Talking to the past

After dating my boyfriend for over a year, I told him something I never told anyone. I told him my child was the product of rape, but I kept my child without saying a word, to keep from judgement.

I recently found out that my boyfriend felt the need to tell his ex wife what happened when I got pregnant...

He betrayed me, my trust, and my love...

all for his ex wife to have something to talk trash on me for.

The conversation he and her had was recorded due to the custody battle they are going through... I snooped and heard her talking about me and what happened to me...

I don't know how to confront him,
I simply do not think I love him anymore because of this!
Category Betrayal

advice from Guest898623 | 11-26-2007 11:37 | E : 2 | S : 0
well, you can dump him NOW or you can wait for him to betray your trust 6 or more times before you figure it out. He obviously wants to keep his ex interested and intrigued or else he wouldn't care to share ANY information with her about ANYTHING. dump the d___
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advice from Guest2804512 | 03-29-2008 08:52 | E : 2 | S : 0
First, I commend you from the bottom of my heart for keeping your baby. You should not be ashamed of that, because you showed that no matter what, a child is a blessing and that takes a great deal of strength and courage. It's really awful that he broke your confidence, but if you don't tell him, then you can never experience forgiving him and healing in your own life. You can do it! Thank you for being such an inspiration to women every where of what it means to have true grace.
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advice from Guest3271948 | 02-01-2008 09:37 | E : 1 | S : 0
Best of luck to you, you know you are a srong, capable woman. Address this now or it will eat away at you forever.
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advice from Guest1642750 | 03-09-2008 19:20 | E : 1 | S : 0
I would honestly not keep him around I mean if he was willing to betray you for no reason imagine what we would do/say to the kid if he had a reason
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advice from Guest2610966 | 03-12-2008 10:13 | E : 2 | S : 1
You did something that most woman could not do and for that there should be no reason to judge you. All the things this other woman had to say could never hurt more then the actual event hurt. Your child will thank you for not killing him or her in the long run. Confront him and her let them know how hard it was to keep a child that was concived under horrible circumstances. Turn the other cheek! When you do they will be the ones to feel bad. Ibow down to you& your courage and strength.
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advice from Guest1548737 | 11-25-2007 23:19 | E : 0 | S : 0
you must tell him you know. you'll never be happy keeping silent.
i'm sorry for what happened to you and i think you're very brave to raise your baby despite the circumstances.
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advice from Guest1969248 | 01-04-2008 15:20 | E : 0 | S : 0
leave him. how dare he betray that confidence! and to his ex.
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advice from Guest2660327 | 03-16-2008 11:37 | E : 0 | S : 0
TELL HIM OFF! SAY TO HIM 'WHO DO U THINK U ARE! I TELL U MY BIGGEST SECRET AND U GO ND TELL YOUR EXWIFE!??!? IT WS A VEEYR DIFFICLT TIME FOR ME AND IT WASNT MY FAULT! SINCE YOU FEEL THAT TELLNG YOUR EX-WIFE PIVATE SECRETS (WHICH IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS) IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN OUR TRUST, THEN ITS OVER!'
thats exactl what i would say to show him that what he did was not right.
good luck!:)
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advice from Guest2580992 | 03-16-2008 23:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
Confront him. He had no right. On the other hand, there's nothing wrong with others knowing. It just makes you a stronger woman, because you can keep your head up and support your decision.
I think you're my hero.
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advice from Guest2712842 | 03-21-2008 04:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
Talk to him... ask why he did this. Really, get it cleared or get closure. You deserve clarity and a peace of mind.
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advice from Guest2866727 | 04-04-2008 04:32 | E : 0 | S : 0
Let him know that you know. Ask him why he did it. He might boy have realized that it was such a huge step for you and that you wouldn't want others to know. Perhaps he thought it was necessary for some strange reason? You'll never know unless you ask. If it is a true betrayal, then you'll know and be able to move on. I don't think anyone would judge you harshly or look down on you for raising a child conceived through rape. On the contrary, many find it admirable and would support you. Good luck!
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advice from Guest2940668 | 04-11-2008 19:54 | E : 0 | S : 0
lEAVE HIM. HE HAS NO HEART AND HE CANNOT BE TRUSTED.
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advice from Guest2976088 | 04-15-2008 22:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
At this point it would seem your best bet would be to not even speak to him again. Betraying a trust is like burning a bridge -- you just can't cross that same bridge again. You might want to write him a letter explaining that you just could never trust him again. First time, shame on him. Next time, shame on you.
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