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Pregnant by my Brother

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I'm in love with my brother, and we slept together. Now I think i'm Pregnant. I don't know how to tell my mother, and I haven't told my brother yet. He's 24 and i'm 19. I'm scared this will break our family apart and people will think i'm werid. I don't know what to do, or how I should bring this up, what should i do?

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Submitted 04-19-2007 11:16
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advice from Guest3320949 | 07-06-2007 20:35 | E : 7 | S : 2
you have to get some help. you should not be sleeping with your brother. it is not healthy & despite what has been said here it is not legal either. if you have the child & name the father, the authorities will take the baby from you. like i said you need to seek professional help quickly.
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advice from Guest3026013 | 04-29-2007 21:51 | E : 7 | S : 3
I am not going to condemn you because I think love is very special. You must tell your brother about this immediately. If he loves you, he will support you. I have no idea how you will explain it to your mother.

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advice from Guest1557658 | 11-25-2007 20:48 | E : 6 | S : 2
Do not get an abortion. Think about the child if you are pregnant.
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advice from Guest3052725 | 05-02-2007 12:49 | E : 3 | S : 1
i think the first thing you should do is make sure you are pregnant. If you are, then talk to him, before your mom. If you are not, i think u should talk to him about all that. and try to get into a solution...
Is him real Brother?

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advice from Guest3230479 | 06-12-2007 18:01 | E : 7 | S : 5
What in the hell is this world coming to? There's no other men in your village?
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advice from Guest3364497 | 07-26-2007 12:15 | E : 5 | S : 3
I can't comprehend how or why your heart led to your brother. I would give up my life to save my brother. But I would never sleep with him. I think you and your brother should get help. This is unhealthy. And the chances of you being pregnant by your brothers baby.. your baby will have health problems and how will you live yourself knowing that you had a choice to protect that from happening..? Instead you chose your hormones and your "love" for your brother. Your baby will suffer and your parents will never understand. I am speaking from the heart and I hope you understand that I mean well.
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advice from Guest892892 | 09-07-2007 21:03 | E : 3 | S : 1
First of all...The chances of the baby having birth defects are NOT 100%, but yeah they are fairly strong.S/he could be born healthy as well.If you want to keep the baby , keep it by all means, but disclosing to the world that s/he's your brother's child would scar the poor thing for life.So I'd say, talk to your brother about this .If you are close enough to have sex, you are certainly close enough to discuss this pregnancy for god's sake!
Personally I believe you should abort because who knows how much you will appreciate the decision to keep the baby later in life since s/he'll be a constant reminder of the relationship you had with your brother and it'll affect all your future relationships to come (even if no one else knows, YOU'LL know it inside)... You seriously are not planning to play wifey to your brother for life are you?
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advice from Guest3025811 | 04-29-2007 23:39 | E : 2 | S : 1
Life happens. The first thing you should is contact a planned parenthood. The will help understand you optiona.

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advice from Guest3043006 | 05-01-2007 12:20 | E : 7 | S : 6
What brought you to have sex with your brother? I am trying my very best to have an open mind here, but what the h___? Your baby may have some things VERY WRONG with it..I'm more worried for your baby...

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advice from Guest3120453 | 05-13-2007 23:23 | E : 5 | S : 4
I think it all depends. Abortion, if you don't want a baby. However, you should tell him. I can't tell you that he's NOT going to freak. Hell, yes, he will. And if you get an abortion, then you don't have to tell your mom.

But if you're pro-life, keep the baby. If people think you're weird, I say you shove it in their face and say, "So what?" That baby was a part of you and your brother. S/he has the same awesome loving genes.

Breaking families aren't bad. There are pros. I believe a family are people that cares and if that family breaks, there will definitely be people who do care. Those people are your family.

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advice from Guest3125551 | 05-15-2007 04:38 | E : 1 | S : 0
Nobody can tell you what to do, you must decide for yourself. My advice would be to deal with the pregnancy first, should you be bringing a child into the world under these circumstances? its not exactly a great start for it, the kindest thing would be to have an abortion and im against abortion usually. Second I think you need to tell your family what has been going on, the best way is to come right out and say it, your mother will be devastated but if she is anything like mine she will do all she can to help you, maybe with your familys help you can begin to understand why you shouldnt have a sexual relationship with your brother, also I dont think you should speak to him at all, you obviously both haven't got the sense to sort your problems out sensibly otherwise you wouldn't have this problem to face. Speak to your mother or another (female)family member before you ruin your life any more

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advice from Guest3429813 | 07-22-2007 02:30 | E : 2 | S : 1
Do what your heart tells you to do.
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advice from Guest1063388 | 10-03-2007 01:10 | E : 3 | S : 2
Well, find out, but I say don't get an abortion. It's really not the babys fault, don't kill it for your mistake.

I say love is love, and if you are too embarressed, lie and say it was someone else. But tell your brother the truth.
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advice from Guest3039505 | 05-01-2007 04:19 | E : 1 | S : 1
wow

