Straight and narrow

At 12yr I lost my virginity to my 14yr friend who was my neighbor. I we f_____ for 3yrs without ever saying what we felt. just physical. He told me that sex with as man was wrong. So we stopped at 19. He was my first love. I always struggled with homosexuality. The church has saved me and put me on the right path. But it takes a little time learning to turn straight. I've almost made it, I now have feelings for a chick just don't know how to say it.
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advice from Guest3293649 | 07-15-2007 20:23 | E : 15 | S : 2
Oh my goodness. My dear, you cannot change who you are. If you've ever had feelings for a man, then there are good chances that you are a homosexual, or, perhaps, bi. I myself discovered I was a lesbian when I was 12, and I did my damndest to try and hide it, make myself straight, tell my whole class, "oh yes, that guy is SUPER hot, omg I think I'm in love!" etc. I pointed out attractive men to my best friend, and she giggled with me and said "I know!"

Then, I realized. The reason I never found love with a boy, was because I obviously was not meant to be with one. And I'll tell you what. The moment I came out and was honest with myself (and comfortable!), I found true love, and look where I am now. (if you could see me)

Please. Church can be a wonderful thing, but don't let it stifle who you really are. You sound like a good guy. But you can't "turn" straight. It is something you are born with. Is it easy? Absolutely not.

Good luck.
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advice from Guest3386831 | 07-15-2007 20:18 | E : 9 | S : 1
Hmm..I was where you were a few years ago. Good luck with that. I'll just say that it's one thing to have feelings, it's another to actually feel as intimate as you possibly could. I'm twenty one years old and finally able to say what I couldn't three years ago. I'm gay. And, you know what? I believe God still loves me. I just had to learn to love myself.
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advice from Guest908678 | 09-10-2007 03:03 | E : 5 | S : 1
God wouldn't have created you that way if he thought it was wrong. You can't help being attracted to the same sex, you didn't choose it, it's just you. God doesn't care if you love men or women, he just wants you to love. As long as you're a good person, you're not deliberately causing harm to other people, you're good. When you get to those pearly gates, they won't be asking whether you're gay.
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advice from Guest799547 | 08-26-2007 15:01 | E : 6 | S : 3
Homosexuality is not a disease that needs cured. If you are homosexual, that was the path God chose for you in the first place. That is my belief. You are not a sinner, and you should not have to change who you are. Love yourself and the people around you, and you are doing God's will.
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advice from Guest848654 | 09-01-2007 22:02 | E : 4 | S : 2
Don't try and change yourself.
I'm bi.
You'll be happier beiong who you are, not who you want to be.
People should love you for being you...

