doesn't want to have sex w/ you.....get a man who does. Life is too short. Get to the bottom of this deal...either in counseling or just honest one-on-one communication. Try writing him a letter, letting him know how you feel, then maybe ask him to write you one back, letting you know what is going on with him. Maybe he is gay, and doesn't know it or want to admit it. I stayed in my marriage too long, and had a sordid and absurdly obscene affair w/ my husband's best friend which lasted for 5 years, and he never knew what was going on til after I left the marriage. I would hate for you to sink to that sort of low before you got some help.
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advice from Guest1010566 | 09-24-2007 02:57 | E : 2 | S : 1
I would be very concerned that he is having an affair.
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advice from Guest1576230 | 11-27-2007 15:22 | E : 1 | S : 0
Perhaps he's asexual (as in not interested in sex)... you never know. You just have to convey how you feel.

Just ask him if something is wrong. Be sincere and honest.
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advice from Guest1601634 | 11-30-2007 03:37 | E : 1 | S : 0
Did he witness the birth? I know it's kind of selfish and shovenistic, but A LOT of men, including myself, have issues with sex after witnessing so much come out of there...
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advice from Guest2224479 | 01-31-2008 15:07 | E : 1 | S : 0
That so sucks. Isn't it supposed to be the other way around?

Maybe it's time to let someone watch darling daughter and take him to a nice hotel (2nd honeymoon??) and show him some spice =P
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advice from Guest2708709 | 03-20-2008 19:49 | E : 1 | S : 0
sex is more than making babies in a relationship. it is sharing and wanting and caring. it is needing to be so close to the one you love that you become one with that person. get some good counciling for you and your husband. you deserve this closeness. it fills a basic human need to belong to someone else. all the best, lsh
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advice from Guest1799330 | 12-17-2007 13:42 | E : 0 | S : 0
he might have a girl on the side! scout him!
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advice from Guest1867972 | 12-23-2007 23:40 | E : 1 | S : 1
He also could be gay.

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advice from Guest2077195 | 01-15-2008 06:58 | E : 1 | S : 1
yeah, i think he might be gay or having an affair...1-800-CHEATERS!! just kidding...or whatever
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advice from Guest2708709 | 03-20-2008 20:16 | E : 0 | S : 0
sex is about more than having babies. it's abou tcloseness and caring and love. are you sure your partner still feels these feelings for you? if he does, he needs some counciling. love should be share and sex between two lovers is beautiful. lsh
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advice from Guest2939472 | 04-11-2008 16:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
A lot of men don't see their wife as a wife after they've given birth. They put their own mother on a pedastel...now that your one, how could he possible "go there." Elvis did it to Priscilla.....
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advice from Guest2983879 | 04-17-2008 18:04 | E : 0 | S : 0
Leave him...
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advice from Guest2995226 | 04-18-2008 18:40 | E : 0 | S : 0
Go rent a funny movie centering around sex to make yourself feel better.
Then ask him if he's gay.
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advice from Guest1893166 | 12-26-2007 15:13 | E : 0 | S : 1
He might be cheating on you... he is a male and sex is like food water and air....he has to have it.. so if he is not getting it from you.. my bet is hes getting it somewhere else

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advice from Guest2021520 | 01-09-2008 14:17 | E : 0 | S : 1
Give him oral. You need to kick start the passion sometimes. If this doesn't work then he may be gay. If it does work you still need to ask if he is cheating.
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advice from Guest2128847 | 01-20-2008 20:12 | E : 0 | S : 1
Either he is a cheater or he's jacking off to porn every day. A man needs sex, food and shelter. He is lying saying he's "not into it"
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advice from Guest3186838 | 01-22-2008 08:16 | E : 0 | S : 1
if he aint sleepin with u, he's sleepin wit someone.
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advice from Guest2708288 | 03-20-2008 18:12 | E : 0 | S : 1
he's cheating
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advice from Guest1141289 | 10-13-2007 03:27 | E : 1 | S : 3
He's screwing around on you, the pregnancy was just an excuse for him to not be with you.

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advice from Guest1837118 | 12-20-2007 16:37 | E : 2 | S : 4
Arrange for an overnight sitter (mom, sis, aunt, etc ...) for a nice 'date night.' Tell him you're taking him somewhere special - a once in a lifetime experience for him. Buy some condoms and take him to a nice strip club (maybe do a quick scouting trip some day/night), sit in the back (dark area) and sorta play with him through his pants. After a couple of drinks head home and let the party begin (have a nice push up bra and thong on all night with a skirt)- next AM, put on some lingerie, mount him. If you try all that and nothing ... then he's a homosexual and you need to terminate the marriage (possibly use fraud as basis for an annullment (sp?)).

Good luck!
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advice from Guest992124 | 09-23-2007 14:02 | E : 2 | S : 5
Having sex with life partner is the right . PL tell him about so many ways to prevent pregnancy. Tablets available even after having sexupto 72 hrs.Be pleasant with him and take him to a romantic place to change his mind. Do not pick up fight with him.Dress in an inviting manner to attract him. All the best.Fervent prayer will help. As U talk to ur friend U can talk with GOD.
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