Raped me

i was raped by a co-woker a few onths ago so i quit my job. He keeps trying to talk to me. I don't think he knows what he did. I told my ex cause i needed his help and then my best friend. Then one of my other friends who's a girl and then my other ex. Only 1 girl knows and the ones i trust most are guys. But they scare me when they try to wrestle with me. When i told my 2nd ex he flipped and wanted to know who it was but i wouldnt tell him so he said hed find out and beat the hell out of him and every1 i used to work with untill he founds them and idk wat to do cause I keep making excuses for the guy who did that to me. Its part of my nature to protect every1 i meet and he doesnt understand that so because i'm protecting him my ex thinks i'm lying and i dont think im feeling how i should feel... help
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advice from Guest1977331 | 02-21-2008 21:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
Your feelings are 100% normal. Every victim of sexual assault feels as though it is there fault at some point. You just have to remember that it's not your fault, and chances are, the jackass that did this to you knows exactly what he did. I was sexually assaulted about a year ago, and I was sure that the guy had no idea he did anything wrong. I blamed myself intirely. Afterwards he kept trying to talk to me, hug me, get me to go to things with him. I tried my best to ignore him though it was extremely difficult as we were students at the same school. Eight months later he fessed up to the whole thing. I was wrong; he knew exactly what he was doing that day.
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advice from Guest2423673 | 02-22-2008 22:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
NO1 EVER has the right 2 rape u!!!!!!! tell the co worker 2 stop contacting u and try 2 move on
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advice from Guest2433153 | 02-23-2008 01:37 | E : 0 | S : 0
talk to the police
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advice from Guest1789369 | 03-01-2008 17:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
Put yourself, your ex and friends out of their misery by going to the police and reporting the rapest before you boyfirend finds him first, these things usually come out and its a hell of a burden for you until it does. If he raped you, he can rape someone else, then how will you feel for letting him get away with it. That would be bad karma on you for putting someone else througha si milar fate because you wouldnt do anything about it. You dont have to win the rape case to teach the rapist a lesson and make him pay for what he has done. Why should you suffer alone? Then get yourself a lot of counselling before it ruins every relationship you have. Are you going to keep the rapist secret forever?
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advice from Guest2302442 | 03-03-2008 21:57 | E : 0 | S : 0
what!!?? why the heck are you protecting a guy who ruined your life?! it may be in your nature to protect people you meet, but who ever did this to you should not be considered human! if he's not going to jail, i don't see why your ex can't beat him up for you! :)
MEN CAN'T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF WOMEN JUST CAUSE THEY WANT TO!!!! (it's not fair to the women!)
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advice from Guest2893760 | 04-15-2008 03:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
the only way you can get some closure on this is to CONTACT THE POLICE and have him arrested, he WILL do the same if not already to others, help them by helping yourself. You can't protect everyone, especially a criminal like him. My heart goes out to you....
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