perpetual virgin

I am 22 years old, and have never touched another person. I have never held hands, never kissed, never fucked ... I am a virgin with a capital V. I hever never had the feelings or urges which seem to comsume so many others, and it makes me feel so very isolated. I lie about my wants and expirences because, at this point, it makes me strange and bizarre and I don't want to push away friends. At the same time, I have no close friends because I can never be perfectly honest with them. By this time, I feel like its too late, and I will never be normal or open with people again.

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advice from Guest3182983 | 05-30-2007 10:13 | E : 11 | S : 0
22 !!! You are so young, don't worry about what your friends and the media or celebrity whores and mimbos do, live YOUR life. I'm a man who waited till just after college before I accepted an invitation and guess what, she and I were eventually married. It's like flying a plane, you don't want to have a ton of partners that don't work out (crashes) but instead you want to share the ultimate expression of love with the ONE (flight). Soar high and keep the faith, don't feel pressured to do it - as for friends, there's tons of clubs and groups for everyone. Take care and God Bless.

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advice from Guest2876693 | 05-05-2007 23:57 | E : 7 | S : 0
A guy that I really cared about is 25 and he's a virgin. He cared about me to but because I wasnt a virgin he said there was no way that he could ever be with me.

I care about him so much that I wish I could introduce you to him, he really knows out a smile on someones face.

Good luck. Be patient you will find the one that sparks the fire. Dont rush it, you are like a rare jewel. Dare to be Different!

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advice from Guest2905546 | 04-18-2007 07:17 | E : 6 | S : 0
I know plenty of people your age who haven't done anything. Don't be ashamed of it, and don't let it hold you back.

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advice from Guest3394962 | 07-16-2007 21:12 | E : 4 | S : 1
Hey, I'm 23 going on 24 and I've never done anything either. It's ok...I had a friend who asked me one night at a club if I was still a virgin and I nodded yes and she was like "good, it's better that way" Her reaction made me feel awesome. Your virginity is a precious thing. Don't give it to someone for the sake of "fitting in." And, why is it any of your friends business anyway. Be yourself, and forget anyone who doesn't accept you.
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advice from Guest3461176 | 07-26-2007 17:08 | E : 3 | S : 0
Dont worry about it, seriously you shouldnt worry about what other people say. If they are really your friends then they would respect you and not make fun of you. The right guy will come along at the right time.
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advice from Guest2909495 | 04-18-2007 13:23 | E : 2 | S : 0
People use to call me a-sexual because I never dated or fulled around with anyone until I was almost 19. I didnt know how to explain to people that I just didnt have the want or need of being with anybody. I have been with one person and have dated occasionally. But honestly I prefer to be alone. So dont feel alone maybe you just havent found the right person or maybe your better off alone.

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advice from Guest3007453 | 04-27-2007 09:45 | E : 2 | S : 0
I feel the same way as you and am now 22 as well. Most of my friends are extremely open with their sexuality but I can't seem to open up.
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advice from Guest3212246 | 06-08-2007 03:43 | E : 2 | S : 0
I know how you feel. If you want to feel those feelings than find someone you want to be with, and slowly allow ourself to feel those feelings. I know how you feel, I've always pushed away those feelings too. Not until about a year ago, well into a relationship did I even allow myself to feel ANYTHING. I always felt (And personally, STILL feel) that the world is safest if you don't let yourself feel those things. If you don't let someone get so far under your skin that they make you feel those things, because then it's like they know your secret. They know how to break you. Once they're inside of you, it's like there's nothing left of you to discover, and they just move on to the next person. I still fear these feelings, and sometimes I think I'd be better off if I'd never even let myself love...
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advice from Guest3106916 | 05-10-2007 07:12 | E : 3 | S : 2
Be proud, and know that when you get married, you will be glad that you waited. I am getting marred soon, Ive screwed 20 people, and our honeymoon will be just like every night for us, because we've both been screwing for years. And I couldn't even wer a white dress at my wedding because I am not a virgin. I envy you, girl!

