Two guys, one me.......
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Hi, Im a soon to be 19 yr old uni student. I have had a crush on a guy for about 4 years, we were best friends and once-upon-a-time we were even dating.... If you envision a guy that can have any girl he wants, and usually does, thats him. he went off to join the army in july 06 and its changed him for the better, he has morals and a modicum of integrity now. While away (around october)at training camp he confessed (via text message) that he loved me. I told him I felt the same way and then the subject somehow got dropped.. a few days later he called me and we talked about ordinary stuff and then at the end he said "bye... I love you". I replyed "I love you to" and we both hung up. He came back for Christmas and we spend a bit of time together but never got any further than a light kiss.
Hes back at the training camp now but he asked me out a week or so ago and I said yes.
My problem is that I have another friend(who I've known since I was 7), who lives on the other side of the country near my grandparents. And for the past year we've been emailing each other. Sometimes up to 5000 words per email (yeah, weird I know). Ive always had a minor crush on this guy and now I its growing into something much more. He's a 'better' guy (meaning hes deeper and has stronger principles etc) than my boyfriend and I know that I would be happy with him. Unfortunately I dont know if he likes me back and its driving me crazy because I know I want to spend the rest of my life with one of these guys.
Im still a virgin and I want to stay that way for 'the one'. And while I KNOW that it is one of these two men, I do not know which...
My boyfriend comes back in three months and I'm pretty sure he'll want to get involved sextually, hes not used to dating virgins if you know what I mean.... I want to as well, but what if he isnt 'the one' and that title belongs to my other friend? If I tell him I want to wait (which I dont) He'll think I dont care about him as much, and I might loose him.
Please help. How do I choose?
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SHORT VERSION
I am in love with two guys: my boyfriend, and my childhood friend. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with one of these guys, but I dont know which one.
I am still a virgin and I want to stay that way for 'the one'. But my boyfriend comes back from army camp in three months and he will (most likely) want to get involved sextually. I want to as well, but what if he isnt 'the one' and that title belongs to my other friend? If I tell him I want to wait (which I dont) He'll think I dont care about him as much, and I might loose him. I dont even know if my childhood friend returns my feelings (though I do know he had a crush on me till he was at least 14).
Please help. How do I know which guy I should choose?
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Thanx
P.S I dont know if this is supposed to be posted adult or what so I have anyway just in case.
Category Disappointed
Submitted 02-08-2007 21:37
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advice from Guest2360424 | 02-18-2007 13:14 | E : 1 | S : 0
find out how your childhood friend feels cos if he doesnt feel the same way about you - problem solved
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advice from Guest2535264 | 03-23-2007 12:46 | E : 1 | S : 0
dont sleep with your boyfriend for fear of losing him, if he loves you he'll wait. And i know you said you dont want to wait, but surely if you want to keep your virginity for 'the one' you should wait at least until you sure about which guy you want to be with.
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advice from Guest2324121 | 02-16-2007 13:34 | E : 0 | S : 0
you say that you want to wait for "the one", but then you go on to say that you want to loose your virginity to your boyfriend ["If I tell him I want to wait (which I dont)...."]. if you realy do feel in your heart that you want to sleep with your boyfriend then you should trust your instincts. so what if the guy you're emailing is "better for you"?, this doesnt nessisarly mean hes "the one" maybe hes the person you should be with for stability and so on, but you realy seem to love your boyfriend so maybe hes who you want to be with. if i was in your shoes id go for the one i want to be with rather than the one i should be with. it seems to me you already know which guy is "the one"
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advice from Guest2354886 | 02-17-2007 19:41 | E : 0 | S : 0
well, i think that you should stay with your boyfriend and see where that takes you. be really honest with him about your morals, and keep being friends with your childhood friend. if things dont work out with your boyfriend, i'm sure he'll be there to help you pick yourself back up again
good luck
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advice from Guest3030563 | 04-30-2007 10:01 | E : 0 | S : 0
Don't just go loseing your virginity because he is not used to dating virgins. If he waits, then it's fine. If you give it up to him just because you want him to think better of you, don't do it.
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