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advice from Guest909326 | 09-10-2007 04:57 | E : 2 | S : 1
go back to being gay
you can't stop who you are shining through
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advice from Guest927708 | 09-13-2007 04:07 | E : 2 | S : 1
i have like 2 gay guy friend who go to church and love the lord..
you should find people who support you ..not people who are trying to change you
thats just silly
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advice from Guest929630 | 09-13-2007 16:00 | E : 1 | S : 0
be an atheist, if not.
JUST BE WHO YOU ARE!
you can't change that, mister.
and plus if God loves you for you.
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advice from Guest952007 | 09-16-2007 15:40 | E : 1 | S : 0
Your problem isn't deciding you sexuality, it's telling the ones you care for how you feel. First loves are hard to get over but if you made it that far then your well on your way. My advice- don't combine sexuality with religion. religion is okay if someone is sick or if someone dies, but they don't need to decide if you are gay or straight. no one decides that. Not even you. Don't look at people as male or female, just look at them as people. Whoever you fall in love with, be honest and tell them. It may be hard, but they will appreciate hearing it.
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advice from Guest952007 | 09-16-2007 15:43 | E : 1 | S : 0
What do priest know about sex and romance..they are priest. as far as im concerned, they don't get to have sex. they don't get to have feelings for anyone but god. if they want to deprive themselves from love them so be it but they don't have to drag everyone down with them.
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advice from Guest793380 | 09-19-2007 00:56 | E : 1 | S : 0
I'm straight, but completely support homosexuality.
people are who they are, and shouldnt try to change it.
do whatever makes you happiest.
=]
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advice from Guest1032663 | 09-27-2007 06:37 | E : 3 | S : 2
jesus preached love and aceptance not persacution and discrimination. the bible was not written by god and i do not recall a camandment that says you should not be gay. you are who you are labels be damned. gay or straight. you are gods child and he loves you regardless who you love.
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advice from Guest1044608 | 09-29-2007 02:09 | E : 1 | S : 0
Please do not do that to yourself. Do not "try" to have feelings for a female. If you like males, then that's what you like. It's your life, no one elses.
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advice from Guest1055501 | 09-30-2007 20:34 | E : 1 | S : 0
Dammit, it's not a SIN, it's not a DISORDER, it's just WHO YOU ARE, and if you are gay, which it sounds as if you are, then you cannot 'fix' it! You do not NEED to fix it! If anyone has a problem with who you are, they are the ones who have something wrong with them that needs fixing. Good luck sweetie.
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advice from Guest2570713 | 07-13-2007 14:05 | E : 3 | S : 3
DO WHAT MAKE U HAPPY NOT EVERYONE DOES WHATS RIGHT AND FOLLOWS THE BIBLE TO THE T TRUST ME IF PRIEST CAN MOLEST LITTLE BOYS AND GIRLS AND GET FORGIVING IN THERE HEAD BEING GAY IS NOT WRONG BEING STRAIGHT ISNT WRONG WHAT WRONG IS THE PEOPLE WHO PASS JUDGEMENT ON OTHERS WHEN THE HIGHER POWER IS THE ONE WHO PASSING JUDGEMENT NOT ANYONE ELSE SO DO WHAT MAKES U HAPPY LIVE A HAPPY LIFE NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ONLY GET ONE DO IT YOUR WAY AND STOP LYING TO YOURSELF
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advice from Guest3192364 | 07-17-2007 18:07 | E : 3 | S : 3
Oh come on that's lame I have a bunch of friends who are gay / lesbian, I'm not religious but what if god wanted homosexuals? The pope does not know what god wants and should not have a right to go tell homosexual people that they're wrong and god doesn't want them love yourself your gay, you love men, so the world needs to get over it. Like I say I'm not religious but I hate anything that makes people conform and tells them they are wrong you are who you are and no one not even god has the right to judge you. and your church definitely has no right to judge you.
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advice from Guest1001339 | 09-22-2007 17:52 | E : 1 | S : 1
if you're gay, be gay and proud! lots of christians are gay/lesbian, and there's nothing wrong with it. Don't let people change who you are.
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advice from Guest1050274 | 09-30-2007 02:27 | E : 0 | S : 1
To the one that said God did not write the bible, if you must be technical, all those words were not written by Jesus Christ, which was the only way God could have written it as a human being..so being that God is a spirit, He had to use men to write it, and ..technically, you're wrong because the bible DOES say it was written by God. How can you make such a statement without having read the bible in the first place?
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advice from Guest2924860 | 04-10-2008 19:49 | E : 0 | S : 1
If you have feelings for her, tell her.
You were twelve and a fourteen year old manipulated you. It was wrong and it was sick.
It screwed with your emotions. People are saying you were gay, but I disagree.
I believe it's beacuse you were screwed over when you were little and you and that boy both hurt each other, you both knew it was wrong.
It was experimenting more than anything, it doesn't make you gay, at all. Your emotions were just toyed with.
Even if you were gay, gay people can always turn straight and vice versa. If you're getting feelings for this girl, then tell her, give it a chance.
It'll all be okay.
<3
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advice from Guest990800 | 09-21-2007 02:49 | E : 2 | S : 4
im proud of you! God does care and he will reward you for doing what is right. your a strong person
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advice from Guest1050274 | 09-30-2007 02:23 | E : 0 | S : 4
Since you're in church, I trust some of the nasty comments towards you wont effect you. I'm so very glad that you've realized the path you are to take. Keep pressing on, and above all else follow the Lord first.

As for the others that say homosexuality is okay, and God makes people that way, you're wrong. There is a reason the bible is the top selling book in the world. It's the WORD of GOD. If you profess that you know what God says, then you better be reading His word, because you're dead wrong thinking God would even tolerate homosexuality. My jaw has literally fell to the floor reading comments that even suggest God would choose someone to be that way when all over the bible, in plain black and white, you can read it's a terrible sin. Try checking out Romans, first chapter. And someone said "God loves you anyway"...that's right God loves you, but He hates your sin. But God loving you has nothing to do with if you're gonna make it to heaven or not. That you ought to be concerned about.
Acts 2:38
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advice from Guest854177 | 09-02-2007 19:01 | E : 3 | S : 8
You need to get back on the right track. Listen to God and rely on Him and He will get you through the tough times... I know He helped me through mine
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advice from Guest1030109 | 09-26-2007 22:40 | E : 0 | S : 6
Good for you.

I'm glad you have found God in your life.

Stay strong, you will be rewarded.
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advice from Guest1034383 | 09-27-2007 13:17 | E : 0 | S : 6
its absolutely normal. u'll turn straight naturally, in course of time. don't get worried and have self confidence. all the best for ur future.
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advice from Guest899944 | 09-08-2007 20:19 | E : 1 | S : 8
listen. im proud of you for choosing the right path. i struggled with ity and figured out why. it was a mental problem. growing up i never had a dad, i never had guy friends, i was longing for male companionship. so i ended up having crushes on ANY guy who gave me attention.

your not born . i advise to really look at your life and see why you feel that attraction towards men.

:)
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advice from Guest857260 | 09-03-2007 16:57 | E : 2 | S : 13
It is good that you are going back on the path to heterosexuality. Don't listen to these fools who say that people are born with homo/bisexuality and that you can't help it. It wouldn't be a sin if you couldn't help it or change it.
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advice from Guest918532 | 09-11-2007 21:29 | E : 0 | S : 12
What the hell were u thinking u were 12 my god sakes That's NASTy fool!!
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