The computer is my best friend

I stay online almost every minute I can. I go on website and sit and look up stuff I thought about throughout the day. I ignore my husband and kids to surf the web and make excuses that I am working on a business project to justify my hours on myspace and aol email. This explains why I am now typing my secrets onto a webpage instead of communicating with the man I married.
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advice from Guest1241060 | 10-25-2007 00:30 | E : 1 | S : 0
I am the child of a mother who does such things, maybe not with just the computer but many other things. I can tell you now it kills more than you will even know and I don't know why you would ever want to do that to your children.
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advice from Guest1251968 | 10-26-2007 09:10 | E : 1 | S : 0
I share your tendency.

Refreshing the same pages over and over again just to get a tidbit of something new? I've been there. The problem with the internet is that it has nearly everything you could reasonably ask for: music, movies, games, information, communication, news, etc. It's easy to get lost in it.

My advice to you is to set limits for yourself. As morbid as this sounds, try to make yourself feel upset and guilty when you spend too much time on here. The internet is a very happening place, meaning there's always something going on here or there. You gotta dig deep and pry yourself away from it. I wish I knew exactly how to sometimes. Sorry that your family life is crippling...I'm only 20 myself, so your situation is of an importance I don't fully understand.
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advice from Guest1288088 | 10-30-2007 18:52 | E : 0 | S : 0
me too....i do it because Im not fulfilled and happy with my life..its an easy escape...AKA: a cop out

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advice from Guest1291177 | 10-31-2007 03:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
Internet can be an addiction. An escape from reality that you may find unsatisfying. Just setting limits for time on the computer may not work. My advice would be to examine what it is about your life you feel unsatisfied with and try and change THAT ... then you'll be much happier to live your life and won't need to escape as often.

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advice from Guest1311155 | 11-02-2007 17:22 | E : 0 | S : 0
I've been there and can relate. What has helped me is to dig deeper - find out what gap was in my life making me look for something - some connection - online. Online is easy to find anything you are looking for -- but is it real? Probably not as real as what you have, or could have in your own life. Life lacks intimacy and close relationship? Easy to find others to have close relationships and intimate conversations with online . . . but no where near as nice as the friend that you have a deep and meaningful with over coffee in real life. Next time you're online having a hard time pulling away . . .open an emtpy word doc instead and try journaling about what you're feeling . . the anxiety or whatever it is. That 'something' that you get from being online. Instead have that time on your own journaling and trying to get in touch with the feelings you have inside . ..that you're probably trying to mask w/your online excitement and activity.

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advice from Guest1153884 | 11-03-2007 00:36 | E : 0 | S : 0
wow, I can totally relate to this.. The one thing that worries me is that maybe you are looking for something that you can't have with your husband.

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advice from Guest1390258 | 11-10-2007 22:24 | E : 0 | S : 0
I am the same way....its an escape from reality.
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advice from Guest1399901 | 11-11-2007 03:54 | E : 0 | S : 0
you and him need to take a vacation somewhere w/out your kids and most importantly w/out internet and reconect with him. Him and your family will become your internet ad then spending time with the people you love you will become truly happy
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advice from Guest1419250 | 11-18-2007 01:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
I can relate.

I use the internet as escape from my problems.
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advice from Guest1144677 | 10-13-2007 21:33 | E : 0 | S : 1
Well maybe you should wake up and see how important your marriage really is. I loved computer games, but because how much I neglected my duties around the house and not serving my wife, I gave them all up. Family is next to god in the most important pursuit in life. Don't take them for granted. Be a part of your kids lives. They so desparatley need it in a world like this.

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