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advice from Guest1697450 | 12-08-2007 03:36 | E : 1 | S : 0
Ever studied sociology? You may enjoy it. You are completely normal and I'm sure very likeable. Get out and meet new people. If you are open, many people will appreciate who you are. There are lots of ways this is a great thing.
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advice from Guest3220196 | 06-10-2007 06:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
dont do anything u ar not ready for! bt maybe you shud make sum effort to hav sumone in ur life. it will make you happy! best of luck xx
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advice from Guest3347606 | 07-09-2007 02:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
Don't feel bad. I'm married and don't really like sex. Practice making yourself vulnerable to friendship, and if anything more is ment to happen it will. Trust me, there is nothing strange about your sex drive not always being in overdrive!
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advice from Guest3349743 | 07-09-2007 13:20 | E : 0 | S : 0
maybe you're a-sexual, it's nothing to be ashamed of. there are people who are the same and don't have anything urge or feelings towards the opposite or the same sex.
you could probably find an a-sexual support group online to talk to people going through the same thing.
=)
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advice from Guest3349743 | 07-09-2007 13:20 | E : 2 | S : 2
maybe you're a-sexual, it's nothing to be ashamed of. there are people who are the same and don't have anything urge or feelings towards the opposite or the same sex.
you could probably find an a-sexual support group online to talk to people going through the same thing.
=)
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advice from Guest3360645 | 07-11-2007 17:28 | E : 1 | S : 1
I was 22 before I finally had sex. I didn't do it for love or for anything else. I didn't even like the guy that much. I did it because I didn't want to be a virgin any more. Strangely, it turned my sex drive off. But I keep doing it I think to feel close to someone because I lost the ability to feel anything a long time ago. Don't worry about it. I know it seems crazy and like the whole world is passing you by, but when it's right, you'll know and it will be great. :) Good luck!
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advice from Guest3659168 | 08-20-2007 11:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
You still have something very special to give to your husband or the love of your life and you are ashamed of it? What's happening here? Am I missing anything?
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advice from Guest990800 | 09-21-2007 03:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
your amazing. i wish i was in your position
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advice from Guest1004560 | 09-23-2007 04:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
Don't feel strange or bizarre about this. It's perfectly normal for some people to be a-sexual with no drive or urges. But maybe it could also be avoidance of the emotional aspect or intimacy of these kinds of situations?
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advice from Guest1055290 | 09-30-2007 20:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm 21 ad have only been kissed onthe cheek. I know a lot of how you feel.
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advice from Guest1179931 | 10-18-2007 18:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
uh. if you personally don't care about sex. then why lie? why worry? friends aren't there just because they have similarities. its also because they understand each others differences and respect it. Be honest. be understanding and you'll be fine
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advice from Guest1868404 | 12-24-2007 00:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
who cares if everyone else has the feeligns right now u just got to find the right person to open up to and let loose

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advice from Guest1868656 | 12-24-2007 01:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
Don't feel bad. You're normal. It's not really fun to have urges that you don't have someone to satisfy. But it you want those urges than get a vibrator (or a cheap electric tooth brush if you feel weird buying a vibrator) and I'll bet you'll find your urges real fast
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advice from Guest2016489 | 01-09-2008 02:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
Be proud! I lost my virginity years later than most of my friends, and still wish I had waited longer.

I think its great that you aren't kissing or fucking people just to conform!
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advice from Guest2023767 | 01-09-2008 20:37 | E : 0 | S : 0
just watch the 40 year old virgin. i mean really, andy was a good guy and he was a virgin!
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advice from Guest2158247 | 01-24-2008 02:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
it is possible that you are a-sexual.
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advice from Guest2194207 | 01-28-2008 07:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
same age, same problem.
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advice from Guest2209585 | 01-30-2008 00:38 | E : 0 | S : 0
Look up asexuality on the internet. There are forums and help sites and communities of many people who feel the way you do. I hope you can learn to accept yourself soon.
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advice from Guest2150902 | 02-04-2008 00:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
i saw a news report about ppl that just dont have sexual urges, so ure not the only one, some ppl just dont care about sex,
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advice from Guest3052349 | 05-02-2007 11:45 | E : 2 | S : 3
Everybody has urges. You are just going to have to figure out what that is. Don't be ashamed about anything. "never fucked" statement show's alot of frustration over the topic. Are you sure that's not an urge?

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advice from Guest1001339 | 09-22-2007 18:28 | E : 0 | S : 1
if you don't have any sexual desires, you might be asexual, which is perfectly normal. Also if you're raised in a homophobic society you may be protecting yourself from your orientation... so look into it.
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advice from Guest3034796 | 04-30-2007 17:46 | E : 0 | S : 20
lol

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