Sexless Affair
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I feel like I'm having a sexless affair. There is no kissing, no sexual activity at all. There is physicality; there is hugs, cuddles, tickling, backrubs. There is spending the night together, holding each other in bed all night. There is His Girlfriend.
I feel stuck as 'just friends', though I would be his in an instant. But I will not be 'the other woman'.
So here I am. In love with my best friend, who loves another woman. Providing physical comfort and emotional support whenever required. Tearing myself apart with guilt. Constantly repressing how I feel about him.
I can't go on like this, but I don't want to loose his friendship.
Category Romance
Submitted 09-29-2007 21:27
Visited 815 times. 70.00 Compelling Rating (rated 1 times) 90.00 Sincerity Rating (rated 1 times)
advice from Guest1077320 | 10-04-2007 05:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
I have been in a similar situation for 6 years. I have been hopelessly in love with a man who just doesn't want me. I used to make up a million different reasons for why he wasn't with me. It came down to me finally having to realize that he knew exactly how I felt. Guys know, they just play dumb and he's doing this to you consciously. That and if you were with him, would you want a man who doesnt think that cuddling with other women all night is cheating? I think it qualifies. I don't know you, but no girl deserves a guy who wont fight for them and it sound like this guy uses you when its convenient for him. Don't let anyone do that to you.
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advice from Guest1082744 | 10-04-2007 21:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
For a friend this man sure is using you, if he's allowed some physical contact to take place then you've both crossed a line and need to decide how best to proceed. good luck.
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advice from Guest1141289 | 10-13-2007 03:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
Either be the "other woman" or drop him and find a guy who'll appreciate you.
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advice from Guest1258638 | 10-27-2007 03:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
I told my boyfriend that he can also cheat emotionally too just to let him know what that was
you need to get out there and find someone else
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advice from Guest1330680 | 11-04-2007 21:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
I hate to tell you, but you aren't friends. You can never truly be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for. That's just the way it is. Tell this man you love him. If he isn't truly in love with this other girl than he may feel the same about you. There is no friendship to risk.
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