Sexual Harrassment

I really liked this guy. I was a freshman, he was a senior. Then he molested me and I stopped talking to him. Sometimes I miss him though. We had so many good times together before that happened. I really wish there would have been some type of closure too. I'd like to yell at him, slap him, tell him how much damage he caused. I have his number, but I'm not sure if I should call him.
Category Betrayal

advice from Guest3285745 | 12-31-2007 11:01 | E : 6 | S : 0
Anyone else who goes through something like this, here's my advice (I've lived this): don't talk to him. Make a police report. Talk to a counselor. Then send him a letter telling him everything you want to say, everything you want him to know. Going through something like this is always hard, but doing the things I listed above, it'll make it a lot easier. This isn't something that you'll get over quickly though. It took my 11 months. 3 months of denial, 4 months of anger, and 4 months of depression. Things do get better though.
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advice from Guest1984548 | 01-25-2008 07:30 | E : 3 | S : 0
i think the letter is the best idea. If you speak with him on the phone you may be put in the position of arguing with him. if you can lay it out in a letter he doesn't have the opportunity to deny your feelings.
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advice from Guest3285745 | 09-08-2007 21:41 | E : 2 | S : 1
You need to tell someone, possible the police. Also you may want to talk to a counselor for yourself, and if I were you, I wouldn't call him. I would stay away from him, far, far away.
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advice from Guest2225586 | 01-31-2008 18:03 | E : 1 | S : 0
Sounds like you need someone to hold your hand and walk with you to the campus security and report the CRIME to them. Date Rape is still RAPE - get the authorities involved or he'll be free to continue this behavior indefinitely.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 02-01-2008 08:33 | E : 1 | S : 0
Look at it from a legal angle and protect yourself. Seek police and legal advice before doing anything. consider a psychologist or couselling. Perhaps if you press charges, you can sue for expenses and damages.
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advice from Guest2128031 | 01-20-2008 18:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
Confront him over the phone. Do not get upset (you need to tell him how you feel, how he hurt you. It means more if you can do it without being emotional) Tell him about what he put you through, what he did to you, and then tell someone else. You have the power to stop him from molesting another person. You have the potential to be a hero.
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advice from Guest1977331 | 01-29-2008 17:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
You should press charges, don't let him get away with it.
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advice from Guest2372500 | 02-17-2008 20:28 | E : 0 | S : 0
I've been through that too. I'm a Freshman, he's a Junior. He molested me in the storage closet of our swimming pool. He took away my love for swimming. Here's my advice. DO NOT CALL HIM! Hear him will tear you apart. If you need to confront him, do it in a crowded place. Be strong, you'll get through it!
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advice from Guest2373286 | 02-17-2008 22:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
DON'T call him!!! There will b other men that you will have so much fun with that won't hurt you the way he did. You deserve better and you will find it!
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advice from Guest2379545 | 02-18-2008 17:33 | E : 0 | S : 1
you know what talk 2 him in preson gawwwsh he needs ta know whats what
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advice from Guest3386831 | 07-21-2007 13:43 | E : 0 | S : 3
Call him and say what you need to say. But be careful if you're going to be around him again.
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