Teachers

I think the feelings I have for and the relationships I have with my teachers probably aren't normal or entirely healthy.
I think because of the way my parents brought me up I just look to my teachers instead for support and guidance and rolemodels.
Then that gets all confused and murky and twisted.
I wish I could be attracted to people of my own age but to be honest they scare me.
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advice from Guest1097657 | 10-07-2007 03:30 | E : 1 | S : 0
I used to look at my teachers the same way. Maybe I wish I still did look to them that way, but I guess now I am too jaded. Honestly, most teachers probably won't understand, but you can still go to them for guidance. If you don't cross too many boundaries then I bet a bunch will understand that you latch on because you're missing adult approval/support in other areas. I think you are also alluding to an attraction to them (if not then ignore this part). Just keep in mind that these teachers, while they may be less intimidating than your peers, are less frightening because they DO have a buffer. They are not people you feel the need to impress, so they seem like constant, safe sources with whom to deal. However, in time you will probably realize that because they are not your peers you can only have certain relationships with them without getting into strange circumstances. Trust me when I say that you should keep in mind that these feeling WILL pass.

Good Luck.
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advice from Guest1969258 | 01-04-2008 14:48 | E : 1 | S : 0
That's a tough one. I think you should focus on your studies and not even think of getting into a relationship until you're out of school. Along the way you may meet someone in a non-scholastic environment; in the meantime stay away from any potentially inappropriate relationshiop with a teacher or coach.
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advice from Guest1213220 | 10-23-2007 00:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
I feel that way too!!! It's weird. It's not something to be embarassed about, but it is quite strange. Don't worry, you're not alone. Teachers can more supportive than parents, and sometimes, they are!!! I feel my teachers have helped me 100% more than my parents have. I'm not a big fan of my parents, but I love my teachers.

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advice from Guest1823810 | 12-19-2007 09:23 | E : 0 | S : 0
Honey...don't worry!
I fell in love with most of my female teachers! And I am a girl! My first love was my guidance counselor!
You're perfectly normal!!!
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advice from Guest2893127 | 04-07-2008 03:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
I feel the same way. My older sister blames me for all our problems. my grandma denies it all. my aunty says its all untrue. my dad just goes on with his work. I don't know what to do anymore I just want to get out of living this life, theres nothing more I can do. I went to the police and theres not enough evidence so I`m suck writing this from a locked bathroom door. my mother just tells me to stop drinking, but thats all I can do is drink my problems away because she doesn`t want to listen to our problems. when I went to the cops my older sister told me she would give a statement of what our uncle did to us. After that wasn`t enough evidence she told me it was my fault. I just don`t know what to do anymore with know one to talk to. every time we drink she turns on me. I can`t tell my boyfriend because it`s too much information and its all too personal since we haven`t been together too long.
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