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advice from Guest899883 | 09-08-2007 20:10 | E : 0 | S : 0
Do what you have to. But this will destroy your family. There are options to deal with pregnancy. Because the baby is your brothers it does not necassarily mean it will be genetically flawed, however he/she may show problems in their own children. Do you really want to have a baby this way?
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advice from Guest920404 | 09-12-2007 03:50 | E : 0 | S : 0
Chromosomes like a beep beep
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advice from Guest1007912 | 09-23-2007 18:42 | E : 7 | S : 7
step 1: find out if you're pregnant

step 2: if you are, get an abortion

step 3: don't ever f___ your brother again

step 4: don't ever tell anyone you f_____ your brother, it would just be better

step 5: move out of Indiana
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advice from Guest1395515 | 11-10-2007 18:15 | E : 2 | S : 2
Obviously, you have to decide on your own. My advice would be to have the baby, and possibly tell your brother. But don't tell your mom. Adoption is the best route. Although, your baby will have the same genes, so there might be so defects. I think you should put it up for the adoption and talk to a counselor.
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advice from Guest1785312 | 12-16-2007 03:43 | E : 0 | S : 0
Can anyone say Flowers in the Attic?
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advice from Guest2700707 | 03-19-2008 16:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
you should talk to a gyecologist about this. You and your brother are too closely related to have kids, your child could easily have something very wrong with it. I'm not for or against abortion but you should find out as much as you can about this child's chances of having a healthy and happy life.
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advice from Guest3031079 | 04-30-2007 10:37 | E : 4 | S : 5
How about 1st, see if you are pregnant, if you are indeed, I think it would be best to get an abortion PRONTO! This is something neither you or your brother should be doing. Please take this advise as best interest for the both of you. This relationship is something I KNOW your parents wouldn't approve of.

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advice from Guest3081742 | 05-05-2007 23:41 | E : 3 | S : 4
Nornally, i wouldn't say this, but given the chances that your baby has of being born wth deficiencies and also of being a social outcast, i think its best to have an abortion if indeed you are pregnant. And if you do have an abortion, for god's sake never tell him!! It might make your relationship really awkward from now on. Ok this might not seem like the best of advice but, on the basis of my 25 year-old brother's character, that's what i would do.
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advice from Guest2991743 | 04-30-2007 16:39 | E : 2 | S : 3
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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advice from Guest3106916 | 05-10-2007 06:58 | E : 1 | S : 2
Have an abortion, get some serious help, and NEVER NEVER NEVER let your mom know. Her life would never be the same. I know, because I'm a mother of a boy and a girl. I found out my kids were touching eachothe in the tub when they were tiny little kids, ad I cried about it. It's jut not right.

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advice from Guest3125551 | 05-15-2007 04:37 | E : 1 | S : 2
Nobody can tell you what to do, you must decide for yourself. My advice would be to deal with the pregnancy first, should you be bringing a child into the world under these circumstances? its not exactly a great start for it, the kindest thing would be to have an abortion and im against abortion usually. Second I think you need to tell your family what has been going on, the best way is to come right out and say it, your mother will be devastated but if she is anything like mine she will do all she can to help you, maybe with your familys help you can begin to understand why you shouldnt have a sexual relationship with your brother, also I dont think you should speak to him at all, you obviously both haven't got the sense to sort your problems out sensibly otherwise you wouldn't have this problem to face. Speak to your mother or another (female)family member before you ruin your life any more

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advice from Guest3243830 | 06-15-2007 14:57 | E : 1 | S : 2
to be honest, love comes to different people at different times and it just so happens you fell in love with someone society says you shouldn't fall in love with. This is the reason it isn't against the law to have a sexual relationship with a family member, because you cannot deny love, however the fact that the baby will have virtually identical chromosomes will mean that it'll be kinda f_____ up so on that basis for the kids sake, terminate, i honestly don't think you should tell your mother though cuz that may destroy your family. overall, love is love and no one can tell you otherwise.
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advice from Guest3286134 | 06-25-2007 22:35 | E : 2 | S : 3
DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!!!! Good luck though :D
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advice from Guest3286425 | 06-25-2007 23:23 | E : 1 | S : 2
I don't think you should have an abortion and you shouldn't tell your mother and father it is your brothers. Let your parents think that the child is by another boy and get there advice on what to do maybe put the child up for adoption.
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advice from Guest3644401 | 08-19-2007 23:56 | E : 1 | S : 2
If you have that baby, it will be mentally and physicly retarted. The gene pool is too similar which causes and inbalance in the baby's brain. I beg you to have an abortion and stop being insect. It is not healthy.
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advice from Guest890155 | 09-08-2007 00:53 | E : 0 | S : 1
abortion
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advice from Guest949241 | 09-17-2007 13:30 | E : 3 | S : 4
wow....umm. If you're impregnated by your brother...the best option would be abortion. Your fetus could have so many incredible genetic mutations that its no laughing matter. All judgement aside- a gene pool is meant to grow and change, but if you just keep combining the same chromosomes [your siblings are your closest genetic match btw...] then the baby can have mental and physical retardations. Down Syndrome....Hemophillia is a common disease cause by incest. Many royal families had it...

doubt your royal though. West Virginia anyone? But yea....as for this emotional attachment to your brother.... seek mental help. I'm very serious. Incest is litteraly ILLEGAL in the US. Your brother should be there to love and hold you in COMPLETELY different ways than he has. You should probably distance yourself from him...and spare mom the details too. Try and keep it in your pants on thanksgiving =)

abort the fetus. ditch the brother. Thats 5 star advice babe.
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advice from Guest3610216 | 11-20-2007 05:40 | E : 0 | S : 1
How bout I don't believe you.
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advice from Guest3028552 | 04-30-2007 05:07 | E : 0 | S : 2
abortion

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advice from Guest3030439 | 04-30-2007 09:20 | E : 2 | S : 4
Call Springer, at the very least the appearance fee will help defray the high costs associated with having a baby. You will all need counseling and for the sake of the child it'd probably be better if you put it up for adoption.

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advice from Guest1001339 | 09-22-2007 18:52 | E : 2 | S : 4
there is nothing morally wrong with any of that, but if he is your biological brother make sure the baby won't have any physical or mental problems...
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advice from Guest3030569 | 04-30-2007 09:27 | E : 0 | S : 3
don't sleep with your brother, take a morning after pill, and move on with your life.

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