No Sex Drive

I am not attracted to my husband and I have no desire to have sex with him. Sometimes I want to have sex, but the slight smell of him makes me turned off. It's not that he's stinky -- I just can't stand him. I am not cheating, but wish I had a better sex life.
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advice from Guest826105 | 08-29-2007 03:46 | E : 2 | S : 0
This makes me think that the real issue is your emotional relationship with your husband. Do you talk together? Does he know your feelings? Did something happen in the past that you can't get over? If you develop the emotional bonds between the two of you the physical relationship will grow as well.
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advice from Guest886884 | 09-07-2007 03:18 | E : 1 | S : 0
DID I write this? this just plain sucks. I'm sorry for you and me! I don't know what to do. Sorry
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advice from Guest896568 | 09-08-2007 07:46 | E : 1 | S : 0
Is what you hate about him what attacted you in the beginning?
What about you is different now?
Maybe if you innitiate what you want, you will get what you want.
Stop hiding out
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advice from Guest825394 | 08-29-2007 02:52 | E : 1 | S : 1
I was in the same place for 15 years. One night I finally broke, looked at him (in the middle of sex), started crying, and said, "I can never have sex with you again."

I left him a week later.

It has been about six months, and I've never been happier.

See a therapist.
Do what you need to do to be happy.
Life is too short to not have great sex.
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advice from Guest894587 | 09-08-2007 02:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
i have exactly the same problem. sometimes i don't know if i love him anymore or if i am just sticking around for our daughter. this is a terrible place to be.
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advice from Guest899605 | 09-08-2007 19:22 | E : 0 | S : 0
My sex life with my husband sucks too. I love him but hate him at the same time. We have 2 kids, so I will not leave him - I can't handle it on my own. Do you have kids? If not, leave him and be done. Even if you do, leave him if you feel you can do it.
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advice from Guest909043 | 09-10-2007 03:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had the same feelings, then I had an affair and I realized I didn't hate having sex with my husband. I hated where our relationship went. So i worked on our relationship and things are better. If the affair doesn't work, leave him.
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advice from Guest1557509 | 11-26-2007 01:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
Im in the same predictament. My man isnt handsome and his teeth are rotting away. I want to break up with him but he takes good care of me. I dont knwow hat to tell you girl. Someone needs to help me too.
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advice from Guest3616805 | 08-28-2007 16:38 | E : 1 | S : 2
You should consider divorce

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advice from Guest853722 | 09-08-2007 13:07 | E : 1 | S : 2
go to Dillard's and close your eyes and smell the samples of men's cologne until you fine one you like. My husband is diabetic and takes medication that makes him smell like a musty old man. He is good to me and makes GOOD money,did I mention he makes GOOD money. I spray Polo on the pillow case, have a glass of wine and close my eyes,he smells good and all that money in my wallet is still crisp and green.
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advice from Guest808582 | 08-27-2007 11:51 | E : 0 | S : 7
Have an affair
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