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I gave my bf a hand job because he was pressuring me to do it. I lied and said i was ok with it. Then he pressured me to left him finger me. He kept up pressuring me to the point where i felt he wouldnt feel like I loved him if he didnt get what he wanted. Now he fingers me and and even now finger bangs me. I'm worried he's sexually abusing me. but then its my fault because i lied and said i was fine with it.
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advice from Guest3285745 | 12-22-2007 15:30 | E : 1 | S : 0
pressuring you isn't a nice thing to do obviously, but I'm not sure you can call it abuse since you told him you were ok with it. It's never too late to tell him you're not ok with it though

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advice from Guest2798297 | 03-28-2008 15:46 | E : 1 | S : 0
eventually you need to say no it's your body if he doesn't like it than tough. Dont put yourself in a situation where you feel used and abused just to please him.
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advice from Guest1817188 | 12-18-2007 18:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
its not a matter of you feeling bad thinking you're making him feel unloved its a matter of him loving you enough to be ok with what you do and dont want to do and him being able to know that even though ur uncomfortable with it has nothing to do with how you really for him. this happened to me twice-ish they were different circumstances for my two boyfriends so for one i just told him straight up i didnt want to because morally i couldnt and we were that close it was fine because i had been like bff before anything but my other one i aske dhim to do something so outrageous that even though i mustve sounded like a freak i told him he wasnt getting his until got what i asked for lol. I don't want to say he's using you but if thats the case eiher way its always better to say whats on your mind or else your portraying how he wants you to be instead of how you are...
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advice from Guest1886024 | 12-25-2007 19:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
I think you just need to tell him if you haven't done so already, because things could lead to more things that you don't necessarily want to do. Just be honest and if he really loves you then he won't think a lot of it. There's other ways of entertainment so try to go out or something.

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advice from Guest2378095 | 02-18-2008 14:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
my advice to u wud be.. to tell him straight away about how u feel.if he says ok..we wont do dat nymore..den hes the right kinda boy for u but if he pressures u into changing ur mind & makes u feel guilty in believin u shud r watever den hes not the right boy dat u shud be wit.if he really cared bout u,he wudnt want u to do things u didnt feel comfortable doing.U shud rely tell him soon otherwise its just gona get worse nd lead to him tryin to get u to hav sex wit him and dats not right if u dont feel ready!
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advice from Guest1560226 | 02-22-2008 03:07 | E : 2 | S : 2
You need to tell him that you don't like it.
He IS sexually abusing you and it needs to stop.
You're better than this.
If he doesn't stop than you need to stop seeing him.
First it's handjobs, then fingering - what's next? orgies, blowjobs and unwanted sex? that's rape
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